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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?

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Last Updated: 04/12/2022 at 1:52pm
Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?
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MyChemicalKlance
June 24th, 2018 11:44pm
It's okay to avoid situations that make you anxious, but it it recommended that you give it a try first.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 8:14pm
It depends on how you feel at the time. If you feel you can cope with the emotions that situation brings up, then carry on. It might also go some way of helping you deal with that kinda situation in the future. But if you need to distance yourself, then that's okay too. You're not giving up, you're just not letting the negativity get to you.
beautifulbird
June 23rd, 2018 2:45am
it is most definitely okay to avoid situations that make your anxiety levels rise! its more than okay, in fact its great. you need to pick your battles, and you dont have to voluntarily put yourself in uncomfortable situations if you dont want to, its totally okay. as long as you feel safe you're good to go. however, try to get out of your comfort zones sometimes! its good for you, you should be able to tell when to stop pushing yourself, just take care of yourself
LivingInAbsoluteSilence
June 22nd, 2018 3:26pm
Avoiding situations that make you anxious is not giving up on them. It's a lot like not touching a hot pan with your bare hand because it'll burn you. Why would you purposefully go into a situation if you know it'll make you uncomfortable or cause you to panic? But that is not to say that you shouldn't work at becoming more comfortable in certain situations--like talking to new people, entering a group conversation, interacting with co-workers or peers, etc.-- if you think that that is something you can achieve through that course of action. If you want to and believe that you will be able to get yourself used to the things that cause you to become anxious, then, by all means, go for it. But, if you honestly don't see that as an option for you, then it isn't giving up if you don't pursue it, it's simply avoiding situations that you cannot handle. If you don't have that "oven-mitt", which some people don't, then I would consider avoiding the hot pan as completely normal.
juniper20
June 20th, 2018 4:45pm
Its totally okay to avoid situations that trigger your anxiety. Take it one step at a time. Tell yourself what you will do if you do get in that situation, and then one day you will feel like you can actually approach it.
Becca76
June 9th, 2018 7:27pm
You could make a deal with yourself - you’ll attend the situation for a certain amount of time, and if you become too anxious you’ll leave after that. Avoiding them completely will make it harder to go along in the long run
Ana4hear
June 9th, 2018 5:06pm
Avoiding situations that makes you anxious is not a solution. If you avoid it it’s going to grow but if you face it, you will get strong to face it. Courage is not easy but is the answer. Running away is easy but not a solution.
AllRainbowsAreMagic
June 9th, 2018 11:49am
It may feel like you are giving up, and sometimes you might be. Try and stay, particularly if it affects your work, but rather take the time out, than panic too much.
KindOfAFriend
June 9th, 2018 10:06am
No it is ok if you don’t feel ready to do things that make you anxious. If it needs more time: rest or talk about it till you feel strong enough to face it.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 4:11am
No, of course not! If a situation makes you anxious, avoid it if you are not comfortable. If you are determined to deal with the situation, take it one step at a time, with a pace that is right for you. Never force yourself into something you don't want to do.
youandmecangetthrough
June 8th, 2018 2:57pm
I think this is a good first step. The thing is to know that one day you'll have to face them again to realise you can be in those situations. When I first knew I had Social anxiety, I refused to go out with friends or to go to family. No one understood why. Then i learned some techniques to calm myself down when I am getting overwhelmed. slowly but surely i started going to parties again. It wans't easy and i often felt traumatised and I still do, but I'm trying and that's what's important. Don't feel like you're giving up on it. Look at it as a step in your growth. You can do this!
ZoeeyGayglass
June 7th, 2018 7:05am
The answer here is not black or white I'm afraid. Your first priority would be to make sure that you are safe, if a situation is triggering anxiety, it would be best to moderate your exposure to it until you've learned the skills to navigate it. That being said, there is a lot to be said for exposing yourself to situations that induce anxiety in order to defuse them in long rong.
sunshineJewel33
June 1st, 2018 4:29am
No, it isn't. Those situations are extremely uncomfortable and difficult, but they also teach us a lot, too.
LauraHeretohelp
May 31st, 2018 5:44pm
You know what is best for you, i would never label it as 'giving up'. Situations that make you anxious such as swimming in a deep ocean are easier to avoid however if your anxiety stems from common everyday activities ,such as going to school or work it is best to address the anxiety and discover your emotions and why the anxiety is there, learning to cope is a good way of dealing with anxiety, these methods can be anything from talking to others about your emotions to breathing exercises.
