What should I do if people think I am lying?

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Last Updated: 10/17/2019 at 6:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
delicatePoetry
April 13th, 2017 12:01pm
You trying to talk them into believing that you are saying truth would be pretty useless since these people clearly don't trust you. As hard as it might be, I think just ignore them. Just kindly say that you are not lying and then just don't do anything about it. Make it clear that you have said everything that there is to know about this subject. With time maybe, with you actions you will prove them wrong. But don't get too carried away by doing this on purpose. Just let them think whatever they want. You know that you are being an honest person and that is all that matters. Don't let them get to you.
SmileyBear
April 30th, 2017 7:49am
Just tell them you are being honest and stick to it. Don't alter your story and say it with confidence. If they still believe your lying don't accept what they say about you, just trust yourself, know you're being honest and eventually they should come round.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 12:12am
Don't create an argument based on their assumption that you are lying. Understand that others may have difficulty understanding at times and realize that their lack of understanding is not entirely under your control. If you haven't explained something to the extent that you should have, that's under your control. If you're being cryptic, that's under your control. But if you answered to your capable entirety, it is not under your control.
VanessaGraceStory
June 15th, 2017 4:41am
If people think you are lying and you are not. Then be honest and tell them how you are telling the truth. Explaining a situation they assumed can be helpful if it causes any issues
Emotionalpez
June 29th, 2017 12:34am
Calmly explain your logic as to why they think you are lying. Rationalize within your own life why other may be thinking this way and be confident in your own decisions.
Teaandnotebooks
July 8th, 2017 2:56pm
Tell the truth. Let them know that you are telling the truth. If others don't believe you the most important thing is to believe yourself. You know that you are telling the truth even if others don't and that can be really hard.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2017 8:54am
Explain why they should believe you. Also, do not exaggerate. It will make it easier to believe you.
softSugar91
July 13th, 2017 10:57am
You should not get agitated and explain that you aren't lying, and if they do not believe it, then so be it. You don't need to prove yourself to anybody.
ChrisToListen
July 22nd, 2017 9:22pm
Prove to them that you're not, and if you can't prove it and you have no reason to lie, explain to them that you have no reason to lie, and if they think you do, ask them what that would be. The big thing here is explaining yourself. If you explain yourself and yet they still accuse you of lying, especially if they're your friends, they aren't worth your time.
loyalCanine
July 29th, 2017 9:38am
There is nothing you can really do if people think that you are lying. If you attempt to persuade them of the truth without proof you may just harden their opinion. Rather if you are being honest I simply keep calm and take confidence in the knowledge that the truth will be known soon enough or that at least I know I was honest. Even if the truth never comes out I can take pride in my character for doing the right thing.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2017 10:45am
Reasure them that what i am telling them is the truth. Unless they have any other reason too believe i am lying theres no reason too carry on the discussion. If they do not stop i shall walk away
SoulHealing
August 19th, 2017 9:17pm
Nothing, If you hold the truth you don't need to do anything. Sooner or later they will see your are truthful. Truth and goodness will always win
Anonymous
August 27th, 2017 2:03am
If people think you're lying, I guess the best thing to do is show evidence that you're not. And if there is no evidence or they simply aren't convinced, then maybe it's best to let them be. A lot of times people judge us and it's not even because of us or actions we did, sometimes it's about themselves. So I guess depending on how important it is for you to prove them you're not lying, I guess if it's not too relevant, maybe you could just ignore them.
JeffListens
September 9th, 2017 10:52am
Everyone is entitled to their own perspectives and opinions, so long as it is not affecting other people's lives. You can always start by confronting the person and you talk about the facts that concerns the situation. If you have explained everything and they are not convinced, there is nothing more that you can do, you don't have to prove yourself! you did your part and your true friends and families know what is true, cause true people who really knew you believe in you. :)
beju
October 19th, 2017 5:02am
Be confident about yourself. Self doubt is sometimes the cause for people thinking like this. The more confident you become the problem will go on becoming smaller and smaller.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 8:20am
Leave them. If you are speaking truth and still they don't believe you can give as many explanations as you want but they won't believe you.
Supafaith
November 17th, 2017 5:21am
Try not to care what other people think about you, you're the only one that really matters to yourself. Love yourself
whimsicalLove17
November 18th, 2017 1:41am
Show evidence and proof . Have people there as proof .. etc at what time and when, Give examples of where you were etc .. and what you were doing etc.
PedroMAlves1992
November 19th, 2017 4:18pm
You can have a talk (or several) with them (particularly with the closer ones), showing you're being honest and truthful, in the sense of hoping they'll understand your intentions and start believing in you.
NotAGod
November 22nd, 2017 2:43am
Nothing, not a thing. You don't have to prove yourself to anybody. However, this can be up to debate given your past actions. Did you lie countlessly before? If so, don't even bother asking that question. If not, don't even bother trying to convince them otherwise.
LittleMissJoy
December 22nd, 2017 2:58pm
If others seem to think that you are lying yet you have actually been honest then that’s there problem. As long as you are telling the truth then you are doing the right then. Sure they can try to do something to see if they can catch you lying but all their doing is wasting their own time.
endearingLion70
December 22nd, 2017 10:37pm
This is very general statement and the answer depends on your past history with these people. You might want to find out why they think you are lying, it can give you a valuable clue.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 1:26am
What can you do? Beat them till they believe you? Not your fault if people choose not to listen to you. It is up to the person to decide what he does with information, one cannot force and idea upon another person. Speak your mind with clarity and it matters not who listens
VeraKh42
January 20th, 2018 8:28pm
It depends on the situation. If you have proof show them, but if you don't tell them: "I know I'm telling the truth. If you chose to not trust me, it's not my problem." This will somewhat affect them.
softNutella25
January 24th, 2018 11:20pm
Ask yourself why they think you're lying. Is there a history of lies? Are they insecure themselves? Maybe try talking it out and explaining how you feel and ask them why they are thinking the way they are. Communication is key.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 2:37pm
If they really start to accuse you of doing things you did not do, simply do your part by correcting them and walk away. You've done nothing wrong so you dont have to be scared of anything.
Aiustha
January 26th, 2018 2:50pm
1. Find out what makes them think so. (Do you have a bad reputation about giving truth? Do your body language mislead them? Do you lie often? etc) 2. Now change those. (If you lie a lot, also find the reasons of why do you do it so and be more truthful, if someone is spreading wrong news, make them stop.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:47pm
All you can do is be honest and prove to them it's sencere enough. Some people need more shown proof
SpiritualCalm
February 8th, 2018 5:32am
Continue to tell my truth. There is nothing better than telling your feeling and facts. People will be people and not all will like or believe you, but if one stays strong minded everything will work out fine
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 9:42am
Repeat it again and again so that it becomes a truth. Kidding!, if you are not lying just tell them once and forget it...you know u r true