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Just be yourself and dont be nervous you probably like him and dont know how to act or maybe your uncomfortable
Nervousness around a partner usually stems from a place of insecurity and lack of connection or openness between the people. You may feel that you will do something wrong to lose his love, or that you don't feel safe to be your true self.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 1:10am
Why are you so nervous is a question you should ask yourself. Maybe you should of never made it official if you was not fully comfortable. Or maybe it's butterflies and it's normal
You may feel as if you are not good enough for him, or have a fear that he will dislike you if you act normal. It also could be because you're falling in love, or because you like him so much that you become unable to focus, shaky, etc. You have to decide how you feel in order to determine what is happening to you.
You may be nervous around your boyfriend because your just beginning your relationship and you want to make a good impression on the other hand you may be nervous around him because he has mistreated you in some way
Because either he makes you feel like you have never felt before or you are insecure about yourself around him.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 2:05pm
Maybe you are scared he will hurt you or leave you, be annoyed at something you say or do, or maybe you are scared of doing the opposite to him...
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 5:22pm
You may be feeling anxiety around him, especially if it is a new relationship. Try communicating your feelings to him and see if he is willing to do something or change something about the situation to help you feel better!
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2017 2:05pm
there could be several reason for it ... is it shyness that makes you nervous ? or the fear of doing something wrong... the fear of losing him... the fear of being judged... or a mix of some reasons ...
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 10:06am
Perhaps he puts pressure on you or you don't feel comfortable around him. It's important to know that you do not have to be perfect around your partner, just be yourself!
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:47am
Because you probably like so much you're worried about how you're acting around him and what he will think.
Because his acceptance is important to you so you want things to be "just right" that add to the sense of nervousness
You want to impress him I assume. That's normal but worry too much over leaving a good impression, there are many other people in the world who would love you for you so don't change yourself for him.
I felt the same way for a while. I know what you are going through. The best way to get through it is to realize they like you for who you are and you are allowed to be yourself!
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 1:49am
You are possibly afraid he will leave you, maybe you fear being alone, it's possible that you have had some bad experiences in the past and it's always in the back of your mind.
Because you like him! Depending on what type of nervous it is, you could be nervous around him because you don't want to make a bad move and risk your relationship.
In a good way or a bad way. Those butterflies and heartflutters can be wonderful. If there's an underlying concern about his treatment of you or others, you may need to get this relationship some serious thought.
You might be nervous around your boyfriend because either you aren’t ready to be in a relationship yet, or you think that he’s moving too fast for you.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2016 5:20pm
well ..you are with the person with whom you are about to make your memories together and wanna make your life in a happy and wishful way ... so its pretty much common that you get nervous at times ....
but .. being nervous is also a good thing ... cause you feel much more excitement and just pour your mind and soul .. with that person .. so you always feel more or it :)
Anonymous
September 12th, 2020 3:35pm
Hi! I think you are nervous around your boy friend because you are not confident about yourself in front of him. Your self esteem may drop in front of him if you think you are not enough for him. But this feeling must not be there in a good relationship. You must feel yourself freely in front of your significant other. Taking care of yourself can boost your confidence hopefully. You may also feel nervous around him because you are afraid of loosing him or past events with him might have been having a trauma since then! The reasons could vary from person to person, so think before you act anything! Have a great day!
This could be anything. It could be your feelings towards him make you react in a nervous manner. If I were you, I'd record how I feel around him and see if it's positive or negative nerves.
Being nervous around your boyfriend is ok in some situations, but if you're afraid for your safety contact someone! If you are feeling like someone will hurt your mentally of physically there could be an issue!
Anonymous
November 5th, 2020 6:21pm
although there isnt a certain answer for that, i can talk about personal experience. sometimes when you really love someone you want them to love you back, and looking at them, you may feel like theyre better than you, so you try to "impress" them or just get them to notice good things about you, you force yourself to do everything perfect, and that can make you feel nervous.
Do you feel any pressure to somehow please your boyfriend whenever you're around him, that you may not feel comfortable with? You could address some questions to yourself on what it may be, whether that being if you feel like he has any expectations and/or if something has happened which has made you feel like you're not on the same page. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 9:34am
Inferiority complex, maybe. The wish to be being liked always and not facing his reactions. You may think negative for urself or that relation.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 10:03pm
You might be nervous around your boyfriend as you are insecure or you've done something wrong and you feel guilty.
There are many reasons you could feel anxious around your significant other. perhaps they have said something to make you doubt yourself, or perhaps there is something in the back of your mind causing these feelings to arise subconciously. Maybe you feel so strongly for him that you are unsure how to interpret these emotions, so they are coming out in an anxious feeling.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2016 12:43pm
if it's a new relationship it's just butterflies, it's normal. If it has been a while since you guys have been dating then it may mean that you feel intimidated by him and maybe he expects you to behave in a certain manner, so hence.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:54am
Take baby steps in a relationship. It’s normal to feel nervous around your boyfriend and maybe you should tell him how you feel
Maybe because you are expecting something from him, and you don't want that to be yours in particular situations.
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