Knowing that fear that's from my past still impacts on my life causing anxiety ! How do you let go of fear ?

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Last Updated: 12/04/2018 at 10:53am
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therapinto
March 17th, 2015 7:08am
Recognize that peace lives within you. Start acknowledging your fears, analyze it. Try to find out what made the fear to first come to your mind. Make a note of things that trigger fright. Now that you completely understand your fear, think about what exactly you want to change. You already have your big goal set - you want to overcome your fear - but it's important to set smaller concrete goals to help you get there.
shimmyshan
May 26th, 2015 10:01pm
The first step to letting go is accepting that the fear is there. The past cannot be changed so there is no use in worrying how it impacts you now. Work with your current situation and simply do the best you can. Acknowledging fear and being okay with it gives it less power to control your life.
IntuitiveDrops
May 27th, 2015 1:14pm
Fear will decrease with the more successful and positive experiences you make with the thing you are afraid of. Avoiding it will increase your anxiety. But you have to be willing to face the difficult, anxiety-causing event step by step. You can even make a plan, if you feel safer that way. Just make sure to get started and start to face it step by step. You will see that you will make progress and even gain new experience. Your fear will learn that it can decrease naturally that way. Fear is there to protect you, but if it´s fear that interferes with your life, you need to make an effort to show your fear that it is not needed anymore.
queensupernova302
April 21st, 2015 1:12am
I let go of fear by using breathing exercises, which calm me down and help me focus on what the fear has impacted on my life. The anxiety is reduced with the breathing exercise as well, which helps with levelheadedness and a clear mind. Then, I focus on whatever made me feel fear in the first place and try to solve the problem with a reasonable answer.
Youniq
May 4th, 2015 1:44am
Meditation comes in handy for situations like this. This video contains everything you need. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFYl8TVNwg8
Emmaij
July 7th, 2015 12:59pm
You let go of fear by facing it,to learn how to deal with it & to accept it. Talk to people about it
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 9:30pm
think of something or someone positive in your life and make sure you always have a happy and joyful memory, everytime your sad or scared think of that.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 7:17pm
It is really hard to let go of fear. For me, it was realizing that it was impacting my life in a negative way and reaching out for additional help because I realized that I couldn't do it alone. Eventually, I learned that my fears and the outcomes were not as out of my control as they once were and I could take steps to prevent them from taking over. There are other things that I wanted to do more than I wanted to hold on to my fears.
Nephist
March 8th, 2016 12:05am
You have to move forward from it. That's better said than done, though. Forget about the past, find things in the present that make you happy, and with those happy things, look forward to the future.
FHI
May 29th, 2018 8:40pm
To learn how to not let the past break you, and use it instead as a tool to help you develop as an individual.
ZacharyK
July 16th, 2018 4:44pm
You need to try and find coping techniques and whenever the fear returns. Remember that you are strong enough to beat it. Have self courage.
Benjamin64
August 14th, 2018 8:11pm
You let go of fear by looking at it. You can’t ignore it or deny it. It’s part of you but it’s not all of you and can be forgotten if you work at it. Even if you don’t like it the best thing you can do is write everything down and constantly analyse it telling yourself every day that it’s not rational.
PossibleOfMe
September 10th, 2018 3:01am
Anxiety is something I have dealt with my whole life. The best way I have learned to get past my fears is creating a fear ladder so I can take baby steps from the least scary thing towards the thing that I fear most. Sometimes this means reminding myself to do it in spite of the fear because giving into it will set me back and reinforce it. In the moment when I feel that anxiety I will focus on my breathing, grounding with my 5 senses, and not allow my thoughts to spiral negatively. Doing the thing that I fear over and over again has shown me that I was looking at things irrationally as a worst-case scenario and I really can handle it.
niceMonkey80
December 4th, 2018 10:53am
how do you let go of fear? it might be hard, but you might want to confront the fear you’re facing. think about all the fear you’re feeling and say ‘i’m not scared’ ‘i can get through this’. or, you could think about the realism of the fear. is it irrational? is it inevitable? if whatever you’re afraid of is most likely going to happen, why worry about it? you can’t stop it so just let it happen. i know this is hard to do but sometimes worrying about the fear is just as bad as the actual fear.