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How to forget my one-sided love?

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Last Updated: 06/09/2022 at 5:02am
How to forget my one-sided love?
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RizenShine22
March 2nd, 2017 2:28am
I'm not going to lie, coming to terms with one-sided love is hard. Focusing on yourself and your well-being is key, though. It won't be an easy process, and it will take time, but use the people in your life as support, and they will help you the best they can.
avanef
March 15th, 2017 8:52pm
You move on and you learn to love yourself, you learn to surround yourself around everything they never gave you. You want love, love yourself. You want laughter, watch something funny or hang out with friends who you know really make you laugh. Whatever it is, get it and in time, you'll forget about them.
Supernova888
July 6th, 2017 4:29am
Get creative. Write, sing, dance, paint, talk, do whatever you can to let your emotions out in a constructive way. Unrequited love is hard, but you have to let yourself feel it in order for it to go away. Eventually, you grow to accept it and you'll move on, once all your emotion is expressed. Hang in there!
ingenioussunshine26
July 22nd, 2017 11:09am
Your one-sided love is like keeping this secret deep in your heart. When you see the person you love you may not know what to say afraid of what they may sat to you. non verbal ques are showing but they are not picking up on what you want them to understand. it can't be easy so you have to work for it if you don't want them to slip away. But if you want to forget your one-sided love, helping others and distracting yourself can help. Keeping space between the two of you may be suggested.
Averyisheretohelp
November 29th, 2017 2:56pm
Try not to avoid your feelings, if at all possible. By intentionally not thinking about something, it is scientifically proven that we actually think about it more. Acknowledge your feelings, and recognize that they are ok. Take some time to process how you feel about everything that happened.
DarkFang74
June 1st, 2018 8:53pm
It might sound cliche but don’t we all want something from our life and we take our own decisions so when someone else takes a decision for his/her life, arent we suppose to respect that. If you love someone, you want them to be happy and that feeling is fulfilling. Of course it pains to be not with someone as you want to but friendship is important and you need not to forget love, love is not always being together in a romantic relationship. Love is the bond much more stronger than that. If you have not yet confessed about your feeling, be honest and confess it by clearly stating that this will not affect their friendship and no matter what the result is, you will share the friendship as it is. Speaking out something will clear your cloudy thoughts, assumption and apprehension's.
Becca76
June 9th, 2018 7:25pm
Think about what a good person you are and how you deserve to be in a relationship with someone that appreciates you for being you, and who cares as much about you as you care about them
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 5:48pm
To move on means to meet new people, to do more activities, to vent on 7cups, time heals don't worry
allyswift
March 17th, 2020 10:55am
Remind yourself all the times when you fought for the persons attention, tried to talk to them but they made you feel worthless. Remind yourself reasons why it was one sided, all the opportunities they had to come to you, to message you but they didn't. Realize that you don't deserve someones maybe, you don't deserve to be left hanging. You deserve a person who makes you their priority, who can love you as much as you love them. But if you keep yourself stuck on that one person, you will never be able to see these people who will treat you with love and compassion
Iampandagenie
May 2nd, 2020 7:31am
I'm sorry to know that you've had to deal with this. But it is a part of life. Isn't it? It's better to have some experience than having nothing at all. So... To forget your one sided love, first of all don't rush your journey of moving on. Take as much time as you need. And remember moving on is never a straight graph..it's zig zag. So if you find yourself back at zero, don't stress over it. Start doing things which you like. What I do first is to delete every memory related to them. It's hard and heart wrenching.. but you need to do it to give yourself space from memories and thoughts. Take your time don't rush. And then do things which you like. Explore yourself. And if you find yourself overthinking about them(first recognize if you're overthinking about a stuff which won't create any difference or won't help you at all), tell yourself to stop or just focus on some other thing. And if you find yourself thinking about them don't torture yourself by saying you shouldn't be thinking at all. I mean they used to be a part of your life and part of your thoughts. It's ok to think about them. Accept your thoughts. Give yourself time. and trust me....it'll be better eventually. It's a journey to move on. And the results are always satisfying. So if you wanna more you can text me I can be a support in your journey.. all the best!
