I was set up on a blind date and noticed a ring on his ring finger during the date. I didn't ask him about it then, it's been a week, should I ask now?

6 Answers
Last Updated: 01/21/2019 at 1:48am
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Michael Hofrath, Ph.D. Candidate

Pre-Licensed Professional

The only way to the other side of pain is to walk through it rather than around it. Life is a continual journey. Sometimes we get stuck. I will help you get unstuck!

Top Rated Answers
preciouscinnamonroll
February 19th, 2018 7:08pm
You don’t want to get into a relationship that you’re uncomfortable with. I understand you not wanting to be rude, but it’s better to find out now than later when it may be too late.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 2:17pm
There is no issue in asking. I would have no problem if someone asked me that, even if it was a week later. It is up to you in the end though!
Robinzoo
May 7th, 2018 4:49pm
It would seem to be a pretty standard thing to ask, if you don't want to date someone who is married anyhow.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 3:01pm
Yes. If you ask about the ring now then you will learn why he has the ring. Don't wait until you possibly meet his wife.
compassionateCandy48
July 16th, 2018 6:17am
I believe you should, as it’s better to ask now and not find out unexpectedly later on
Jing2010
January 21st, 2019 1:48am
I think that you should and probably should have on the first date. That being said, there are several reasons for him to wear a wedding band. First, the obvious, he is married - although I doubt that is the reason or he would have taken it off. Second - the ring is of emotional value to him as he is divorced or a widower. Either way on the former, he is carrying emotional baggage that you should be aware of. I am separated but still wear my wedding band out of respect for our marriage. I don't know when I will take it off since I do not know when I will be ready to date again. Be careful and look out for yourself. If he's carrying a torch for an ex or his heart still belongs to someone that passed, you should know. A wedding band means a great deal.