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I work with youth and young adults to help them improve depressive symptoms and self-esteem as well as effectively address family, relationship and peer conflicts.
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You don't have to. I don't know how long you've been dating, but it's a really amazing thing when you two can be in each others space without being in each others faces.
Whatever you and her are comfortable with. If you're going out I'd assume there's a fair bit of knowlege about the other that the both of you have, so you know what she likes to talk about and vis versa. While partners can share more intimate things between themselves that doesn't also mean they can't talk about more casual things. Lastly don't be scared to have conversations you might think go wrong- obviously use a bit of common sense- but if there's a conversation you think might go poorely, just go for it. Making mistakes is an essential part of being human, nobody is perfect.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 9:49pm
You can talk about common interests like music,television or many other things. Youll find something
hobbies, favourite tv shows, music, views on particular events, experience in past and also present, and most importantly, your future!
What would you like the future to be, not necessarily the relationship. The world perhaps? You dream-job?
You could talk about your potential to grow together. You could try to analyze her to understand her better. You could ask her her opinion on anything you have a strong opinion on. You could try to get to know her family, know how she feels about them.... Know how she feels about different people other than you, know her favorite things.... You could talk about shows you both like, games you both like. You could talk about her worst fears and her best dreams. You could ask her about her insecurities so you'd get to help her with them. You could understand her as much as possible so you can help her improve as much as you can.
It really depends if there are troubles or not. If you just want something to talk about just ask simple questions like her favorite colour or animal
There are many types of conversation topics from what went on today to various philosophical questions, but it will depends on what the interests are. Who said talk is the only thing you can do? You can make weird sounds and invent a new language. ;-) On a more fun side, games can be played in place of talking.
I would talk about my intrests,ask what she likes and doesn't like and her intrests.I would talk about my day,my feelings and ask about hers.I would talk about anything we have in common.
Anything! films, books, tv, music! Anything to get the conversation flowing. Ask her questions too to enage her in the conversation you want to have.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 4:51pm
In my opinion you can talk about anything you are comfortable with. Always depending on your relationship, your values, your convictions. If you have a open relationship then you shouldn't worry that much with what you should talk about because their is always something to say. Remember that communication it's crucial for a Healthy and strong relationship.
I find that if you can't be with your partner the best thing to do is 'plan' a scenario or event that you would both go to. For example I could range from a date or travel plans such as a holiday. I find that the more details you add the more fun the conversation becomes.
Anything! Your favourite things to do, old stories... Or ask her questions (not too many or you could sound intimidating!) ask her what she likes to do, her favourite foods- find out lots about her (even peculiar things) and you will become closer!
You can talk about your hobbies, the last movie you watched and your goals in life as well as current events in the news.
If you're out of conversation, tell her you want to chat, about anything, and ask random questions like 'if you could go to any country, where would you go?' and 'If you could have dinner with 5 celebrities, dead or alive, who would you choose?' These will make her think, reply, and probably ask you the same questions back. Fun conversations like that let you learn new things about each other too.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 6:03pm
anything at all. Talk about what makes you happy, talk about what mkesyou sad, just support each other, heck even talk about the weather im sure she just likes the ocmpany
If you are stuck for conversation the best thing to do is to find something you have in common e.g. music, art, sport ! Why not ask some questions? e.g. "whats your favorite color?" or "do you have any siblings?" - showing an interest is a good way to keep a good relationship.
Good luck
Talk about the things that you are passionate about, your life goals, maybe your favorite music, etc. It isn't too hard and should all come naturally.
There are many things you can talk about with her. Talk about your hopes, dreams, life goals, and ask her about hers. If you're having a bad day you can talk to her about it. Talking to someone you care for about all aspects of your life can be very beneficial for both of you and create a strong bond between you.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 7:58pm
Anything! A girlfriend is a person you should be able to share anything with. If not, you migth not know eachother well enough. A good tip anyway is to talk about stuff you both have in common, that way you meet at mutual ground.
You can talk about anything! A significant other can be a wonderful thing to have in your life, hopefully as the relationship develops you can share yourself with them and they with you.
You can talk about anything with your girlfriend! Talk about yours and her interests, tell her about her day and ask her about hers.
Talk about life goals, the future, what's going on in the world, current events, entertainment, family
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 4:17pm
Whatever you BOTH enjoy. If you talk about what you enjoy she won't listen or understand and if you talk about something she enjoys she might think you like it when you don't.
Talk with her until you find some common interests and then talk about those. For instance, you really like video games, ask her if she likes them or would like to play one with you sometime.
what do you mean what can you talk about with yourgirlfriend? Just try to find out what you both or intrested and talk about that.
Everything - including my darkest thoughts, deepest fears, what I think & feel about other girls. Honesty is freedom. Lucky her!
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 8:55pm
Just listen and take interest in whatever she wants to talk about, natural conversation will soon follow. Good luck
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 5:01am
What drew you to your girlfriend when you got together? What kinds of activities do you like to do together? Those would be great topics of conversation.
Let the conversation develop naturally. If you two have chemistry, small talk will flow into deeper conversation. Allow yourself to shift from casual banter to more personal subjects. Take advantage of openings that allow you to get to know each other better:
I take guitar lessons too! Why did you pick guitar over all the other instruments in the world?
You get your license in three months? Where would you go if you had a car?
School break is only two weeks away! Where are you going for the holidays?
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