Rufina
May 30th, 2018 8:09pm
It’s up to you in what you do in this situation and if you want to avoid situations that make you anxious just remember that it doesn’t mean that you are giving up to it. That just means you don’t want to deal with it right now.
Monique89
May 30th, 2018 6:25pm
I think it is best to face the situations that make you anxious to help you realize that maybe it was not that bad. Otherwise if you avoid them, you are making the anxiety about the situation worse.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2018 8:45pm
It really depends on the situation. I have missed out on opportunities due to having social anxiety and have regretted it, but I have also done the vice versa where I have attended a situation that made me anxious and regretted it. If the event itself or the situation itself is one you would love to go to, I would say that it is worth the try to push yourself out of your comfort zone. If you don't, it is perfectly okay and it is not giving up. It is simply waiting the next time to do it. One must push themselves out of their comfort zones at times in order to face their fears. However, if the anxiety gets to the point where you truly do not want to attend an event and your anxiety is truly bother you, it is PERFECTLY OKAY to avoid those situations because your mental health is extremely important and you must listen to what your mind is telling you.
luna2490
May 24th, 2018 7:53am
Depends on many things. Is avoidance preventing more serious symptoms? Is this a problem or just small scenarios that dont matter; is it priority to do what you feel anxious to? I think demystification of the unknown might help. Not really facing your fears but naming them; owning them in a way you dont feel anxious but driven.
SupportiveSockMonkey
May 19th, 2018 10:53am
It is important to not stress yourself out too much regarding this, however it is best to try and push yourself outside of that boundary (even if it is only a little) to try and build up your confidence to be able to handle those situations in the future.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:42pm
It is okay to avoid a subject if you feel uncomfortable or anxious speaking with someone about them. Eventually, if you feel comfortable, then you can communicate about it in your conversation.
gentleParkruth
April 9th, 2018 5:50pm
I don't think it's considered "giving up" you're simply protecting yourself and eliminating what triggers them. It takes self-awareness to able to figure that out. I use the very same method to deal with my severe anxiety, and it had helped me tremendously.
aListeningEarReady2Hear
April 8th, 2018 6:11am
It's ok to do that sometimes, but it's not the best decision.... You should just go at the sititution at a way your less anxious ....maybe if you invite someone to join you....so your not going alone. Just do some thinking before each sititution and go into it with what seems less anxious to you.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 5:40am
This avoidance should not remain something permanent. It should be something that is avoided until you have found a good way to cope with the anxiety that is causing the situation to give you anxiety.
EndearingAysh
April 7th, 2018 5:54pm
Better to avoid such situations or if you are in one, fight it out and ensure your mental health is not affected.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 12:53am
This depends on your personal view. It is okay to avoid situations that make you anxious, however, it is also important to face these fears. You could try facing a few fears every now and then, avoiding situations that make you extremely anxious until you are ready.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:55pm
I know facin it is gonna be too damn hard but avoiding it in the long run won't be a solution because you can't run away from it forever so try to encounter it.... Your fears will start vanishing away slowly and as the time passes you will notice that you no longer feel anxious in those situations like you used to... Facing it is the only way to reduce getting anxious..... Hope it helps you... All the best
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 10:12am
In the beginning it is good to stay away from stressful events, situations and people. However as we understand more the source of the problem and we rise our defense energy field by deep breathing, relaxation, meditation, healthy food, doing sports, it is good to test us in different situations we was vulnerable before. That verifies our personal life growth.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 6:52pm
I think that it depends on how important the thing you're avoiding is to living your life. For example, if you're avoiding taking trains and that's the most convenient and cheapest way to get to work, your avoidance may pose a problem for you. But if you're anxious about bungee jumping (to use an extreme example), that's something you could completely avoid without your life being impaired.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 2:26am
I think it's always important to consider your own well being first and foremost. If the situation makes you feel completely out of your comfort zone and you can see it affects your emotions, physical body and day then yes, it's a good idea to choose an alternative that you feel makes you genuinely relaxed instead but I wouldn't recommend doing nothing at all instead :)
Sintix
March 1st, 2018 4:58pm
It's totally okay. The biggest thing is, if you want to overcome that fear eventually; you have to submerge yourself into it repeatedly. Sometimes, it isn't as bad as we thought. Now, if the situation harms you or anyone else in any way, definitely don't do it.