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Anonymous
November 23rd, 2017 2:05pm
there could be several reason for it ... is it shyness that makes you nervous ? or the fear of doing something wrong... the fear of losing him... the fear of being judged... or a mix of some reasons ...
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 10:06am
Perhaps he puts pressure on you or you don't feel comfortable around him. It's important to know that you do not have to be perfect around your partner, just be yourself!
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:47am
Because you probably like so much you're worried about how you're acting around him and what he will think.
Because his acceptance is important to you so you want things to be "just right" that add to the sense of nervousness
You want to impress him I assume. That's normal but worry too much over leaving a good impression, there are many other people in the world who would love you for you so don't change yourself for him.
I felt the same way for a while. I know what you are going through. The best way to get through it is to realize they like you for who you are and you are allowed to be yourself!
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 1:49am
You are possibly afraid he will leave you, maybe you fear being alone, it's possible that you have had some bad experiences in the past and it's always in the back of your mind.
Because you like him! Depending on what type of nervous it is, you could be nervous around him because you don't want to make a bad move and risk your relationship.
Nervousness around a partner usually stems from a place of insecurity and lack of connection or openness between the people. You may feel that you will do something wrong to lose his love, or that you don't feel safe to be your true self.
There are many reasons you could feel anxious around your significant other. perhaps they have said something to make you doubt yourself, or perhaps there is something in the back of your mind causing these feelings to arise subconciously. Maybe you feel so strongly for him that you are unsure how to interpret these emotions, so they are coming out in an anxious feeling.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:54am
Take baby steps in a relationship. It’s normal to feel nervous around your boyfriend and maybe you should tell him how you feel
Anxiety comes as a natural thing to us when we are trying our best. Perhaps you like this person so much that you want to give this person your best impression and the feeling that you get is that of walking on eggshells when you are around him.
Maybe because you are expecting something from him, and you don't want that to be yours in particular situations.
You might be nervous around your boyfriend because either you aren’t ready to be in a relationship yet, or you think that he’s moving too fast for you.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 9:34am
Inferiority complex, maybe. The wish to be being liked always and not facing his reactions. You may think negative for urself or that relation.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2019 8:15pm
there could be several reasons. if you're new in a relationship then it could just be that you're still trying to adjust into something that may be a little unfamiliar. if it has been a couple of months, it may be a little more difficult to answer this question. if you're nervous about how he thinks you are looking, then that may be problematic. in a healthy relationship, your boyfriend could recognize that you are beautiful inside and outside. so at this point, if you are worried about physical appearance, that may be a little problematic regarding your relationship.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2020 3:35pm
Hi! I think you are nervous around your boy friend because you are not confident about yourself in front of him. Your self esteem may drop in front of him if you think you are not enough for him. But this feeling must not be there in a good relationship. You must feel yourself freely in front of your significant other. Taking care of yourself can boost your confidence hopefully. You may also feel nervous around him because you are afraid of loosing him or past events with him might have been having a trauma since then! The reasons could vary from person to person, so think before you act anything! Have a great day!
Anonymous
November 5th, 2020 6:21pm
although there isnt a certain answer for that, i can talk about personal experience. sometimes when you really love someone you want them to love you back, and looking at them, you may feel like theyre better than you, so you try to "impress" them or just get them to notice good things about you, you force yourself to do everything perfect, and that can make you feel nervous.
maybe because your expectations are way too high and rather being yourself, you keep trying to fit into the frame, your boyfriend expects you in to.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 11:12pm
There are many reasons. It can be difficult to keep up with a relationship. Maybe you are nervous because you don't know him completely or you think he will leave you. Does that sound like what's going on?
If it's a new relationship in which you do not know each other so well, then it's probably because you love him so much and you're afraid of blowing it while with him. No one wants the person they love to think ill of them.
If there is no known reason to be nervous (i.e: signs of abuse) you may just have a love bug! Especially in new relationships, jitters from your significant other are often a sign you are still excited about your connection! :)
Anxiety around a love one, especially in a more recent relationship, is completely normal. My boyfriend and I would hardly even look at each other. It just proves that you care for your significant other, and do ot want to pressure them.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 2:57pm
If you're nervous around your boyfriend then there's something wrong. You should be comfortable around your boyfriend. He will eventually become the other part of you :)
It might because, your just scared because , you don't want to lose him and you might feel happy and that's why your so nervous .
Any bad experience that is linked to your boyfriend, rather closely (eg, he has threatened you) or loosely (eg, he is male and you have had bad experiences with men before) can lead to an association in your head, which your mind takes as a reason for you to be scared of him.
A personal example of this is that I have had negative experiences in social situations which has lead to me developing social anxiety
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells or can´t do anything right? Sometimes those feelings occur in abusive relationships.
I think we get nervous whenever anything precious is involved in the picture....something that matters to us...it's sweet that you do....
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 10:26pm
Nervousness in relationships often happens because the fear of rejection, which is a normal feeling that everyone feels due to evolutionary effects on behavior and normal social anxiety (as opposed to a disorder). I don't know enough about your situation to say why, but you will have to compare what you were like with him before and what you are like with him now to find where the change happened and what happened around that time to cause the anxiety that you are feeling.
Anonymous
September 28th, 2016 4:57pm
Is here something he is doing to have you feeling this way? Is it how he talks ? Does he control? Ask yourself these questions ask yourself why? And then sit with him and tell him about how you feel good this helps
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