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Is it normal for me to struggle with feeling as if I was never not good enough?

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Kouyle
April 4th, 2017 3:45pm
It's normal. Most of people are feeling like that but they're trying hard not to show it to others. That's why we tend to "get jealous" over something and try hard to be good "at something". We feel like we would never be good enough because there were a comparison between what we did and the others did. And that's normal. It's normal that we have a feeling like we could be good enough and couldn't. But then again, I have no right to decide what's normal or not for your/others life *peace* Take care :)
smileforawhile
February 26th, 2015 12:19am
Unfortunately, I think it is normal. Everyone goes through periods of time where they feel like they're not good enough. But the key word there is feel. Feelings aren't necessarily true. Just because you feel worthless doesn't mean you are. You are worthy, so so worthy.
AmandaArctica
February 26th, 2015 7:30pm
I would be shocked if I met someone who never felt that way! I certainly did for awhile. But know in your heart, that you are a worthy and special person. Say it in front of a mirror if you have to.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2015 2:56am
We as human-beings set high expectations for ourselves. It's perfectly normal to feel this way sometimes.
ahasbeamer
April 2nd, 2015 5:14pm
Yes in my opinion. Everyone stops to reassess their life at one point or another. And to question their self worth, it is how we decide whether it's time for a change.
zaatarHoney
June 18th, 2015 2:42am
It is completely normal. Does that mean you deserve to live with that burden? No. Nobody deserves to have that constantly at the back and forefront of their minds, ever.
OliverC
December 29th, 2015 2:08am
Normal as in common? Perhaps. Normal as in correct, or rational? No. There are a lot of people--especially young women--who suffer from "imposter syndrome," a very dire name for a very simple feeling: not having earned what you receive. Not good enough for any kindness you receive, not smart enough for any grades you get, agreeing with any insults or internal doubts, etc. These feelings can also arise from perfectionism. Perfectionism tends to be misunderstood as being persnickety--making sure everything is "just right." But in truth? It's feeling terrible when you don't get a 100% back on that paper, and even if you DID get a perfect score, you'd feel like you could have done better with it anyway. It's feeling that nothing you do ever matches your high standards, and therefore it fails, and you are a failure. This is erroneous. Perfection is an impossibility, and you ARE good enough. Your work is good enough.
neverletlifetakeyourspark
April 29th, 2015 12:25am
Many people feel that they are not "good enough". But what is good enough? Whatever you do, someone will say that's it not good enough. But that doesn't matter. As long as you are being you and trying to improve, that's good enough. We all are at different points in our lives and deal with things differently ect. Just keep climbing your "staircase" of life and don't give up. It might be hard now, but it wont always be. "Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be." (Rick Warren)
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 5:27pm
Everybody has ups and downs in their life- So I guess you could say this is normal, However it is not true, if that makes sense. You are obviously feeling very down at the moment, it is a good idea to speak to family, friends for support and help, maybe visit your local GP or Doctor, see what professional help etc Counselling, is available out there for you.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 6:48pm
I felt that way for a while. But then I realized, that if you feel that you're not good enough, then you're lying to yourself. I had people telling me all the time that I wasn't good enough. But then when ie started ignoring and getting rid of those people I felt a lot better about myself!
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 6:43am
A lot of people feel this way but not everyone so yes i would say its pretty normal but just stay focused on the fact that everyone has someone who looks up to them or someone who thinks you are more than good enough weather you know who or not
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 4:44pm
Everyone feels like this at some point in their lives so yes, it is fairly normal but you should always talk to someone about it because if you don't tell people how you feel it can get more serious.
EnchantingNess74
November 3rd, 2015 8:15am
Yes that's normal, but we have to believe in ourselves in what we can do to overcome those thoughts.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 6:45pm
Yes, everyone feels inadequate and not good enough at some point in their lives but the best thing is to stop comparing your achievements and progress against everyone else around you.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 9:25pm
Yes. Every one is different, and because of this many people feel inadequate. Just stop comparing yourself to others and know that how good you do thing is good enough because it's you. :)
gForce
September 27th, 2016 7:15pm
This question needs to be reworded, because it means the opposite of what I think it's supposed to mean. So NO its not normal at all, its very very strange??? Now to answer the real question, it doesn't matter if its normal or not, what matters is if you DO struggle with feeling as if you're not good enough, then ask yourself good enough for what? This is a comparison, what are you comparing yourself to, good enough for what specifically? maybe if you knew, you could have some leverage I don't know.
blissfulComfort91
January 9th, 2017 10:19pm
Of course not! Most people (including myself) struggle with this all the time. What helps me is to remember that as long as a try my hardest, I will be ok with the results - good or bad. Besides, self-doubt is a good thing as it keeps us humble.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2020 10:29am
Hey there, in my opinion, yes. I think a lot of us struggle with that for one reason or another... be it something that's happened in our past like nothing being good enough for your parents or someone leaving you (these are mine anyways). What's helped for me is to have a routine of things that help me deal with that and overcome it and let go of that feeling. I do that through meditating and a breathing method created by a guy called wim hoff... these two things bring me back into the present and make me release that notion that I am not good enough to be loved. Hope these help :)