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Is it normal to feel more anxious when you're alone?

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Last Updated: 12/09/2020 at 6:12pm
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LonelyTableFor2
July 6th, 2017 12:48pm
Anxiety comes from fear, and even though it's common that people feel anxious among others, it doesnt mean that the opposite isnt true. Anxiety comes in many forms, and none of them pretty. It might not be as popular, but it at least feels like any other kind of anxiety.
lilcinnamon
July 16th, 2017 12:53pm
Yes, I think it is normal to feel more anxious when you're alone, (which isn't to say that it isn't normal for people to feel more anxious when they're with people). When you're alone, there aren't people around you to distract you from your thoughts of anxiety. You have the vulnerability and the "silence", so to speak, for your anxious thoughts to emerge and ambush you. There aren't any human barriers protecting you from them. Having anxiety is sometimes like a one-on-one conversation with yourself, laced with your doubts and fears. It's hard to be in more than one conversation at once, so when you're not around people, your anxiety finally gets a chance to speak up. Or, imagine that Anxiety is a person in a group discussion, and it can never get its thoughts heard, because everyone else is talking over it. So, your anxiety doesn't come out until you're alone, and no one else is there to distract you from it.
Petrichor22
July 22nd, 2017 7:40pm
Yes. When one is alone, sometimes one tends to think a lot, and it might lead to overthinking and overthinking leads to anxious thoughts and feelings. When one feels anxiety sometimes they might make it worse by thinking about it.
neverendingMusic14
August 10th, 2017 2:28am
Yes, totally! When you're alone, it can be much harder to distract yourself from whatever thoughts would be making you feel anxious.
SoulHealing
August 19th, 2017 11:00am
Some people can handle loneliness others can't. But you can search for a way to feel better. Have you considered meditation, yoga or relaxation? maybe some therapy or help groups?
youwillfindaway
August 19th, 2017 4:26pm
It very much is. Anxiety usually comes from our thoughts and when we're alone we pay more attention to our thoughts and they make us anxious. I suggest trying this where you observe your thoughts like a third person instead of getting all caught up in them. Pretend you're on the side of the road and your thoughts are all these cars, but make sure you never get in the traffic- if that makes any sense
VeeNess
August 19th, 2017 4:31pm
It depends on the person, as to whether isolation makes you feel anxious or empowered. It is definitely not uncommon to experience anxiety when you're on you're lonesome.
rebecca947
August 27th, 2017 12:46pm
Yes, it's very normal! When we're alone, we're not distracted anymore with people or things or events happening around us. When we're alone, it can feel like time has stopped and there's nothing going on anymore. This leaves us heaps of room to think about things we've suppressed and things we feel super anxious about, which makes us feel more anxious and the cycle continues.
123AskRecieveInstruct
September 1st, 2017 4:08pm
The need for belonging is a basic human need, therefore being alone can feel "unnatural". If being alone causes anxiety you are having the same feelings as other people.
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2017 2:54pm
I guess so - yes. Being alone causes you to think about stuff. But you are never alone - there is always someone you can reach out to. #YANA
Anonymous
September 8th, 2017 5:25am
Yes. Absoloutly! The brain is wired to protect you so if you've ever watched a horror movie. The people alone die. But this rarely happens. Espesially when you alone at home. So just learn how to remind yourself when your safe and when you should be on alert
Anonymous
September 14th, 2017 11:31am
For some people, it's normal to feel more anxious when they're alone. It depends on the person and what they're dealing with. Anyone I've personally known who felt this way was anxious either because of paranoia (like they were afraid if they were alone, they were more vulnerable) or because they were afraid of being alone with their thoughts. But of course, the reason for feeling that way isn't limited to only those scenarios.
soothingStrawberry61
October 19th, 2017 2:06pm
Absolutely! When you are by yourself you can feel free to let your mind wander. Alone time can cause a lot of what ifs. IT may help to breath deeply through these moments and try grounding yourself. Find something to touch something to taste, smell, hear, and something to visualize in your mind. Try to do that to help center you. It is good that you recognize this and eventually you will be able to be alone in peace.
