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Why am I nervous around my girlfriend?

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Last Updated: 12/28/2019 at 3:28pm
Why am I nervous around my girlfriend?
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Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 12:06am
This can be caused by a couple different things. You could be nervous because of insecurities that you think they might not like. Also, these feelings could be because you are starting to realize how deep your feelings for your girlfriend are and the idea of losing them makes you nervous.
MiraLA
January 24th, 2017 6:54am
Sometimes we're nervous around others because we worry about what they think of us. Just remember that she's your girlfriend for a reason and likes you, for you!:)
Peppens
January 30th, 2018 3:35am
From my experience, when I was nervous, later on I found out that it was because i liked her, wanted to impress her, and she was really important to me. On top of that I couldn't tell what she was thinking, but yes; It is perfectly normal to feel nervous around your girlfriend, it shows that she's really important to you. Hope that helps!
Anonymous
September 10th, 2018 1:02pm
this could be for any reason, but unfortunately you will have to figure that part out. it could be because you feel so much love for her and this is what causes butterflies in your stomach, or it could be because you feel you cant say or do things around her, and in this case you should really talk to someone who deals with relationships professionally, maybe you two just need to talk through your struggles or maybe its a little more serious and you should seek proper help. i hope that helps you, always here to talk :)
Anonymous
December 28th, 2019 3:28pm
Most of us feel at least a little nervous when starting a new relationship. This is due to the persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing. The best way to cope with dating anxiety is to focus on one’s sense of self-acceptance and self-worth. When a person feels good about who they are, their values and what they have to offer, it bolsters them against judgment. By calming their harshest inner critic, it opens the door to experiencing  closer connections with others. Good luck!