It’s been 8 years and I still can’t do basic public speaking. I only cry. Whats wrong with me?

Hello. You seem to experience intense emotions when you are in public. it would be interesting to identify them: are you crying because you are afraid, because you are sad (...)? There is nothing wrong with you. You are not alone in this situation. Many people also have difficulty entering public. Speaking in public is not really easy. Therefore, you don't have to feel guilty. It's okay not to get there, to be overwhelmed by emotions. Speaking in public is something sometimes required in society, within a group: but fundamentally it is unnecessary. If you want to talk about it privately, don't hesitate to send me a message. :)

I am really sorry that you feel that but there is nothing wrong with you. It's completely normal to feel nervous and react to an activity that has something to do with speaking in front of a large audience. It's very normal to feel that way and the most imminent public speakers also felt the same way when they started off their journey and still do feel a little of it after years of practice. It's a normal human reaction from the mind and body. Public speaking requires a bit of practice and the more you do it, the better you get at it. You can start practicing slowly, by reading out short essays in front of the mirror, in front of family members and friends, and increase the number of people listening to you. Then memorize some essays and talk about it or have a spontaneous topic to talk about for a few minutes and you will see that you gain your confidence bit by bit. You can find and enroll in some public speaking courses which could be very helpful in terms of gaining confidence. Also, another thing that's helpful here is to focus on the thought that 'Express to express and not to impress' and thinking about the fact that people in the audience also feel nervous like everyone else. Hope this helps and all the best to you!

I can really hear you are in a position where you feel disappointed, insecure or ashamed regarding your emotional reactions in your public speaking skills. It's understandable that you wanted to be confident in your speech and that emotions took over. Ask yourself how you perceive speaking in front of others. What are your thoughts in that social situation particularly? You have been given the opportunity to do public speaking because people believe in your talent! The cry probably indicates that you are not comfortable with public speaking. It could be the public speaking itself. It could be its meaning to you. Maybe it's a very important audience. Maybe you are not very sure about your position or don't feel ready for the speech. Maybe that incident 8 years ago made you link up public speaking with bad feelings. When this attitude is going to affect your life and development, that is something wrong - and we can cope with it better. To explore any questions you have and further explore thoughts, feelings and emotions you are welcome to reach out to one of our listeners and therapists on our site. Also available are mindfulness exercises as well as self-help guides.