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How to forget my one-sided love?

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Last Updated: 12/27/2020 at 4:03pm
How to forget my one-sided love?
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Top Rated Answers
ingenioussunshine26
July 22nd, 2017 11:09am
Your one-sided love is like keeping this secret deep in your heart. When you see the person you love you may not know what to say afraid of what they may sat to you. non verbal ques are showing but they are not picking up on what you want them to understand. it can't be easy so you have to work for it if you don't want them to slip away. But if you want to forget your one-sided love, helping others and distracting yourself can help. Keeping space between the two of you may be suggested.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 10:41am
From my personal experience, I can tell that one-sided love can be a painful experience. Time helped me a lot, and nowadays I don't feel that strongly about the memory of this past experience any longer.
Averyisheretohelp
November 29th, 2017 2:56pm
Try not to avoid your feelings, if at all possible. By intentionally not thinking about something, it is scientifically proven that we actually think about it more. Acknowledge your feelings, and recognize that they are ok. Take some time to process how you feel about everything that happened.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2017 8:03pm
Try to find ways to distract yourself! Hang out with yout friends, maybe go to the movies or treat yourself to a nice dinner. Try to stay away from places you might accidentally meet them or even try to use as little social media as possible and get out of their way until you feel like it is safe for you to face them again! You got this!
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 2:52pm
Throw away anything that reminds you of them, delete screenshots of conversations between you and them, their pictures or any gifts they have give you. Learn to love yourself slowly and eventually you will find someone who will love you just as much as you love them
Becca76
June 9th, 2018 7:25pm
Think about what a good person you are and how you deserve to be in a relationship with someone that appreciates you for being you, and who cares as much about you as you care about them
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 5:48pm
To move on means to meet new people, to do more activities, to vent on 7cups, time heals don't worry
allyswift
March 17th, 2020 10:55am
Remind yourself all the times when you fought for the persons attention, tried to talk to them but they made you feel worthless. Remind yourself reasons why it was one sided, all the opportunities they had to come to you, to message you but they didn't. Realize that you don't deserve someones maybe, you don't deserve to be left hanging. You deserve a person who makes you their priority, who can love you as much as you love them. But if you keep yourself stuck on that one person, you will never be able to see these people who will treat you with love and compassion
Anonymous
May 29th, 2016 7:02pm
You can't just forget her, it's not as simple as that. But what you can do is try and get over her. Find someone who actually likes you bad. Or just deal with it
Brandi4life
August 6th, 2016 1:48am
The only way to forget something like that is through time. Because you are meeting her daily it will take much longer and will be much harder but it will turn out.
Brianaishere
September 7th, 2016 2:41am
You should confront these feels before you forget them. Find out what is making you hold onto those feelings.
Darson
October 7th, 2016 9:46pm
Sail away and the distance will allow you the luxury of forgetfulness. Keep the good memories and toss the bad ones away.
originalbraveheart63
October 13th, 2016 1:52pm
The best way is to meet new people, and time helps as well since as the time goes it will get easier.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 1:10pm
Its hard but not impossible. You will find someone who will love you for who you are and then everything will seem normal. You just have to let it go and move on.
MeghanSmiley
October 26th, 2016 7:15am
Being stuck on a relationship that's either ended long ago or that never was reciprocated can be difficult. I am guilty of playing movies in my head of perfect scenarios with my friends and loved ones, and I romanticize people that I am interested in. These speculations and ruminations come from emotional problems that we feel are unresolved. There /could/ be a chance that my ex still loves me, we still could get back together... Your mind keeps replaying these scenarios and thoughts because the issue doesn't feel settled. The Getting Unstuck guide ( https://www.7cups.com/getting-unstuck/ ) Is a useful resource, for this!
