What's the best tip to calm down?

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Last Updated: 08/19/2019 at 11:27pm
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Watermelon123
January 3rd, 2015 2:10pm
Focus on your breathing. Just think about breathing in and breathing out. Try to make the breaths longer and longer.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2014 5:06pm
Take deep, long breaths, breathing from your stomach. If it's in anger, the counting to 10 rule helps. If you're anxious counting backward in threes from 100 can help distract you until youre calm :)
MusicGal
December 16th, 2014 3:53am
Fun fact. If you put ice over your eyes (like an ice pack) and lay down. Count to 10, your anxiety and panic will be relieved almost immediately. :)
FoxInTheBox
December 21st, 2015 8:07am
Focus, concentrate, make a conscious effort to believe in yourself and your efforts. Fight off all the negativity, and keep motivating yourself.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2014 5:48pm
Deep breathing exercises are an amazing way to calm down if you are feeling stressed or having a bad day.
Erynn
December 16th, 2014 6:24am
I use Grounding Techniques. ( http://www.bcbhr.org/Articles.aspx?7 )My favorite is to look around the room and, with no judgements, describe what i see. Like: "Blue carpet. Brown chair. A scratch on chair. The chair has four legs. Gold lamp. It is shiny. Blue vase. Purple flowers with long petals...." I do this until I am out of my thoughts and calm. I try to breathe a bit as i do this, and slowly I start to relax a bit and feel less overwhelmed by whatever i was feeling.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2014 10:58am
Stop, take a deep breath, hold and slowly release. Do this a couple of times and you should feel a load of pressure lift right off
Arkelight
December 27th, 2014 10:48pm
Accept that the panic attack is happening, remind yourself that it isn't dangerous. Give yourself a moment to experience what is happening and then try writing down how you feel at that moment. This is then the point that you begin to go through the exercises and techniques that work best for you.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2016 8:24pm
What´s calms a person down is of course idividual and theres not a key-thing that works for everyone. You have to find your own thing. For me it is listening to music, I have learned what kind of music makes me feel calm. For other it is watching a movie or yoga. A hot shower is supposed to be relaxing aswell. Otherwise you can try 7cups "Mood boosts" wich are there for just that purpouse, calming down.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2014 7:32pm
Start by being internally mindful: take notice of the physical sensations in your body. Breath deeply, counting your inhales and exhales. Then refocus on your environment. Observe and describe it to yourself (not necessarily out loud!) without passing judgement. Focus on observable, objective realities.
dotty
December 25th, 2014 9:09pm
wash your face and arms with cold water, and listen to water run in the sink...it worked for me many times.
courageleadstonewlife
March 14th, 2015 12:19am
Focusing on your breath and using imagery. At least this has been the most important step for me. It takes a lot of practice, but it definitely works. For years this is how I've controlled my claustrophobia, PTSD, and anxiety to different situations. You can look up breathing exercises or you can make one that works for you. Breathe from your belly, focus on that breath moving in and out of your body, removing your negative emotions. Picture a calm lake, floating in the water, lying in the sun watching the clouds go by and breath in 5 seconds, hold 3 second, exhale 5 second. Find that calming image in your mind a green iridescent triangle, floating circles, calming rain. Inhale 5 seconds, hold 3 second, exhale 5 seconds. With practice this will become second nature when you are upset and you feel your heart rate slow and your muscles relax.
mysteriousWillow50
April 11th, 2015 4:17pm
Something I do when I'm trying to calm down is focusing on breathing--- deep breaths, focusing on inhales and exhales until the panic feeling passes. It's something that I do from time to time, and it helps.
Nico312
April 26th, 2015 5:02pm
It's different for different people. For example, my mum will tell you a glass of wine and some Saturday night telly will calm her down. From my experience, you could try a variety of things to see what suits you best. Some ideas include: - Yoga/meditation - Going for a run or a jog (or any form of exercise) - Taking a moment to take deep breaths in and out (2secs in, 4secs out) - Phoning a close friend or relative - if you want to talk about. In terms day-to-day solutions to reduce your stress levels, you could first start off by: - Eating a balanced diet. Lots of info is given online - but try to cut down the processed sugars - often in drinks like Coke, or juices, chocolate bars, etc. Try to eat plenty of leafy greens, oily fish, some nuts as a snack. - Exercise regularly - try a session at least 3x a week. If the gym bores you, go for a run! If that bores you, try a class! There's loads - Yoga, Body Pump, Step, Spin... - Talking to your friends/going out with your friends. Especially if they're funny. A smile goes a long way.
EarthAngel470
May 6th, 2015 3:22am
Breathing! The more we can slow down our breathing the more we can slow down our anxious thoughts and a racing mind. It is also important to practice breathing when calm and not anxious so that it will be easier and more comfortable to implement during times of high anxiety and panic. Here is a helpful link for diaphragmatic breathing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-_NNCrrdus
nightFlower81
May 14th, 2015 3:30am
Breathe!!!!!! Try to remove yourself from what is making you anxious. Take a seat, close your eyes, and breathe deeply. Focus on your breath. Breathe in, and out. If you lose focus, come back to your breath. Also think of postive things.
