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What should I do if people think I am lying?

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Anonymous
June 6th, 2018 12:51am
It depends on if it's from past experiences with you or possibly just wrong group of friends. If it's from past lies you just keep on proving you have changed. If they cant accept that over time may need new friends
PileOfDirtyLaundry
June 1st, 2018 10:35am
It depends on wether I really am lying or not. If I am lying, I must think carefully of what pushed me to lie and why I let it affect me. If I am not lying, I shouldn’t care so much for what people think because I know eventually the truth will be seen and judgemental people will eventually feel bad for misjudging honest people.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 12:33pm
In my experience, it helps to accept that no matter what, some people will always question you/your stories. I try to remain authentic, to the point and patient. We all questions things, it's human nature, but if you remain honest there's literally nothing more you can do so be strong. Lastly, actions speak louder than words, you can always show people who you are instead of telling them :)
ardentAuthoress
May 17th, 2018 11:19pm
I believe that conviction in your own beliefs is more important than having other people believe in you. From there, if you seek their support, you should try and prove your point kindly and politely by stating the reasons why you believe in whatever you believe in. If they still think you are lying, then you are probably better off not bringing the subject up again.
CommunicationHeals
May 10th, 2018 5:59pm
Ask them what you could do to show that you are telling the truth, and then do that. In the case that they ask for unreasonable proof, remind them that you are happy to give them proof, but that what they are asking for is impossible or unreasonable— and then explain why it's unreasonable, and ask for another way you could prove it. If you can't come to an agreement, it might be time to accept that they won't believe you at all, at least not now.
ColorfulIvy13
May 2nd, 2018 10:07pm
If you aren't then let them know, if they won't believe then try ignoring them. Yeah I know that can be hard, but sometimes that's the best way to go about things.
LondonEars5
April 30th, 2018 9:42pm
If people think I’m lying it is thier opinion. I have in fact been in this position and found it very distressing when family members and friends have thought I was lying. The mistruths I have told we’re to stop others from getting hurt. There are certain things adult try to spare tier children. Other people I just pray will become victims of thier own karma. This is a piece I have written without the over thinking process !
courageousMelody48
April 29th, 2018 8:02am
Think about why people perceive you as a liar. They may be right, they may be mistaken. You don't have to over-explain yourself to people who treat you with mistrust
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 6:25pm
If people think you are lying, you have a couple of options. You can prove them wrong (using proof), or ignore them and let them think however they want. Usually if you have proof of whatever it may be, they will believe you.
hopefulWhisper21
April 23rd, 2018 4:51pm
If people think you're lying, take the time to clearly explain yourself, without begging for their acceptance. You have to live for you, and not for others.
exquisiteRainbows65
April 18th, 2018 6:47am
It doesn't really matter what people think, you should know that you are being truthful and that what really counts. They can keep their opinion to themselves and I believe truth always find its way to the surface sooner r later.
Ebeyn
April 14th, 2018 7:44am
Let them think what they want to think. Atleast you know you're telling the truth and you are not lying
iamdeeplysorry4069
March 9th, 2018 6:02pm
looking for answers on the internet.. we've all been there. its okay. But please read this and understand where I'm coming from. I know many of you who are reading this are stressed, nervous, and don't know what to do in your current situation. To start off, DONT lie. Trust me its going to get you in shit. Take it from a girl who always lies just to save her self from getting in trouble. Yup. I always lie to my parents because I know what I did was wrong, but I didn't want to get introuble. It really is scary when you get caught of something you're not supposed to do. So my advice to you is don't ever lie and don't do something you know is gonna get you in shit. Always tell the truth no matter what, and no matter what happens, listen to whatever your parents have to say. Stay calm, and eventually the problem will be dead. Just do the right thing from now on. Don't be stupid. Think twice before you do something dumb. I hope you read this all. And if you did, I hope this helped you. Remember, we are humans and humans aren't perfect. we all make mistakes to either expirience things or to see how its like. So don't worry and don't stress everyone goes through shit and gets through it eventually. STAY STRONG.
