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Is it hard to think critically about something you love?

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LilGreenBird
November 4th, 2017 1:45pm
It can be if you do not know how to separate feelings from rational thought. While some may argue that it is impossible to be completely objective and face facts without our own emotional biases, it is certainly possible to practice taking a step back and thinking critically about something even if you love it.
readingDream88
November 17th, 2017 3:14am
This really depends on the person's personality. If they're more of a thinking type, then they might have an easier time seeing past their own bias, but if they're more a feeling type then they might have more difficulty.
WatchingOverYou
November 17th, 2017 6:45pm
I think yes, because love can be blind and make you biased, even if it is not direct to a person, but being aware of that helps.
whimsicalLove17
November 18th, 2017 1:39am
From personal experience , yes and no! it depends on how much bad memories that effected myself have so much outweighed the good.
fictionfreak09
November 18th, 2017 3:27am
I think it is. We often tend to be partial when we have to judge or find flaws in something we love. Most of the times, we create reasons and explanations to satisfy ourselves that what we love is always right.
Cryptidchild
November 22nd, 2017 8:13pm
For most of the people yes. But that depends on people themselves. I personally open to constructive criticism towards my friends and loved ones. Only because you love someone that doesn't mean that you can close your eyes on their inappropriate behavior or habits and etc.
YasmineNotYours
November 23rd, 2017 7:10pm
it's somehow hard, because love is blind as they say :p ...but it's not impossible in my opinion ...
AvaLive07
December 6th, 2017 4:17pm
I'm hearing that someone you love did you wrong. This can be very disappointing. Could you tell me more about what is going on?
beenseendoneit
December 7th, 2017 12:28am
I think it's a lot easier to think of loved things or ones critically especially for people who have been hurt previously or suffer with mental health, due to fear of being hurt again
Easylistener
December 8th, 2017 7:47pm
No, I believe that if you love something, it doesn't merit critical thinking. It's just a feeling and a gut motivation. If it hurts anyone else that you love that thing, then it merits a hard think. Otherwise, no.
kindBeauty77
December 18th, 2017 10:10pm
I think it is often difficult to think critically about something we love because we look at things we love in an idealized way making it difficult to be critical.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 1:01am
Sometimes. I've learned that thinking critically about things you enjoy is essential but difficult. Additionally, expecting to critique everything I enjoy is draining and wears me down. There must be a healthy balance between these things.
awesomeRose64
December 22nd, 2017 1:49pm
Sometimes. However, I've often found though discovering something isn't as amazing as you may have deemed it to be at first sight, a greater appreciation may also be born from the things you love that stand tall against the scrutiny of your senses, even at their most discerning. Though if you feel a strong connection to something with your heart, and your head feels at odds, that is not necessarily an indication you must change your feelings and decide to stop loving it. A healthy balance of understanding the faults and treasuring the merits of the things that have formed a personal connection with you is ideal.
GraceListens96
December 23rd, 2017 4:36pm
I think it can be. Sometimes loving someone or something includes letting their good qualities shine in your mind and putting less weight on the more challenging qualities. This can make it hard to think critically about someone, and can require some serious mental gymnastics to jump out of your current perspective and attempt to be more objective. But then again, that's part of the beauty of loving and being loved!
Anonymous
December 31st, 2017 6:01pm
Honestly, it is. When you are so infatuated with something, doesn't necessarily have to be a person, it is hard to think of it in an entirely opposite way. But I think if you can get through the curtain that stands between two sides of the situation or an emotion, you can think of it in a more straightforward and critical way.
endearingLion70
December 31st, 2017 9:57pm
There does not have to be a contradiction between love and seeing things the way they are. You can criticize and still love
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 6:48am
I often times can be. Emotions can really sway how we think about different things. They try to "justify" or "counter attack" what we are logically feeling, and it is hard to deny something when if effects us emotionally. It can sometimes help to consider the pros and cons of a situation and to remove yourself from it. Try some mindfulness exercises or consider what you would tell your friend going through the same situation. It may be hard to think logically when we are emotionally effected by the situation, but not impossible. Just takes time~
Jennifer164
January 14th, 2018 9:28am
Yes it is hard to think critically about someting you truly love.Because loving something means that you are accepting all their weaknesses and imperfections.And at times you may end up loving their imperfections as it is too.
MollyCule
January 19th, 2018 6:17pm
It can be. The more personal something is for you, the more difficult it can be to put your emotions aside about it. It can help to get an objective perspective, such as from a listener here or a therapist, to sort out the reality of the situation.
effy05
January 20th, 2018 5:23am
Yes - I think that when I am passionate about something it is easy to feel biased towards it or make excuses when it's not working the way I expect.
IIFORTNOXII
January 20th, 2018 5:53pm
It can be very challenging to think critically about something we love. Personally, when I feel strongly about something I tend to want to express it, fix it, or deal with it quickly because it matters so much. I've learned that it's true when they say, "fools rush in." Much about life is finding balance and when I feel strong emotions over something it is easy to rush it rather than slow down and think critically.
MonicaQu
February 3rd, 2018 3:20am
Yes when you love something you tend to think the person like a God as they are always on your mind but with time this might change and you start to see their flaws. I guess love is blind and can make it hard to look at something critically when you love it.
PosiPotato
February 4th, 2018 12:24am
No, I think everyone is able to think critically about even the things that they love. There can still be negatives about a positive subject. Everything in life can have a positive or a negative, it all depends on perception. We can acknowledge a flaw, and still love the flawed subject.
HereToHelp5786
March 4th, 2018 11:49pm
i find it difficult to judge or think critically about something i love however i break it down to help. i try to think from different perspectives and try to look at it from the point of view of the person/ thing i am thinking critically about to try to develop a better understanding.
JJill1
March 8th, 2018 9:25pm
Sometimes it really can be hard, but you have to have the common sense inside to tell you differently. You should have some realistic voice/ reason :)
Crystalskies15
March 27th, 2018 5:21pm
No, I think it can be easy to see the negative side of anything but you can still love it regardless
Emmur
March 28th, 2018 12:05am
For me personally, I've struggled trying to think logically and critically about something I loved, especially when it came to relationships. It takes a lot of strength, and for me, an outside person who could take the situation in with fresh eyes and ears.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 6:22pm
It's more difficult to think rationally about something or someone you love rather than critically. To be critical about something you love may not always be the best option. Just do what you'd do, follow your brain and then your heart.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 12:35pm
Sometimes it is. You just have to have the right mindset. When you have that mindset, it can and sometimes can`t be hard to think critically about something that you love.
intelligentBeauty89
April 5th, 2018 3:25pm
Yes it is hard to think critically when emotion is involved. Love can be biased. Seeing things critically can help provide a new perspective.