How to stop thinking about a guy who dumped you or is bad for you?

The best approach would be to start loving someone new. But making sure that before you do move on you've thought about how he's been damaging you and others around you. And if there's something that can be done to improve the situation.

Best way to achieve this is in 2 steps. Step 1 is acceptance, so just accept that this is bothering you and dont let yourself be brought down by it so much. Step 2 is to slowly bit by bit try to replace thoughts with others. So find something else you enjoy that will occupy your mind.

Games!!! I play a lot when things like this happend. Make my mind fly to other things, is the better way to feel light.

Focus on hobbies or go out with some friends. Keep your mind busy and you eventually will forget him

I have a couple of cousins who are players. They just manipulate people, I no longer have contact with them, except if I need to put my foot down if they get out of line. Regarding the guy, move on there are a lot of great people out there. Life has its ups and downs, and all good things must come to an end.

Hey. Forget about him. If you have things that remind you of him get rid of them. Meet someone new too :)

Get out before its too late, trust me your future self will thank you for it. I'm speaking from experience.

Just stop being around things which remind you of the douchebag. Remember, some Boys will flirt with you for a while and then ignore you. Then, they will flirt with you some more. It will be confusing. You have every right to stop putting up with it. Some people are bad, and the earlier you accept this harsh truth, the better. Recovery comes with time, patience, reason and positivity. Stay strong, stay beautiful, be you

Well the most annoying part of thinking is the more you try to stop it the most you actually think. And more often than not you are going to end up thinking about the guy. Two things help stop the thinking cycle. One is meditation and the second is keeping yourself occupied and extremely busy that you dont find time to think about other things. This helps you focus on present and be positive. Cheers!

Live your life; although I understand how you feel, please don't keep yourself dwelling on the person who "broke your heart." Here's what you do: live your life, focus on things that don't remind you of that person who stole your heart...and broke it.

It is a very good question! I've heard people use different methods and here is one of them: every time this guy pops up in your head try and immediately remember all of the bad things he did for you - either big or small. This method is great for developing "resistance" to the person who hurt you. The good memories are still there but you are not dependant on him anymore. I hope this helps! Good luck.

It isn't inherently bad to think about someone who dumped you. My mother once commented that she thinks about her boyfriends all of the time even though she has been happily married for nearly 30 years. Thinking about him only means that you cared for him, which isn't a bad thing. What can be problematic is preventing you from being happy, or finding a new partner. In this case I feel like the best way to stop thinking about him is to take up some hobbies or social groups. Building yourself and what makes YOU happy will create a scenario where you can feel empowered to be someone outside of the relationship you had. Also you surround yourself with people that share interests with. Seeking rebound boyfriends will not be too helpful, but once you are in a good place, you have a new pool to jump back into dating!

I just tell myself im stronger than that and if he hurts me then i know i deserve better. Ive always been the type of person who feel to hard for guys so if you do the same just think.....you are strong enough to wait what you deserve for

There is a guy in your life who dumped you or you know is bad for you, and you cannot stop thinking about him. Why do you think you feel this way? What are some bad things he has done that will make you realise that it is time to move on?

block or delete him, then start fresh. hang out with friends busy yourself with fun and new things

Try to think about other things. I know that doesn't sound too helpfull, but look at it this way, imagine that he did't exist, would it stop you from making other great memories? Probably not, so compare him to great moments and memories you've had in your life. He will not mean anything for you.

Focus on the harmful aspects of the guy or the relationship. Right now you already know that person is bad for you and you will be much better without him in the future. Take your time to accept it and eventually its memories will fade out.

You can share your thoughts with someone you trust and overtime you will find out that you will think less about the situation or tell that person to stop.

Just give yourself time. Thats all that can help. Try and keep yourself distracted wither with work or hobbies but only time will rid you of these thoughts.

Well this indeed is a bit tricky. If you've been attached to someone, its likely that you have them on your mind. The 'symptoms' subtly resembles that of an addiction. The idea is to let to, not all at once because that probably makes the situation worse.

Think about not everyone is worth waiting on. There are plenty of guys out there in the world than just that particular man.

Find something else to take your mind off of the subject. Something that you enjoy or makes you happy and smile. This way you will have a positive attitude and not have the thought in your mind.

I always find my motto to be the most helpful in these situations: "Ex's are ex's for a reason" meaning remember the bad times over the good. Always remember why you broke up and why the relationship was toxic. If they treated you well and you end on good terms, this motto can of course be excused from this sort of scenario and you can always remain friends. To stop thinking about an ex, however is to accept the things that happened and accept the fact that you cannot change the past. Move on from them and think about yourself. What's best for you? How can you better your future? How can you make sure that history doesn't repeat itself?

it is difficult, I won't say the opposite but you have to think about yourself, how you can be happy without him and the things you can do and with him you couldn't. You need to think that you are now free and happier than ecer

For me I go to the gym and drown myself in puddles of sweat. What are you passionate about that you can do?

You remind yourself all the bad things he did and how he dumped you when clearly you cared about him.

I just look in the mirror and say to myself, 'You are free. No matter how wonderful or awful he was, he wasn't right for you. Now you are free to choose a totally new path.'

You have to change your focus and start thinking about situations which fulfills you, and gives you happines

I think of it as his loss for dumping me. And to stop thinking about him, I would shift my focus onto myself and do the things that give life to me, such as taking a new art class or learning a new hobby. I also find that volunteering uplifts me and gives me perspective when I feel like things get hard in life.

If this is your first lover, then it will always be in your memories. Thinking about him isn't bad, you can always use him as a comparison model for others. If you really want to get him out of your memory, try creating new ones with other friends :)