My boyfriend has anxiety attacks and when he does I don’t know what to do or what I can do to help him? He tells me to just stop talking. What can I do to help him? I don’t understand at all

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Last Updated: 07/17/2018 at 6:43pm
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Vivian4
April 30th, 2018 12:58pm
When someone has Panic Attack you need to do whatever that person needs for their comfort. Ask him when he doesn't have it, how does he feels and what would feel best for him for you to do in this situations. For every person it works differently, some needs to be touched, someone needs to be alone, stay quiet or be given water or talking instead. Try to find ways to stay calm. If you will get frustrated or nervous you will make it harder for him. If u need more help. Type me. :)
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 3:38pm
Don't talk a lot coz that might make him feel worse. Let him relax, help him breath counting his breath or ask him to breath in n out slowly. If he needs space, give him. He'll be fine. Just try making him feel it's okay, coz I'm sure he might be feeling embarrassed about it.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 8:13pm
People with anxiety sometimes just need to be left alone. You can't pressure them to open up to you because it will just make the situation worse. I believe you've answered your own question just stop talking and let him be make sure he knows you're there for him and leave it be.
asorie536
June 25th, 2018 2:57am
I understand. Your boyfriend frequently has anxiety attacks, yet pushes you away and this brings you feelings of confusion. Have you tried quietly listening to his thoughts?
ZacharyK
July 16th, 2018 4:43pm
You may need to contact a professional about this issue. If he is not listening to you there is only so much you can do yourself.
UntilThen
July 17th, 2018 10:00am
Only he will know what works best for him. If he just needs silence, let him have it. If you want to do more, ask him afterwards if there is anything else you can do. But if he says there isn't anything else he needs, it very well might be that you are doing all you can, even when it doesn't feel like enough.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 6:43pm
Just hug him and comfort him and tell him everything’s going to be okay and that your here for him.