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What if the person I was just talking to thought I was trying to be rude?

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Last Updated: 07/03/2018 at 1:06am
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riverWillow6
December 13th, 2016 3:53pm
It sounds like there was a misunderstanding or miscommunication. When this happens to me, I try to identify why the person may have thought I was being rude. Was it my tone? Was I impatient or distracted? If not, could I have seemed to be? Figuring out the core reason can help you rectify the situation and allow you to communicate your true message to that person more effectively.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2015 7:07pm
I would recommend clarifying your intentions with the injured party, and acknowledging their feelings. It doesn't help to simply deny that you were being rude; what matters most is how they feel about it. Help them understand that it wasn't your intention to be rude, and apologize for the misunderstanding.
Amanda9715
April 29th, 2015 3:30am
I generally apologize, saying that it was not meant to be rude. Then I usually reword what I was trying to say.
Elina99
May 20th, 2015 5:38pm
Then you should try to explain yourself and rephrase your words so they understand what you really meant.
PoliteOcean
September 7th, 2015 10:00pm
It is up to you how you want to handle the situation. However if you want to be cordial, it would be nice to explain yourself and how you meant for it to come out or sound.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 5:43am
Try not to think badly of yourself or them that way. If they don't come out and tell you they thought you were rude, assume nothing. If they do say something to you then just politely exlain to them that you had no intentions of making them feel that way.
MarcV
August 8th, 2016 9:22am
There's always the assuming thing in every person some people can be sensitive and took it wrong way
Anonymous
February 11th, 2015 10:01am
Well, you can apologize and kindly explain your perspective on things. Express that it wasn't your intention to do so, just that your a little nervous so you behaved unintentionally a certain way that could be perceived by others as 'rude'.
SagaciousWizard
May 14th, 2015 7:21am
Clarify exactly what you were talking about and add politeness with a pleasant demeanor so the person understands the meaning of the topic. The opposite of being rude is being polite and also often respectfulness.
smvthy
May 14th, 2015 7:44pm
I feel like this all the time, but sometimes it's called tough love. Maybe asking them if you appeared rude would help you sort this, people are often much more honest to direct questions
SpiritWolfNYC
May 30th, 2015 2:20am
Inform them that your wording my have been wrong and maybe let them know that you hope you didn't come off as rude.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2015 3:08pm
If your intentions are in the right place you don't get as affected by what someone else thinks of you.
DipityEnigma
September 7th, 2015 1:20am
Tell them: "I'm sorry that I came across as rude; it was not my intention. I'm sorry if I offended you." This should help them. As long as you're civilised, they should be ok with you.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2015 6:30pm
Don't worry, just ask them nicely and either way you can explain! Most likely they didn't think you were being rude!
heartsNcupcakes
September 12th, 2015 2:27am
It could be that there was a miscommunication on either end and it does happen. We're human. Normally, I just explain to them that my intentions were not to be rude and apologize if it came off that way. Then, I try to rephrase myself.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2016 9:17pm
Clarifying things with them should make it clear to both parties. Avoid misunderstanding then go on.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2018 1:06am
Explain to that's person you wasn't trying to be mean. Hopefully they will understand. You might have just had an off day