stevenm5775
December 9th, 2020 8:45pm
Showing yourself love and respect is a skill that many of us are still learning. It can be a lifelong challenge but in the end, you have to love yourself most of all. Because if you can't love yourself, it makes it difficult to love someone else. That is why you must take time to be alone and learn who you are. You must explore yourself and be grateful for the things that make you you. Be proud of your quirky music tastes. Be proud of your life story no matter how dark it may be. Be proud of the good person you are.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2020 6:12pm
It can be hard to move on from unrequited or one-sided love. Often, when we feel a certain way for someone, and they don't feel that way towards us, we wish we could simply "forget" them, or the way we feel towards them. Unfortunately, actually "forgetting" can prove a difficult task. There are ways we can move on, but seldom do they involve really actually "forgetting". Instead, we can realize what the relationship is truly meant to be. Does the person wish to be a friend, an acquaintance, or something else? Once we understand someone else's goals for the mutual friendship/relationship, we can begin to reset our expectations. We should accept a person's willingness (or unwillingness) to play a certain role (or not) in our lives. This is a form of honoring their consent. Once we accept what they are able and willing to be, we can begin the process of resetting the relationship (or lack thereof) to reflect that. This means, among other things, adjusting our expectations of the person and the relationship.
JaimieF
December 19th, 2020 6:55pm
It's a different process for everyone and generally just requires time. I suggest looking into the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy guide and Grief guide here on 7 cups. Consider focusing on self-care for a while, such as in taking time to do things you enjoy or build new habits, like gratitude journalling or exercising. You could also try strengthening your current relationships with friends and family or building new connections. Even going back into the dating pool is an option so that you can build some autonomy and control by taking action to meet more new people, which will increase the chance that you find someone you can connect deeply with.
ayushbanerjee
December 20th, 2020 9:56am
When you are facing issues due to unrequited love, it is easier to let go of the trouble than to hold on to it in false hopes. A rebound is not the answer to forgetting onesided love. You can never really forget love. So, you decide to grow from it. Learn from it. And make a change in your life that hates to look back in regret. Make this change sustainable and help yourself stay happy and positive by looking straight ahead. Treat all the obstacles like adversities. Grow from embarrassments- call them experiences. Be mindful at all times. Calm yourself down instead of panicking. Talk instead of staying low-key and reserved. It is okay to be sad for some time, everyone is. B
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
January 24th, 2021 3:00pm
Aw hey, I think one sided love is both good and bad. Good because, you're so self sufficient..you don't need the other person's approval on your love for them, you can just love them even at a distance. Bad because, it is heartbreaking to know that, where you'll do anything for them, they might not ever reciprocate those feelings and it is so very okay to be hurt and heartbroken here . But yes, it's also important to know and remember that, in the long run, one sided love will only cause you more pain, the sooner you accept that they are not for you, and that there will definitely be someone somewhere who will give you the stars without you even asking, it just somehow helps to know that, efforts should be put where there's even a slight chance of something happening in your favor. Beyond that, it will affect your personal life to be hurting always . So try to get that closure for yourself, maybe meeting new and more people will broaden a perspective and help you see that there's so many people potential partners around, who will reciprocate your feelings and appreciate and accept you the way you are , which is how love really should be ...accepting and validating ❤
Livingtohelplive
January 8th, 2022 1:26pm
1) Work with your feelings Whether you are still in love with your ex-partner, pushing someone who is making vague signals or rejecting you, it is important that you stop and process your feelings. You may find that this is just a platonic madness, you may realize that you vehemently long for love because you are afraid of loneliness. Even if it's not easy, look at the whole situation from a distance and try to determine what feelings you really have towards the person in question. You may be surprised that you don't really want to live with the person, or this view will confirm that you are in love. 2) Focus on yourself When was the last time you were happy? If in recent weeks you are devoting all your energy to someone who does not reciprocate your love, then it is high time for a change. This is especially true when you have a difficult breakup and you still feel strong emotions about your ex-partner. The reason some breakups are so painful is that most things and memories remind you of an expat. The only way to