Sebille
October 29th, 2017 12:42pm
There are always going to be times where we feel anxious when we're alone, whether that's because something goes bump in the night or you're reminded of that deadline that's due. Should you be worried if you feel this way? I would only say you should be if it is actively and negatively affecting your ability to perform, say - it's really making you not want to leave your own company and other such things. Talking to someone about this can help, as well as speaking with a trained therapist who can work through this issue with you or even light medication to reduce some of that stress and anxiety.
SarahTheCarer
November 8th, 2017 8:56pm
Yes! Remember anxiety affects different people in different ways, so certain situations make people feel more anxious than others. Try reading the 7Cups Anxiety Guide for more help and information on anxiety.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 2:24am
It is normal to feel more anxious when you're alone because you may be afraid random people will come near you or drifting to future plans that may scare you.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2017 1:55pm
I guess. It allows you to think without distraction, and no one can reassure you when you're alone, and make you less worried.
silverPower68
November 15th, 2017 2:57pm
Yes it is normal to feel more anxious when you are alone sometimes being alone can cause anxious feelings
considerateVision16
November 15th, 2017 6:00pm
Yes, it is normal. The reason for this is because you're alone, and it may or may not be something you're used to. However if this anxious feeling fails to disappear, you can always reach out to a listener, here on 7 Cups of Tea
Will22
November 17th, 2017 7:28am
Anxiety can come on whether you are alone or with a group of people. Sometimes it can be caused by a trigger, such as someone accidentally scaring you, other times it can come on just to come on. The former is not always something to be worried about unless it causes more severe symptoms like panic attacks. When anxiety comes on and you're alone, try to think if something caused it. If it happens regularly, and you cannot think of anything, there may be an underlying reason for it. In this case, talking to a counselor for a few sessions may help the anxiety.
whimsicalLove17
November 18th, 2017 12:47am
Yes! , depending on you really if you're used to being around people, but it goes further the people feeling lonely. etc
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:41pm
It depends on the situation, but I feel better when I'm with my most trusted people when I'm in big social situations.
aestheticbeebo
November 18th, 2017 3:11pm
Yes. When you're alone you just start thinking, well more like assuming things and then you jump into conclusions and well let's just say it's best if you talk with someone or do something to distract yourself from thinking.
joyfulHug30
November 18th, 2017 11:36pm
Yes it is. When you are alone...you are alone with your thoughts. The more we think and stress the more anxious we feel. Distraction can help. Read a book. Do a puzzle. Make some cookies....
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 8:55pm
Yes, it is normal. When you are anxious you have a fear that something dangerous will happen, so if you are around people you feel safer than alone (:
hipsta
November 22nd, 2017 7:07pm
Yes, it can be normal. Some people have a phobia of being alone so it’s normal for them to feel more anxious alone
sierralocket
November 22nd, 2017 10:40pm
Well I think it's subjective. Anxiety occurs and manifests differently for everyone. There's no real way to determine when it is normal or abnormal to feel anxiety because everyone experiences it as a result of different things or factors. But on a general note I would say it is not unusual to feel anxious when you're alone. It gives you a lot of room and time to think about all the things that are bothering you, which could thus lead to feelings of anxiousness.
ThoughtlessDesign
November 25th, 2017 6:52pm
Stressors in our lives can cause us to feel anxious, but ideally when we're alone we should have the tools at our disposal to stop ourselves from feeling anxious. So it's fairly common to feel anxious when you're alone, but not ideal, so its best to take self-help steps to improve your mental wellness.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2017 9:51am
For some people yes, some find it hard tobe around lots of people so they may deal with social anxiety, but it can be exactly the same the other away around, sometimes with certain activities like driving or shopping, or even maybe just being home alone.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:41pm
it can be normal to feel more anxious when you are alone because when you are alone sometimes there can be scary or bad thoughts and some people dont know how to handle them.