WaterLilyListener
February 21st, 2018 3:58am
Think of why they might think that you are lying. Then, determine the best course of action to defend yourself. If after attempting to defend yourself, you're still not believed it may be time to let it go.
wishfulSound98
February 13th, 2018 1:32am
Do your best to reassure them that you are not lying and that your actions are genuine, but if they do not see it through then that is their loss. Not yours :)
ImHereForYou2282
February 10th, 2018 11:37pm
Check and make sure your not. If your not, then tell them that you are telling the truth. If they choose not to believe you then they are worthy of your presence.
SpiritualCalm
February 8th, 2018 5:32am
Continue to tell my truth. There is nothing better than telling your feeling and facts. People will be people and not all will like or believe you, but if one stays strong minded everything will work out fine
issueseekerandproblemsolver102
February 7th, 2018 10:50am
You should prove your point and stand up for yourself and tell them I'm not lying if they don't trust you then prove your point.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 4:58pm
If people think you're lying, that's their fault for not trusting you. Unless there is a way to prove that you're not lying, it will be hard to make them understand that you're not. The best thing to do is to not say anything and try to continue the conversation. If you keep trying to say you're not lying, nothing will change. If you give in to it and say "you know what, I am." that'll only fuel their belief and not trust you.
LotusFlower92
January 12th, 2017 3:59pm
Kindly explain to them how it makes you feel when they think you're lying. For example, "It makes me feel poorly about myself when people think I'm lying, when I'm really telling the truth." Also, explain to them that it would make you feel better if they listen and show compassion. Hope all is well.
wonderfullEndfoftherainbow27
January 15th, 2017 11:39am
You could communicate what you think and feel but ultimately as long as you know the truth that's all that matters. People are different so you won't be able to convince everyone but if you do the best that you can do in this situation then that is more than enough.
delicatePoetry
April 13th, 2017 12:01pm
You trying to talk them into believing that you are saying truth would be pretty useless since these people clearly don't trust you. As hard as it might be, I think just ignore them. Just kindly say that you are not lying and then just don't do anything about it. Make it clear that you have said everything that there is to know about this subject. With time maybe, with you actions you will prove them wrong. But don't get too carried away by doing this on purpose. Just let them think whatever they want. You know that you are being an honest person and that is all that matters. Don't let them get to you.
SmileyBear
April 30th, 2017 7:49am
Just tell them you are being honest and stick to it. Don't alter your story and say it with confidence. If they still believe your lying don't accept what they say about you, just trust yourself, know you're being honest and eventually they should come round.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 5:50pm
If someone thinks you are lying, it is important to remember that you know the truth and all you can do is try to help others see the truth - you can only control your actions and reactions, you cannot control what someone else believes
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 12:12am
Don't create an argument based on their assumption that you are lying. Understand that others may have difficulty understanding at times and realize that their lack of understanding is not entirely under your control. If you haven't explained something to the extent that you should have, that's under your control. If you're being cryptic, that's under your control. But if you answered to your capable entirety, it is not under your control.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2017 10:03am
It shouldn't matter what people think, only you know the truth and those who care about you should believe you that you are telling the truth. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 5:21am
Try not to care what other people think about you, you're the only one that really matters to yourself. Love yourself
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 11:20pm
Ask yourself why they think you're lying. Is there a history of lies? Are they insecure themselves? Maybe try talking it out and explaining how you feel and ask them why they are thinking the way they are. Communication is key.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:47pm
All you can do is be honest and prove to them it's sencere enough. Some people need more shown proof
Keepyourmindcalm
June 27th, 2020 2:59pm
I don’t know you or the other people who think that so don’t take my words at face value. A good question you could ask yourself is “why do you thing THESE particular people think that about you?”. Also, is something that they told you or something you believe it’s in their minds? There’s a big difference between these two. If these people who think that are people you value and trust, I believe it would be really important to talk to them about it openly. Discussion is the best solution to everything. On the other hand, if these people are not important to you you don’t need to worry about them. You are the one you know your self the best! And remember that in order to be honest to others, you need to be honest to yourself! There are people who always judge others without knowing them. Mostly this happens because they are not honest to themselves. Take care! :)