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Is it normal to feel more anxious when you're alone?

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DuaneYupDuane68
February 16th, 2017 10:34am
Yes. Yes. Yes. I'm certain. A lot of our anxiety comes from our own self talk. Self talk is that internal conversation we have with ourselves When we are alone that internal self talk is the loudest. Even casual conversation with others can help reduce anxiety.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 10:10am
yups. That's the situation where you more likely to feel anxious and depressed. talk to someone it'll help you out.
oneness1
September 17th, 2016 6:23am
It depends .If you have dominant fearful thoughts, guilt feelings and tendency to brood over the past suffering , you will feel bad when you are alone. if you choose to enjoy your loneliness , you have to face your fears and feel ease with yourself
taboo123987
June 28th, 2018 8:00am
It is totally normal for you to feel anxious when alone! You may not know what to do or can't help your mind from wondering. This is totally normal! Try using grounding techniques to refocus and realize you're not alone.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2017 12:13am
Everyone is different, so some people feel anxious when alone and some feel anxious around others! All fears are valid because they are your emotions. I don't know if it is considered "normal," but I know that I certainly feel that way sometimes too.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2018 5:51am
Yes of course! A lot of people may be extrovert and being alone is like draining your battery. But being with people charges your battery. It's okay to feel anxious while being alone, but it's totally fine if you are not as well. Being lonely to an extent is fine. If for any reason you are feeling really lonely maybe it isn't so 'normal'. You may have anxiety or depression. So it's all on a spectrum if it is 'normal' or if it's out of the ordinary or a mental illness. Be aware though it's not odd or peculiar in anyway.
letthesuncomestreamingin
August 2nd, 2018 9:13am
Yes. When you're alone, you are *alone*, there is nothing to stop you from listening to those dark, disastrous thoughts. They consume you and you can't stop them from making you worry,
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 2:58pm
It can be a sign of loneliness, I know I can relate so you're not alone :) But if something happened, just remember to talk to someone about it so you don't carry the stress and burden alone
hopefulPower94
December 15th, 2019 5:33am
I think each of us experiences anxiety differently so I think it is common to feel that way. One way to look at it is: when we are alone, the anxious or negative thoughts can get louder. No one is around to distract us from what goes on inside our heads. I find that to be true for me. One example is when we try to go to sleep, but we are stressing about what happened that day. We may have gotten through the day okay, but then we are alone with no distractions. I'm wondering if you can try to treat yourself with loving kindness during those times. I know it's not easy, but you deserve to be gentle with yourself. I know how exhausting this can be. Hang in there.
heyitsjoyjoy
December 13th, 2019 10:22pm
I feel like it is normal, from personal experience. When I am alone I begin to think more, and my overthinking can sometimes lead to feelings of anxiety. I begin to think about why I am alone to begin with, maybe about how if I were "more fun," I would be hanging out with a friend instead. I also get worried about my future, if I will have to spend loads of time alone then, things that I wouldn't think about around other people. But then I remind myself that there are just thoughts in my head, and that I do not feel them when other people are around.
alexsevenrings
December 13th, 2019 1:21pm
yes, absolutely. sometimes when we are alone and have way much time to think about everything, even things what is not really exist or aren't really able to make you nervous, when you are staying alone they are comes to your head and you cant make them gone alone... at this time you want someone to talk, about anything positive... and you will not even able to think about bad stuff and mobilize for the moment. if you dont want to talk with someone, go out somewhere even alone for fresh air or just talk with yourself at home... relax.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2019 2:40am
Absolutely. Anxiety is something that can be hard to make sense of sometimes, but there’s no right or wrong, or a definite example of anxiety. Some people are more anxious in social situations, whereas others can be more anxious by themselves. But it can start to make more sense when you break it all down. When you’re alone, you don’t have distractions or other people around to shift the anxious thoughts. If you already have some anxiety, being alone could amplify it. It can leave you open to overthinking, worrying, and then more anxiety. It’s very normal, but I understand it’s not a nice rut to be stuck in. Learning and practising some mindfulness excercises can be really useful in my experience. But if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed with anxiety, and you’re worried about it being worse when you’re alone, please feel free to talk to someone about it. You’re not alone and there’s always ways to improve things for yourself. Good luck!