MappieKat
June 30th, 2015 4:54pm
My favorite way to calm down in the moment is find something to distract yourself. Adult coloring books (not adult themed, but with more complicated designs) are awesome for giving your mind a bit of a break.
YouAreGergous
July 20th, 2015 9:45am
There are a variety of exercises, such as breathing exercises or distraction exercises. Breathing exercises would be to inhale and exhale deep and long for at least 10 seconds and distraction would be to focus on all your sourroundings related to your senses.
topdreamer94
August 4th, 2015 4:17am
going to bathroom taking a shower . washing face with water. anger is afire we can put it down by water
frazzledtodazzled
August 24th, 2015 4:38am
Focusing on your breathing and speak out loud to yourself saying everything is going to be ok! Sometimes you have to allow yourself to feel through the moment while using positive self talking skills.
dreamVoice41
September 14th, 2015 10:13am
Close your eyes and thinks of something that makes you happy. Take deep breaths and count to ten. making sure that you think clearly before reacting impulsively.
MindfulMeg
September 14th, 2015 3:11pm
Trying to calm down in a stressful situation can be challenging. It is important to begin by focusing on breathing. If you can control your breathing, you can begin to control your thoughts. Inhale for a count of four, hold it for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, and hold for a count of four. Repeat this as often as you need to calm down. Your breath will help move you from an emotional mind into a wise mind where you can make rational decisions and interpret the world from a more reasonable lens.
compassionatecupcake99
September 29th, 2015 4:06pm
Whenever I am feeling the opposite of calm and I need to calm down, I try to focus on my breathing. I try to take deep breaths and count to ten. Sometimes, I practice taking a deep breath and then holding it for a couple of seconds before I release my breath. Also, whenever I feel myself needing to calm down, I like to try and distract myself by looking at my surroundings and I challenge myself to look around and notice at least one thing I never noticed before.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 8:49pm
You should always surround yourself in a peaceful environment, either somewhere where it is silent or listen to relaxing music in order to drown out the background noise. You want to take deep breaths and focus on your emotions. Imagine your heart rate slowing down, and imaging your anxiety or anger fading away as your heart slows and your breathing becomes deeper. I find this always helps.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 9:00am
Take a deep breath for 7 seconds and release it for 4 seconds that is helpful Or else start counting backwards from 10-1
pizzadonald1
December 8th, 2015 11:05pm
With anxiety, anxious breathing is a huge factor which affects how we’re feeling at the present. A way in which I have discovered to help chill out is ‘calm breathing’ Here are a few steps to try and follow; 1 – Sit or lie down comfortably. Close your eyes if you wish. 2 – Breathe slowly and steadily in through the nose for a count of 4 seconds. 3 – Hold your breath in for a count of 2 seconds. 4- Breathe out slowly and steadily through your mouth for a count of 4 seconds. 5 – Repeat this for a few minutes. Calm breathing is extremely useful in changing the way we feel. When we breathe, we take in oxygen that is used by our body, which creates carbon dioxide which we breathe out. When we are breathing regularly these two levels are balanced. But when we are anxious breathing, out breathing rate increases. We take in more oxygen and breathe in more carbon dioxide than usual; however the body isn’t working any harder than it would (for example, when exercising) and so there isn’t any extra carbon dioxide being produced and we’re breathing in extra oxygen. Calm breathing helps to regulate this, for any more information please do feel free to contact me 
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 11:33am
Depending on the situation, the first step is to walk away - find a quiet place where you can reflect and think without intrusion. Perhaps try breathing exercises accompanied with some light stretches and meditation. Then depending on your tastes, you can try listening to some music, taking a run or walk, drawing, writing and taking pictures etc. The key is to spend/use up all the pent up emotion so you can reflect on the situation later on with a rational mind without bias
friendlyUnicorn16
January 9th, 2016 12:45pm
Focus on your breathing, imagine the process of breathing that's happening in your body. You can also talk to someone or go out in nature. You can also name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 things you can taste. Focusing on that can help you to calm down.
leahlistens2
February 15th, 2016 8:25pm
Breathe. Close your eyes and imagine you are in an open space feel yourself inhale and exhale. FOcus on that feeling.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2016 3:54pm
In my experience, one of the most important steps to calming down is just recognising that you're experiencing anxiety or panic in the first place. Once you've acknowledged it, it's much easier to focus on calming down. Deep, slow, and purposeful breaths have always helped me once I was aware that I needed to calm myself. Closing your eyes and gently repeating that it's ok to yourself either out loud or in your head can also be very helpful. These are just my personal experiences though, and it's ok if these don't work for you! Different things work for different people c: