Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?

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Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?
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Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 5:11am
maybe its because you have a fear of not being good enough in her eyes? don't worry just be yourself :)
Supergirl94
May 13th, 2016 8:31pm
It depends how long you have been together. If you have been together for a short amount of time you may just need to adjust to each other and get to know each other better. If you have been together for a long time, maybe she has done something to put you on edge? Or there is something about her that makes you uncomfortable that makes you nervous around her.
Anonymous
May 14th, 2016 10:44am
Perhaps you have developed feelings for her that you think are too soon to have. Or if you've been together a while maybe you think she's not as committed a you are which makes you feel insecure
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:36pm
Well, i think that's quite easy: you really like her and want her to like you too. So you are afraid of messing up and try to always do your best.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2016 4:55pm
You may be nervous that something in the relationship may not go as planned. Sounds like youre nervous around your girlfriend, which could be from anxiety
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 12:28am
Well it might be that you haven't had relationships before so you don't know what to do about it or you could be thinking that she might leave you or you're just worried about doing something wrong
neothehelper
May 21st, 2016 6:44am
because you're trying to be the person that you are not and you are in constant fear as to what wrong thing you may do which makes you nervous.. just be yourself around your girlfriend and enjoy her company she's not a monster she won't kill you so stop being nervous
Aprtylittlemess
May 21st, 2016 7:57pm
You are nervous because you haven't been together for very long. Before you got together you were probably nervous as well, because you wanted to make a good impression on her so that she would like you. Now you are still insecure that she likes you as much as you like her. You still want to make a good impression and not screw up. You should just relax, she probably likes you as well and everything will go well. :) Of course this was all based on a lot of assumptions because I don't know you or your girlfriend. For all that I know you could be nervous because she is a serial killer and you don't dare to break up with her in fear that she'd kill you.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 10:21pm
This is usually a normal thing. This could actually be a good sign that you have real feelings for her and don't want to make yourself look "stupid" or "mess up" while you are near her. This should give off the butterflies in the stomach feeling. However just make sure to trust your senses and realize if that feeling becomes deeper cause if you don't start to feel comfortable around her eventually you might not be able to enjoy yourself.
SilentSerenityy
May 22nd, 2016 11:42am
If it's early in the relationship, it's probably because it's the honeymoon period still and you want to impress her so you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. If it's not early days, then it could be a case of developing an insecurity in which you feel you're not good enough for her or something like that. It may help to talk to your girlfriend about how you're feeling.
GoLobster
May 26th, 2016 12:18pm
Possibly because you might be feeling judged or criticize around her or it just be you might feel like you are going to say the wrong thing, just remember that your significant other will (in many cases) accept you for yourself, don't try to be someone your not. Try to keep a note in your mind saying she loves you for you.
Zeprider98
May 28th, 2016 3:43am
I feel that nervousness around romantic partners is completely normal. Even after me and my girlfriend had been together for months and things were going well, I still found myself feeling nervous, awkward and unsure around her. Personally, I think it was just because we were still figuring out each other's limits and boundaries, which might have gone much faster if we'd discussed them, rather than trying to find them over time
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 4:07pm
Probably because she excites you. It's completely normal to feel that way, especially in the beginning of a serious relationship.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 1:49am
Good question! There could be numerous reasons for being nervous around your partner. Is the relationship new? Are you so excited when you're around her that you feel nervous? Do you feel you have to hide who you are around her? Are you afraid of rejection? The best answer I could give you would be to explore yourself! Try to analyze any reasons you feel that way. It could just be the normal nervousness one feels when entering a new relationship, or there could be deeper reasons. Writing things down helps to clear your mind of confusions a lot of the times. I hope this answer was helpful! Best of luck.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 8:37am
It's most likely just regular shyness. The majority of people usually get nervous when they're shy.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 6:40pm
Perhaps it's because you like her. You like her so much, you feel like your not good enough. But that's not true.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 6:56pm
There may be several answers for it, like you are afraid to make a mistake or you are really happy about the situation
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 10:20pm
you're nervous around your girlfriend because you love her so much you just don't know what to doooooo :) .
RogerDan555
June 17th, 2016 6:43am
Maybe because you don't want to make her upset and try to behave perfect or you fear of losing her.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2016 9:15pm
Because you like or love her, and you are afraid that you would say something wrong that could chase her away. Calm yourself. If you are meant, what should happen, will happen.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 3:09am
Some people are nervous around their significant others because they're scared they won't know what to do when that person want to do something. It's perfectly normal, it's happened to me plenty of times and it can happen to anyone.
hopefulBeauty40
June 26th, 2016 2:34am
You are nervous because you are in love with her, and that nervourness that you feel are called Butterflies :) Tell her that she'll think you're cute!! Goodluck.
moonlightbaby81
June 29th, 2016 2:23am
Probably because you like her so much you don't wanna do anything wrong in front of her and that makes you nervous
Anonymous
June 29th, 2016 9:05am
Possibly experiences in the past or some anxiety that you could be having. Have you had any such experiences in the past that would of caused you to become nervous around her?
HopieRemi
June 30th, 2016 4:00am
Nerves are normal. Everyone gets nervous, especially when you're around someone you really like. More than likely, your nerves are just "butterflies". Try to take a small breath, and remember that you both like each other and she is with you and there's no reason to be nervous.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 7:51pm
Maybe because you like her so much! Maybe even love? Sometimes that happens without people realising. ❤️
Yupanqi78
July 5th, 2016 1:49am
Maybe you don't know her dreams or what she wants from life or what she sees in you. Go ahead and ask her!
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2016 4:28pm
Maybe because she is your first girlfriend and you're unsure what o do. Maybe she does things that make you uncomfortable because you're not used to that sort of thing.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 3:35pm
You may notice that you have strong feelings for her and that can cause you to become afraid of messing up.
Melody293
August 3rd, 2016 12:28am
We can often get nervous around people when we care a lot about how they think of us. Chances are if she's your girlfriend, you really care about her opinion, so that may be why :)