InsomniacCactus
November 14th, 2019 2:13am
Not for everyone, but it's not a bad thing! I get like this, and When I'm personally alone, it's a bit easier for me to become anxious. The silence bothers me, but I cope by listening to music, drawing, reading or writing. It's a totally normal thing for some people, try to relax, count your breaths, and find a healthy and safe coping mechanism. It's going to be okay, and anxiety is a meanie, but coping with it is one of the best ways to go. If you'd like, make little doodles on your arm with skin safe products even! :)
Anonymous
November 14th, 2019 12:34am
Yes is is very normal, you go through stress while your alone because you think, which leads to overthinking...If someone else is with you, they will get your anxiety calmed because they aren't going to let you think by yourself. When your alone you have nothing to talk to except your mind, which feeds you a lot of anxiety, worry about the future, possible stress, and negative feelings about yourself! This is normal because when you are alone, you feel like there's nobody there for you, but when you aren't alone you are occasionally happy to get your mind off of those negative things.
gentleSun78
October 24th, 2019 8:31am
It can be normal for person who feels more anxious when they are alone, but it doesn't mean that everyone feels more anxious when they are alone as people are very different. Yes, if you can cope well with being alone and not getting anxious, it is great thing as you can cope more with, for example, breakups, divorce, etc and can also engage in more healthy relationships as you won't go to relationships in order to help coping with mentioned anxiety, but purely because you like the person with who you will go to relationship and also this person likes you. But also feeling more anxious when you are alone is normal, albeit less healthy as you have got less options to adjust to life circumstances you face (living alone, etc).
peacefulLight8704
October 17th, 2019 1:22am
Yes, i experience this, and i dare say that a ton of other people know exactly what you are talking about. When we are around other people and are engaged in fun activities or conversation, we are a bunch more simulated and we find it easier to take our mind off the subject at hand. When we are alone, there is not any thing that can serve as a distraction. I know for me, my mind seeks out things to be anxious about when it is bored or lonely. I don't know if that's how it is for you, but it may be.
KindCherry3683
October 16th, 2019 2:39am
Often times, it can feel daunting to be alone, whether that be physically or mentally. I found myself feeling both more anxious and less anxious at the same time. Experiencing social anxiety made me feel worried when having social interactions, yet at the same time being stuck in my room alone made me feel scared. I believe it's the community and the support that make it feel better to not be alone. While I did feel worried, I felt worse when I was engulfed in my thoughts. And often times, that was when I was alone. I believe that humans are social creatures, which is why I feel it is normal to feel more anxious alone. It is because we all need people, support, and love. And that is what 7cups most definitely provides.
CallumJ
July 29th, 2018 3:51pm
Of course it is! Being around other people gives you a sense of security and gives you a huge feeling of warmth! Being alone should not be seen as a negative thing, it's sometimes good to be on your own, reflect on thoughts and take time to care for yourself!
FoxInTheBox
October 6th, 2019 6:15am
From what I've observed, it's more likely for anxiety to come along whilst you're alone, but it doesn't have to be that way. When you're with people, there's enough things on your mind to distract you off your anxieties. However, when you're alone and not too preoccupied, your ever running brain runs into deeper spaces and starts to overthink, or steer into directions that result in anxiety. Some people are very accustomed to being by themselves, and are comfortable in their own skin, so they're probably better off handling such situations. Others may need more social affection and love from people around, and may fall into anxiety traps while being alone. But the key really is to develop confidence and control in oneself over time, and to fend off any negative thoughts with distractions. That kinda wires your head to not go into those dark spaces, over time.
politeMagic1163
September 27th, 2019 1:55pm
I can only speak from my own personal experience. Whenever I am alone, especially after having been in an overwhelming situation (such as being in a car full of shouting, angry people, or a large crowd) for an extended period of time that could be 20 minutes or more, the second I am left alone, my mind become numb to all feeling, like I can’t fully process what happened, and then 20 to 30 minutes after the emotional numbness starts, all the emotions that were completely muted rush back to me. Of course, that’s an panic attack, but as far as anxiety and anxiety attacks go, when I’m alone for more than 6 hours, I start to get all anxious about being unproductive.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:59am
You think more when you're on your own. It's normal to feel anxious when you think too much. Get yourself a job. The brain can't think of two things at once. Keep your brain busy. Don't worry you're not alone. Most anxious people are like you. This is totally normal!
