What is the best way to get over anxiety due to fear of someone walking out of your life?
Last Updated: 12/08/2020 at 9:42pm
Tracy-Kate Teleke, M.A., LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.
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The best way to get over this anxiety is to work on your self-esteem and the realization that your happiness depends on you and not on the person who may or may not walk out of your life. We cannot control the actions of others but only our own.
People come and go throughout your entire life. Enjoy the experiencing you share with people when you can. If a friendship or relationship ends negatively, view it as an opportunity to grow and learn.
Fear of abandonment is very disempowering. It leaves you dependent on someone else's opinion for happiness. Accepting that you can't control what other people do in your life or how long they'll be there may be the best way to ensure you future happiness.
It may not work for you, but for me reminding myself that nothing is Certain in the future and that I might as well enjoy today can help. I tend to get caught up in the Future and dwell their in anxiety, but when I return my focus to the present I am happier and more reasonable and realistic. It also helps to remind myself that come what may, I will survive. And, that by NOT assuming they will leave, I lessen the likelihood that my anxiety will drive them away. So, I try to keep those three things in mind (as well as use coping skills to manage my anxiety).
Know that you are strong yourself and don't need to rely on anyone! I know it's difficult, but it's possible. It makes sense you are feeling that way. :)
It might help you to discuss your fear to this special person, and let them know that you appreciate having them in your life.
Surround yourself with others so that you know that even if they do, you will always have other people there for you.
Anxiety is a hard thing to overcome, but one of the huge things I see myself doing is replacing that person who walks out of my life. Its not the healthiest thing to do, nor the best. But its a human reaction.
I often ask myself this very question! Sometimes it's all about communication. Openly discuss your feelings in a vulnerable way and explain that even the gentlest encouragements and reassurance moves mountains in combatting those feelings. If you're both on the same page, it can ease your anxiety as well as help that other person understand your anxiety along your journey.
Accept the fact that things happen. People come and go. Not everyone is going to stay in your life forever. Don't let the fear of people leaving, stop you from living your life and meeting new people. Building new relationships is essential.
Anxiety is a valid emotion when you lose somebody in your life. Finding or forming coping strategies can help you feel at peace with yourself and your surroundings.
The best way would be to expose yourself to what you're afraid of.
know that every person has a definite time in your life and if they leave they will leave for good and a better person will take their place. its just how life goes.
You have to realize that you must face your fears. No one gets anywhere in life without taking risks, so take the risk. We never know what the outcome will be. No one can read the future. If you do not face that fear, that person could walk out of your life regardless.
Work at your own self confidence and awareness. The confidence to be more independent/not reliant on someone else for security- whether that's through working towards personal goals, or figuring out what they bring to your life that you can bring to your own life. And self awareness- to know where your weak areas are that they help you with, and self-assessing situations to be better in those areas and better at coming to conclusions yourself. At the end of the day, it's better to do what you can to build up your emotional strength in the event that they do walk out of your life rather than to have it come as a shock and not be ready for it at all.
All we really have is this moment and ourselves. The future doesn't exist; we can't control other people. This may sound lonely and scary, but it's part of the human experience. We are all, each of us alone, together.
Realizing those who walk out of your life are the ones who are choosing to be left out and that those who stay in your life are the ones that mattered anyways.
I think mindfulness is most important and realizing what has happened to learn from mistakes. I always find distractions and other ways to feel very helpful. I notice that sometimes when we are overwhelmed with anxiety we aren't sure as to who to turn to. I think that sometimes we can't always get over anxiety since it is one of our emotions but we can help lessen anxiety panic. I think by having a strong support system and trusted adults to go to can help lessen the severity of our anxiety before it could become more harmful. Always check in on yourself no matter if you are anxious or not. Remain mindful.
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