What if people wonder why I move my shoulder blades and blink a lot?
Last Updated: 01/14/2020 at 11:36pm
Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
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We all have our quirks. That is what makes us who we are - unique - and uniqueness is special. So be proud of your uniqueness because while you may wonder why you move your shoulder blades and blink a lot, people don't notice either of those at all. They are really focused on two things. Their own insecurities about themselves and the beauty that they see in the uniqueness of you that you never recognise.
People generally don't tend to notice what other people are doing as they are absorbed in their own activities. If they do ask you about it then try to give an answer that would be brief and comfortable for you.
A lot of times when I've worried about what people would think about me having odd compulsions or movements, I've had to remind myself that most people don't notice me nearly as much as I think they do! They are far more worried about whatever THEY are doing. So I remind myself of that, and I have an answer I'm comfortable with handy in case someone actually seems to find me odd. I'll just be as lighthearted as I can if I think someone noticed (like, "Oh, sorry I'm XXXX, I've been stressed lately and get a little twitchy!" or "Ugh, you ever just get so restless you can't be still?"). I don't think I've ever had anyone actually ASK me why I was wiggling around, but I felt better when I had an answer ready ahead of time!
I don't worry about this, for both. I just know what is my mindstate and what I have to do to make it better. When I meet people who make fun, I feel pity and now I joke about it. Others know and guide me :)
I've seen many people do that. For some, it's just a nervous habit they may have. Unless it has to do with some sort of medication you are on, that would cause ticks, it should be harmless. It MAY be an indication of a condition, but you should not make that assumption on your own (nor would I be qualified to make such a diagnosis, just throwing out some possible theories). If you are concerned about it, I'd definitely speak to your doctor about it. Good luck!
Then they must be very bored in their own lives, if they actually feel the need to bother you with stupid questions. You do you. Don't worry about anyone else, it's not their business.
Well what if people do ? What's the worst thing that can happen ? You are safe around people who love you, know your doing the best you can and arn't afraid to talk to someone when you feel like a chat
People always wonder the most weirdest things so no reason worrying about it. Sometimes its good for you to just ignore it unless its said to your face.
More often than not people won't even notice your movement or blinking unless you mention it to them.
I don't think many people would think or ask that, and if so just let them know why you do it, and if you don't know why you do it, just simply say you don't know why but you do it anyway.
Some people may wonder about certain habits you have, but the amount of time they spend thinking about them is much less than you might think. It's so hard to comprehend that. In reality people may notice a habit, but they quickly move on to seeing or thinking other things. If you are concerned about these habits perhaps you might want to see someone to determine the cause.
Let them wonder. If people are judging you, it means that you're putting yourself out there in the world despite your discomfort. That's huge. Keep putting yourself out there. Your tics are part of a medical condition you can't control, and anyone judging you negatively for them simply doesn't understand what it's like to be in a body that doesn't quite want to behave in spite of your best efforts. So let them stare, and stare back if you need to. You don't have anything to apologize for.
Odds are, they didn't notice! Everyone else is probably worrying about their own blinking and shoulder blade moving, and not noticing someone else.
Its okay if people wonder, just help them understand. People will always wonder about things, good and bad. Sometimes helping them understand will help them see it from a different view.
A lot of the time, in my experience, people are preoccupied with their own self-presentation. And honestly, if people do wonder why you do these things, I don't know if they will automatically make assumptions. Perhaps it will stop there, just a "wonder". If they are comfortable with you, or care enough, they'll ask you why you do so. And you can answer honestly. This sort of interaction will build their understand of you. People do all sorts of unique body movements! Don't be afraid to behave in the ways that feel the most natural to you. It is likely true that you are much more aware of your own unique behaviours than those around you.
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