change this is to deliberately create new experiences that will give way to old memories. Focus on your personal happiness, mental health and well-being. Also, don't be afraid to try something new. It doesn't matter if you start running or sign up for an online French course, the only important thing is that you invite new activities and experiences into your life. Make time for friends and family Unrequited love can flirt with the human psyche. If you are going through a difficult period of life, there is nothing to prevent you from asking your loved one for help. If it helps, you can confide in them about the situation. You may find that in the past, others have experienced a relationship that is remarkably similar to your current problem. Obviously, a friend or family member will not fill the emptiness you are currently feeling. Nevertheless, it is useful if you spend time with them ... 3) Don't blame yourself If you love someone you can't have, you may be disappointed in yourself. You are sorry that you did not charm the person in question, or you blame yourself for not "keeping" your former partner. Even if it's not easy, try to erase similar feelings from your head and instead be proud that you were open to love. The best solution is to accept reality and not think about the "what if" phrases unnecessarily. 4) Don't give up on love One of the most effective ways to deal with unrequited love is to understand that you will find love again. At the moment, you feel that you will never meet a better person, but realize that this person plays only a small, and often insignificant, role in the timeline of your life. Let the person go and make room for someone who really deserves your love.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2016 7:02pm
You can't just forget her, it's not as simple as that. But what you can do is try and get over her. Find someone who actually likes you bad. Or just deal with it
Brandi4life
August 6th, 2016 1:48am
The only way to forget something like that is through time. Because you are meeting her daily it will take much longer and will be much harder but it will turn out.
Brianaishere
September 7th, 2016 2:41am
You should confront these feels before you forget them. Find out what is making you hold onto those feelings.
Darson
October 7th, 2016 9:46pm
Sail away and the distance will allow you the luxury of forgetfulness. Keep the good memories and toss the bad ones away.
originalbraveheart63
October 13th, 2016 1:52pm
The best way is to meet new people, and time helps as well since as the time goes it will get easier.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 1:10pm
Its hard but not impossible. You will find someone who will love you for who you are and then everything will seem normal. You just have to let it go and move on.
MeghanSmiley
October 26th, 2016 7:15am
Being stuck on a relationship that's either ended long ago or that never was reciprocated can be difficult. I am guilty of playing movies in my head of perfect scenarios with my friends and loved ones, and I romanticize people that I am interested in. These speculations and ruminations come from emotional problems that we feel are unresolved. There /could/ be a chance that my ex still loves me, we still could get back together... Your mind keeps replaying these scenarios and thoughts because the issue doesn't feel settled. The Getting Unstuck guide ( https://www.7cups.com/getting-unstuck/ ) Is a useful resource, for this!
lorireek321
November 3rd, 2016 4:28pm
Take care of your needs and wants. It can be easy to put your partner’s desires before your own. Take care of yourself like you take care of your mate
Autumnleaves1
November 6th, 2016 3:01pm
You don't need to forget it, just understand that it happened and build on that knowing that it made you stronger, just understand that you know what isn't right and now know what is
DaisyTalk
November 11th, 2016 6:16am
I forgot my one-sided love by at first keeping my mind off of my one-sided love and then finding something new that I love and realizing one day I haven't thought about my one-sided love in a long time.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 4:43pm
Find things that nurture your health. After a bad relationship, you may be feeling all sorts of bad or self-doubting emotions. During this time, it is more important than ever to do things that make you feel good and feel good about yourself.[7] Try getting more physical activity and spending more time outdoors for a natural boost in serotonin and dopamine.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2017 9:29pm
Forgetting a one sided love can be really difficult because you love that person so much. The best thing to do is focus on things that will distract yourself enough to the point that you don't think or see that person as the person who you loved and didn't love you back. Or you meet someone new and you get to loving them so much that you forget about the other person.
costadelsol
June 24th, 2017 6:28am
You must not forget a good dream. Wake up and face the truth, only real communication helps you along. Don't worry.
ManiRose
July 27th, 2017 11:58pm
I've dealt with this same situation before! It's very hard, believe me. What I personally did is try to make a list of all the things he didn't do, and remember that you did your best! That's all that matters is that you gave it your all.