Anonymous
September 21st, 2019 9:17pm
yes, it absolutely is. it's completely normal to feel anxious when you're alone, or when you're not busy doing something. this is because you aren't being distracted, so your brain is more likely to overthink things. what can help is finding things to do, breathing exercises, and reminding yourself that everything will be okay.
gaypotato235
August 2nd, 2018 3:27am
Yes, that cam be because you may be used to being around people more and when you find yourself alone it may cause you distress. Just remember to breath and remember that it is all going to be okay.
queenofakind
September 18th, 2019 4:15pm
It's completely normal to feel anxious when you're alone. For some of us, it can feel like your anxiety is spiraling out of control when you're by yourself. There are resources out there to help you understand what triggers your anxiety, and help you gain control over your emotions. Meditation can be a wonderful tool for overcoming anxious feelings. Trying a breathing exercise can help you feel more relaxed in moments, as well as interacting with a beloved pet or listening to your favorite Music. Don't hesitate to reach out for help if you think your anxiety is getting the best of you and you are struggling to overcome it!
bunnyssong
September 13th, 2019 3:54am
I think in some cases, yes. I say "some" cases because for example in my case, I tend to be more anxious when there's a lot of people around me. I feel more conscious, I feel like there's too much going on and it's overloading my senses. For others, they may feel more anxious when alone because of the feeling like there's no support around, or no help available in case something happens. For some, I think it's because of a feeling of loneliness. In any case, I think that anxiety can be felt by anyone, anywhere, at any time.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2019 6:36pm
Yes it usually is because if you have company of other people . It is a distraction. Even though we may not be able to open up to them about our anxiety when we are alone we can dwell moreso on anxiety . So its good to keep busy doing something we enjoy which can be of benefit also. Its important to remember there are many people that dont have others with them 24/7 but always enjoy the time and space of being alone. It also depends on your personality as to whether being alone will make you anxious. Over dependent on another person means then if they arent around we cant do certain things without them . Allthough there are certain situations due to illness age etc that we rely on others to be there for us
Anonymous
January 17th, 2019 3:02pm
In my opinion, yes, at least, if you don't suffer from social anxiety. When you are in a group of people or in public, it might be easier to control your anxiety, simply because it distracts you. Also, the other people could make you feel as a part of a community, what gives you a certain feel of safety. For myself, I also find that when I am alone, I never know what is going to happrn and I start to feel afraid of the things I might want myself to do. However, it could also be completely different at other times, and then I feel very comfortable on my own, I can use Me-time for reflection and relaxation.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2018 3:32pm
Yeah, this is completely normal. When you're alone there's less noise, less noise means you're more likely to start thinking, and more thinking leads to Not Fun Thoughts. The best advice I can give to you is find something to distract you. Play a video game. Watch a stupid TV show. Text a friend and ask to vent. As crazy as it sounds, just because no one is around you doesn't mean no one cares. Feeling anxious is kind of the worst, but in order to get a handle on it, you should be prepared for the times when no one else can help you but yourself.
empathear83
April 17th, 2022 6:09pm
I tend to feel more anxious when I am alone because I am left with nothing but my racing thoughts. I typically have my worst anxiety when I'm trying to fall asleep or when I wake up in the middle of the night. I feel like every and any situation is amplified and the more I try to ignore them, the worst they get. It has gotten so bad that I start to twitch and sweat. I have tried listening to meditation youtube videos with my headphones on and it tends to help, tremendously. Sometimes a simple distraction is enough to get you out of your own head.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2019 1:49pm
I think it is very normal to feel more anxious when you're alone. I think whatever our anxiety is, other people help. Often our anxiety might have to do with being alone. Sometimes other people help us see the truth more clearly. I am often very anxious and then my husband helps me see that everything is going to be okay. But when I'm alone I worry about lots of things. Including worrying about my husband who isn't with me. I thino it is normal to be more anxious alone. But we need to learn the habits other people help us with and practice them alone.