lorireek321
November 3rd, 2016 4:28pm
Take care of your needs and wants. It can be easy to put your partner’s desires before your own. Take care of yourself like you take care of your mate
Autumnleaves1
November 6th, 2016 3:01pm
You don't need to forget it, just understand that it happened and build on that knowing that it made you stronger, just understand that you know what isn't right and now know what is
DaisyTalk
November 11th, 2016 6:16am
I forgot my one-sided love by at first keeping my mind off of my one-sided love and then finding something new that I love and realizing one day I haven't thought about my one-sided love in a long time.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 4:43pm
Find things that nurture your health. After a bad relationship, you may be feeling all sorts of bad or self-doubting emotions. During this time, it is more important than ever to do things that make you feel good and feel good about yourself.[7] Try getting more physical activity and spending more time outdoors for a natural boost in serotonin and dopamine.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2017 9:29pm
Forgetting a one sided love can be really difficult because you love that person so much. The best thing to do is focus on things that will distract yourself enough to the point that you don't think or see that person as the person who you loved and didn't love you back. Or you meet someone new and you get to loving them so much that you forget about the other person.
costadelsol
June 24th, 2017 6:28am
You must not forget a good dream. Wake up and face the truth, only real communication helps you along. Don't worry.
ManiRose
July 27th, 2017 11:58pm
I've dealt with this same situation before! It's very hard, believe me. What I personally did is try to make a list of all the things he didn't do, and remember that you did your best! That's all that matters is that you gave it your all.
SoaringWings
August 17th, 2017 9:26pm
It's not possible to forget someone you love. Instead, ask yourself- how can I cope with the feelings of rejection and sadness that this one-sided love brings me? Working from that place will bring you greater growth.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2017 1:23pm
I don’t think forget is the word we should be using in this situation. By forgetting, we aren’t getting over the problem, we are only avoiding dealing with it. If you’re struggling with one-sided love, try and replace the feelings your feeling with positive feelings toward someone or something else. It doesn’t have to be romantic at all, just whenever you start to think about this problem, instead revert to a more positive train of thought. This will refrain your brain to think of this thing instead of whoever is causing you trouble.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 2:58pm
By focusing uour attention on something unrelated that is positive. You can slowly but surely move on with time and positivity. (Of course this isn't the case in all love situations, but i feel it would be positive in most).
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 2:16pm
This one is really hard. I'd say let the person know of it so you can move on,at least their answer will get you to move on or be happy,either way you'll learn something.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 12:01am
Never blame yourself for that, it has nothing to do with you. Channel that love towards yourself. There are 7 billion people in the world, put yourself out there confidently! If it doesn't work out, just know there are always other people you can start over with.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 1:58pm
So for me, I've had multiple instances where I developed a crush on a close friend who only saw me as a close friend. For me, the feelings faded with time, and I was able to remain friends with the person, but what helped initially was to imagine all of the downsides and realities of dating them. So, for instance, with close friends especially I would imagine what it would do to our friendship if we ever broke up. I would also think about the things that I didn't like about them and how that would make it difficult if we were to date and all the problems that might cause. I also tried to think about all the people they had dated before and how I was different from those people. Note, not in a they're terrible or they're so much better than me kind of way, but in a how am I different from their "type" and how might these differences mean that my friend would be unsatisfied with our relationship. In some cases, it also helped me to accept the fact that the person didn't like me back by directly talking to the person about these feelings. My hope in these instances was to either a. make sure they knew how I felt in case they actually did like me and just thought I didn't like them, but more likely b. that they didn't like me but could at least reject me outright so that my mind would no longer be preoccupied by the idea that we might be able to date some day. In these cases it's important to be careful not to show your friend how the rejection impacts you in order to maintain a friendship. It might be a good idea to tell another friend how you feel and what your intentions are (i.e. to ask your crush out, but you suspect it won't go well) and to ask them if they might let you talk about how you feel afterwards or help cheer you up while you work through your grief. Because, while you didn't date, it's still tough to accept that someone you like doesn't like you that way. But I promise it does pass. For me, it was toughest at the beginning, and then I'd only think about it occasionally when hanging out with the person, like they'd do something that made my heart skip a beat and then I'd feel sad for a little while, but after some time the thought doesn't even come up anymore, or if it does on rare occasion I don't feel sad anymore because I've accepted it, and we're back to being friends like the whole thing never happened.
Harshac
December 6th, 2017 3:46pm
The better way to deal with the one-sided love to tell the one you love that you love them. Based on the response you can decide whether to forget or not. Do not come to the conclusion without letting them know how you feel.
Clayne
December 22nd, 2017 7:10pm
Focus on loving yourself!! There are so many things to love in life, you get to chose which loves to pursue, so you might as well pursue one you know will be two-sided