I was so hurt and bent out of shape several years ago, after many years of chosen singlehood, and the relationship ending abruptly! I obsessed about how foolish I had been, letting myself be used, and then dumped via text, ouch! It was a 6 month long distance relationship and I was falling for the other person. It was a painful loss. The depression was instant, but the self-care came immediately when I changed by phone number, the day of the break-up. I notice that friends who have had similar break-ups, tend not to do this at all, in the hopes, unconsciously, that maybe their lost beloved will call and want to get back together. This is the worst thing we can do, as our self-esteem hinges on letting another person define us as women and it can be very depressing. My own level of depression was deep at the time, and I was spiraling down with self-loathing. It was hard to get out of bed, and my anger was turned inward. I saw a counselor and that was very helpful. I also shared my sadness and grief with friends who were supportive. Depression comes in many forms, lack of interest in normal things...check! Lack of pleasure, check! Lack of energy and appetite and trouble sleeping, check! I had all of those symptoms. I found that movement, even walking, is an antidote for those symptoms. I think in addition to the physical, social and professional help, my faith in a loving higher power, really got me through! Anyone who suffers from depression, and we all do at some point in our lives, would get through it with less trauma, (there's no way around it) by reaching out, as well as within. Sometimes medication is required, and there is no shame in that. Whatever it looks like, my message to you is to just get the help you need! Life is full of hellos and goodbyes, and a series and highs and lows. To me, the key is to not get too high or low, and nurture myself in the hard times, with support, meditation and prayer. I sure wish I had 7cups back then!!! Be Blessed and remember, it'll get better! Peace, Majestic.