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What do I talk about with my girlfriend?

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optimisticOrange42
February 6th, 2016 11:09pm
Just be yourself. And being yourself will help you talk about whatever you want to talk about at that moment. Try to get to know each other, that'll also make you feel more comfortable around her. You'll find out with time that you don't even have to think about what to say anymore, since it just becomes part of your routine, which doesn't mean it has to become boring, quite the opposite actually, you can go into conversations with more and more meaning.
Theleavesinmay
February 7th, 2016 6:58am
You don't have to. I don't know how long you've been dating, but it's a really amazing thing when you two can be in each others space without being in each others faces.
Quechua
February 11th, 2016 12:16am
Whatever you and her are comfortable with. If you're going out I'd assume there's a fair bit of knowlege about the other that the both of you have, so you know what she likes to talk about and vis versa. While partners can share more intimate things between themselves that doesn't also mean they can't talk about more casual things. Lastly don't be scared to have conversations you might think go wrong- obviously use a bit of common sense- but if there's a conversation you think might go poorely, just go for it. Making mistakes is an essential part of being human, nobody is perfect.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 9:49pm
You can talk about common interests like music,television or many other things. Youll find something
Cleeto
February 13th, 2016 4:15am
hobbies, favourite tv shows, music, views on particular events, experience in past and also present, and most importantly, your future!
Egiran99
February 13th, 2016 7:35am
What would you like the future to be, not necessarily the relationship. The world perhaps? You dream-job?
Yourfairygodbro
February 13th, 2016 7:38am
You could talk about your potential to grow together. You could try to analyze her to understand her better. You could ask her her opinion on anything you have a strong opinion on. You could try to get to know her family, know how she feels about them.... Know how she feels about different people other than you, know her favorite things.... You could talk about shows you both like, games you both like. You could talk about her worst fears and her best dreams. You could ask her about her insecurities so you'd get to help her with them. You could understand her as much as possible so you can help her improve as much as you can.
bambooPanda15
February 13th, 2016 5:05pm
It really depends if there are troubles or not. If you just want something to talk about just ask simple questions like her favorite colour or animal
PacificSunrise
February 14th, 2016 7:49am
There are many types of conversation topics from what went on today to various philosophical questions, but it will depends on what the interests are. Who said talk is the only thing you can do? You can make weird sounds and invent a new language. ;-) On a more fun side, games can be played in place of talking.
Sassy001
February 14th, 2016 12:28pm
I would talk about my intrests,ask what she likes and doesn't like and her intrests.I would talk about my day,my feelings and ask about hers.I would talk about anything we have in common.
geeb0t
February 14th, 2016 4:21pm
Anything! films, books, tv, music! Anything to get the conversation flowing. Ask her questions too to enage her in the conversation you want to have.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 4:51pm
In my opinion you can talk about anything you are comfortable with. Always depending on your relationship, your values, your convictions. If you have a open relationship then you shouldn't worry that much with what you should talk about because their is always something to say. Remember that communication it's crucial for a Healthy and strong relationship.
whimsicalApple76
February 14th, 2016 10:26pm
I find that if you can't be with your partner the best thing to do is 'plan' a scenario or event that you would both go to. For example I could range from a date or travel plans such as a holiday. I find that the more details you add the more fun the conversation becomes.
PhoenixSoul
February 14th, 2016 10:28pm
talk to her about any topics you love and also about topics she loves .if you are in harmony then these topics will be very nice for both of you ....be yourself without acting .
prettypurplepetal
February 17th, 2016 9:23am
Anything! Your favourite things to do, old stories... Or ask her questions (not too many or you could sound intimidating!) ask her what she likes to do, her favourite foods- find out lots about her (even peculiar things) and you will become closer!
CaringJoy
February 17th, 2016 12:18pm
You can talk about your hobbies, the last movie you watched and your goals in life as well as current events in the news.
ahannahi96
February 17th, 2016 1:21pm
If you're out of conversation, tell her you want to chat, about anything, and ask random questions like 'if you could go to any country, where would you go?' and 'If you could have dinner with 5 celebrities, dead or alive, who would you choose?' These will make her think, reply, and probably ask you the same questions back. Fun conversations like that let you learn new things about each other too.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 6:03pm
anything at all. Talk about what makes you happy, talk about what mkesyou sad, just support each other, heck even talk about the weather im sure she just likes the ocmpany
Daisyfletchx
February 17th, 2016 11:08pm
If you are stuck for conversation the best thing to do is to find something you have in common e.g. music, art, sport ! Why not ask some questions? e.g. "whats your favorite color?" or "do you have any siblings?" - showing an interest is a good way to keep a good relationship. Good luck
globalMoon42
February 18th, 2016 1:47am
Talk about the things that you are passionate about, your life goals, maybe your favorite music, etc. It isn't too hard and should all come naturally.
joyfulCandy52
February 18th, 2016 4:36am
There are many things you can talk about with her. Talk about your hopes, dreams, life goals, and ask her about hers. If you're having a bad day you can talk to her about it. Talking to someone you care for about all aspects of your life can be very beneficial for both of you and create a strong bond between you.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 7:58pm
Anything! A girlfriend is a person you should be able to share anything with. If not, you migth not know eachother well enough. A good tip anyway is to talk about stuff you both have in common, that way you meet at mutual ground.
EllaLoves
February 19th, 2016 12:34am
You can talk about anything! A significant other can be a wonderful thing to have in your life, hopefully as the relationship develops you can share yourself with them and they with you.
JordanPeraltaa
February 19th, 2016 3:12am
You can talk about anything with your girlfriend! Talk about yours and her interests, tell her about her day and ask her about hers.
RyanLau21
February 19th, 2016 9:00pm
Talk about life goals, the future, what's going on in the world, current events, entertainment, family
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 4:17pm
Whatever you BOTH enjoy. If you talk about what you enjoy she won't listen or understand and if you talk about something she enjoys she might think you like it when you don't.
creativeDay52
February 21st, 2016 5:21pm
Talk with her until you find some common interests and then talk about those. For instance, you really like video games, ask her if she likes them or would like to play one with you sometime.
kimmy500
February 22nd, 2016 4:02am
what do you mean what can you talk about with yourgirlfriend? Just try to find out what you both or intrested and talk about that.
YunusB
February 24th, 2016 4:06pm
Everything - including my darkest thoughts, deepest fears, what I think & feel about other girls. Honesty is freedom. Lucky her!
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 8:55pm
Just listen and take interest in whatever she wants to talk about, natural conversation will soon follow. Good luck