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How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?

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Last Updated: 04/27/2022 at 1:30pm
How to stop overthinking things in a relationship?
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March 7th, 2018 5:02pm
whenever i overthink things in a relationship i often take a step back and look at the worse case and best case in a scenario and when doing that i often find that neither case is that extreme and i can then reevaluate what i am thinking
March 24th, 2018 6:31pm
Leaning acceptance is key! Feeling safe in the fact that you can not control what you can not control and no matter what the outcome will be, you will be okay. Everything is going to be okay, so enjoy the present
March 29th, 2018 2:11pm
Try distracting yourself. Paint, make music, go out with a friend or family member. Take your mind off of it for a little while!
March 30th, 2018 5:49pm
Try and talk to you're partner or significant other about your fears and what you have been thinking about to make them understand.
March 30th, 2018 9:06pm
I think you must feel yourself before you feel your partner.And saying things in your mind loudly not quitly.
March 30th, 2018 10:30pm
Talk things out with your partner, stop yourself the moment you catch yourself over-analyzing your partner's behaviour.
April 4th, 2018 7:36am
Relationships are best dealt when you talk... Talking can reduce overthinking to an extent. At times we can feel that our significant other won't understand... But if we keep overthinking and not talk about it... things can get really complicated.
April 8th, 2018 8:55pm
recognize your worth and communicate your feelings to your partner :) chances are they feel the same emotions but don't want to say it.
April 16th, 2018 8:53am
At first, ask yourself if anything of the things you overthink, can be somehow influenced or changed. Then do it promptly. If it can't be influenced or changed, then distract yourself from your overthinking by doing anything which interest you, but overthinking. Distracting yourself doesn't mean that you suppress your feelings - it only means that you don't overthink anymore and live more healthy.
April 18th, 2018 1:45pm
Have an open discussion about anything on your mind, but make sure your partner knows you are exchanging ideas. Assumptions are usually linked to overthinking, therefore, bringing it out in the open removes overthinking and settles the matter, once you know your partners opinion, as well as your own on the matter
April 19th, 2018 5:55am
If there is something in your thoughts that keep coming back, and you notice that you are overthinking things, all you have to do is talk to your significant other about your worry. Usually, as you keep doing this, the worries and the overthinking eventually goes down until you feel confident and trusting of your partner.
April 20th, 2018 7:05am
You can start verbalising your thoughts and tell your partner about it. This may help you understand their perspective as well, and you will both strengthen your relationship.
April 26th, 2018 9:21pm
It can be very hard to not overthink in a relationship. often times good communication can limit this, as will mindfullness.
April 28th, 2018 7:33pm
This is a very difficult question for me to even answer. But I will do my best to try and think there's over correctly although what I may say will not or may not affect anybody else or help anybody else in any way shape or form. For myself I try to find distractions even though they are super temporary it is a lot better to have that temporary moment that you constantly figure out what it is that I keep doing wrong why is it that things are not going the way they're supposed to that's causes me to think and think and rethink and rethink things over that causes more harm and damage to a relationship then trying to make a relationship blossom in a beautiful way.
April 29th, 2018 7:58am
Be honest and open to deal with important thoughts and feelings. This is best done in the moment or when experiences are still raw.
May 5th, 2018 2:54am
Always think about reality. Never assume things .and don't talk to people who want to break your relationship .
May 5th, 2018 4:42am
Many things (especially in relationships) are out of our control. Focus on yourself and let everything else fall into place.
May 5th, 2018 5:07am
Trust your partner. There usually isn't a deeper meaning to their actions other than their appreciation for you.
May 10th, 2018 6:41am
Its important to ask yourself whether what i am thinking has any basis in reality or if its simply in my Mind.If the issue is simply in your mind and has no basis in reality then you have to refrain yourself from thinking about it
May 13th, 2018 6:19pm
Overthinking is leads to some extent lack of confidence on relationship. Faith and belief play very vital role in relationship. Just accept each other view with a view to respect each other.
May 19th, 2018 9:36pm
A start is stop overthinking alone and talk with your significant other about how your feeling. When you don't completley understand it yourself so your mind can let it out and let them explain and help and that leaves them room to help reassure you.
May 24th, 2018 10:23pm
If you find yourself overthinking things in a relationship, it can really help to communicate with your partner more about your worries. Things like worrying you may have done something wrong, or wondering if they were paying attention to something going on with you, are things that are much more easily resolved with communication than through any other avenue. If that doesn't help, you may also want to try to work with your partner in affirming you that things are okay.
May 27th, 2018 11:48am
Sometimes, people think of others more than they think of themselves. What helped me in my darkest point of my relationship, was me pausing and thinking, "Am I still thinking of myself? Am I still well? Am I still happy?" Everyone needs a break once in a while and a chance to find themselves.
May 30th, 2018 2:26pm
For myself, open communication is key to avoid overthinking. My spouse is aware that I deal with anxiety, so when something is bothering me (or my spouse) we discuss it right away instead of letting it build up. Overthinking is often a result of unanswered questions and the only way I was able to stop it from escalating was to address my concerns before they consumed me. It's certainly not an easy conversation, but a necessary one. I'm not always wrong, but I'm not always right. It's important to remain as calm as possible by being receptive and open-minded to your partner and avoid accusatory language by explaining how something makes you feel instead of pointing fingers. Make it about yourself, not about them. This is how I handle overthinking. I am sure there are other methods , but this is what works for my spouse and I.
May 31st, 2018 7:34am
'Actions speak louder than words.' Be cautious enough to observe yours and your partners actions. Many a times we believe what our wavering mind wants us to believe. But, the reality is different. In such circumstances, notice the actions and be firm enough to tell your mind that it is all in the head and the actions observed are different.
June 8th, 2018 1:39am
In my own experience, it is best to address the overthinking with your partner. Simply address the conversation by stating that you have issues with overthinking and that you'd like to discuss it.
June 15th, 2018 5:52pm
focus on what’s right right for you, if you think your significant other is cheating and you’re on edge then maybe it isn’t right to be in a relationship like that
June 20th, 2018 9:17am
Conversation is key in a relationship. If you are worried, talk to your partner about it and figure out a way to get those worries away together
June 27th, 2018 5:47pm
If it's meant to be it will be, setting high expectations + being too optimistic = Sadness sometimes
July 1st, 2018 5:17am
Overthinking mighy be a sign that you lack trust in your partner. Communication can put your thoughts at ease