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How do you actually cope with having no genuine friends or relationships your life?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2021 at 2:56am
How do you actually cope with having no genuine friends or relationships your life?
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May 7th, 2015 6:19pm
It may be hard, but try and start focusing more time on yourself. Doing things you like and make you happy. By doing this you will learn how to love yourself and realize that you really are the only person you need. You'll hopefully realize that you deserve the best, which will help you know who in your life is worth having a relationship/friendship with or not. And if there not genuine people, who needs them anyways!
March 6th, 2018 8:05am
I have been struggling with this personally recently and it really can be very painful. Especially since I am in my 20's and thats the age where all your old friends seems to vanish. This has been happening to me a great deal recently and I was confronted with the challenge of being OK with not having a partner or a bunch of great friends. Obviously it hurt a little because I am young and crave that socialization, and when it's not happening it can literally feel worse then physical pain. So to cope with this, I found that embracing the loneliness and accepting it for the moment helps a lot. Also positive thoughts and energy really will change your circumstance greatly. Appreciating the smallest things like the beautiful lake and trees can really change your perception. But the theme of coping with this is that you believe deep down in your heart that those great genuine friends and relationships are coming and will happen eventually! Stay hopeful and full of positive energy and visualize it in your mind vividly and it will come!!!
January 22nd, 2018 9:13am
For me, this phase is a call out to the best self of me. Sometimes we need to know ourselves, and to understand that we don't need people to approve and appreciate our value and importance. We get real relations when we are happy with us, compassionate as well as motivating to us. When we keep on our way of life and stay joyuous, good people start coming in that way. Good luck!
September 1st, 2015 2:48am
i own a dog which makes me feel so happy by its unconditional love. i will be a genuine friend to others.
April 2nd, 2015 4:17am
Being lonely seems really scary and terrible, but it isn't always that bad. Take some time to focus on yourself; go to the gym, take long walks, do new things. You'll find friends and relationships will grow along the way!
October 28th, 2015 4:40pm
the best friend that you can have is yourself. Work on your emotions, feelings and think about what makes you happy. people love people who are positive thinkers and who smile. it brings in friendship. Thinking "why not me?" compared to "why me?" brings a positive attitude. Take charge of your life, and take the initiative of being a leader.
July 31st, 2017 9:44am
You can cope up with that by starting to depend on yourself. Trust and love yourself. Having friends or any other people is just an illusion of having someone. At the end, you are still alone. These relationships just create an illusion in our minds that we aren't alone but in reality we are. Learn to be comfortable in your company and remember to give love to all those who have even hurt you. It's about giving, you will only have a problem when you want something in return. But of course, you should remember that there are certain boundaries and you will find people who will not be open to what you have to offer, that's when you should stop.
August 18th, 2015 4:53pm
I remind myself that it probably just means that I have yet to come across someone who is actually genuine and that I'm bound to at some point.
October 27th, 2015 3:17pm
Try to make new friends. Get yourself out there. The greatest friendships sometimes come from a feud.
November 3rd, 2015 9:09pm
You cope by believing that one day you'll eventually find that genuine friend or find that special relationship with someone. You have to believe in yourself to believe you'll get what you deserve
December 8th, 2015 10:30pm
I try to work on myself and do things that would make me happy with myself and usually try to find new people on the way. I've had to step out of my comfort zone many times and it gets easier the more you do it to make new friends.
December 22nd, 2015 7:34am
Focus on things you love. You enjoy while you are doing. It gives huge relief, and help to make up your mind.
December 28th, 2015 5:28pm
You are your own friend. Just remember that you have a lot of capabilities that you can do alone without people helping you, you should stand on your own feet and pursue your dreams
July 26th, 2016 1:31am
You learn to laugh and accept that you are in solitude because you need to build yourself up before you become emotionally available for anyone.
September 27th, 2016 10:18pm
This is really hard. For me, I found solace online and in my music, but truly being alone isn't easy. The best thing I can think of is just to pick up a passion or hobby, or find friends through other means, even though it may not be the close friendships that you crave
February 28th, 2017 4:12pm
Went around trialing local clubs, finding one I liked until I came across a Kendo club. Made many friends there, and it motivates me to get up in the mornings
August 19th, 2017 4:57am
I totally understand what you're going through. I'm basically going through a very similar thing. I've found that connecting with people online, such as here on 7 cups can be extremely helpful. I've also found that throwing myself into my hobbies and passions such as art, music, and volunteering can make me feel so much less lonely and upset. If you can find ways to fill up the space and time that might normally be filled by friends/a relationship in ways that make you happy, you should find you feel a bit better. Also, pets are helpful, especially the fluffy cuddly kinds :) Hope this helps, take care
February 20th, 2018 8:35pm
I distract myself with all my hobbies, i create special moments for myself. I paint and put my emotion into it, i play games and try to enjoy my own company. It's important to try and like ourselves and enjoy our own company as we will be with ourselves for quite a long time.
March 19th, 2018 10:02pm
finding support online and meeting new people through the internet. It's great to connect with people online.
April 17th, 2018 3:00am
Just by focusing on what makes you happy or you can try to go and join an activity and meet new people
June 1st, 2021 2:56am
Sometimes all we see is social media. Many of us feel very lonely a most of the time, which means we are not lonely at all, we are just getting the same feeling as so many of us. Looking for deep connection is hard even in this era, yet there's still hope because we have internet, that someday, somehow we might connect with someone. There's so many people out there, there must be someone, at least one person in our life we can connect with some day. So while I'm waiting, watching movies and listening to real life stories makes me hope.