Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?

In my personal experience, relationships can be very stressful for both parties. In the beginning stages of a relationship, the novelty of the relationship, as well as the pressure of being with someone romantically can cause anxiety when with your significant other. Nerves are completely normal in relationships, and can even, in fact, show how much you care and want to impress the person you're with. However, nerves can also show a level of discomfort with the individual, thus hinting at incompatibility or lack of vulnerability. If you have not yet opened yourself fully to your girlfriend, that can severely factor into your comfort level with her, and thus cause anxiety around her.

Well A possible reason for being nervous around your girlfriend is possibly you are not being 100 percent your true self. When in relationships, sometimes people tend to put their best version of themselves forward. They can try to make it seem as if they do not have flaws. This can make you nervous because it is like you are hiding a part of yourself and you are afraid what their reaction will be when they discover it. Try to be your true self- flaws and all. Remember they are a flawed human too. We all are. Another reason maybe is that maybe it's not even nerves, you're mistaking the feeling and it's actually butterflies and excitement, cheesy but super common.

Well, It sounds like you are nervous around your girlfriend. Are there any reasons that you can think of yourself, to why you may feel this way around her, maybe to do with any past events that may have happened between the both of you? Depending on how long you have both been together, you may feel anxious about how you appear in her eyes, or that you want to be your best self in front of her. Have comfort knowing you are not alone in this aspect, and there are many others experiencing the same thing. It is normal. Have you read the 7 cups of tea guide on relationships?

There may be a lot of reasons about that. First of all you have to check are you good fit with her. If you decide that you are good fit than you check, is this nervousness is always or just in some cases and situations. Share with your girlfriend your thinking and check is it right or it is just your feeling. Usually it can be just the feeling which distort our perception and make feeling so nervous. Conversation is the best solution which helps to increase the awareness about current situation. Only with honest conversation you can the answer what makes you nervous, and make decision what actions will you perform

Sometimes, we are eager to impress those that mean the most to us. For some, this person could be a significant other. Feeling nervous around this person is usually normal. Do you feel the need to impress this person? Do you look up to them? Are you worried about embarrassing yourself around them? These are all healthy things to be nervous about, and will fade with time and practice. However, being nervous around a significant other can be a sign of an abusive relationship, depending on the reason. Are you afraid they are going to hurt you or say something mean? Do you often worry that they will lash out at you for saying the wrong thing? Are you nervous around them because you are afraid that they will make fun of you or embarrass you? If your answer was yes to any of those questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. For help with relationships, visit our guide or research some more on the topic

There can be a few reason as to why you are nervous around your girlfriend. First of all you could have the fear of being rejected in what you do, for example giving her a simple hug. Next you could feel nervous that you are not good enough for her, which keep in mind she chose you (if that is the reason). However if you are genuinely scared of her, because maybe she is abusive verbally or physically then that is another issue entirely and is not a healthy relationship. However the other two are quite healthy in a relationship when managed in the right way. Just be sure not to let these nerves disturb your relationship.

Often, especially if the relationship is in it's early stages, you might be worried you'll embarass yourself in front of your girlfriend. This isn't usually a cause for concern and should ease off as you two get closer. Take your time and try to step out of your comfort zone every now and then, for example doing something with her you wouldn't normally to try to get used to being with her, this will help you relax and enable you to become closer until you no longer worry about how you act; you know she loves you and she will love you for who you are.

Great question-a lot of times when we are nervous around someone it is because we have thoughts or the belief that that person is some how better than we are. Maybe we think they are better looking, more talented, smarter-in some ways maybe more than one, better than we think of our selves. When that happens we suddenly feel like we have to prove ourselves and impress them. This feeling of nervousness can also be mixed with doing something new and uncertainty. Also, more likely than not if this is a new relationship your girlfriend is probably feeling some nervousness too-I would try saying that you are nervous next time you feel it on a date and see if she opens up too. Hope this helps!

Maybe you aren’t comfortable with her yet? It does take a little while to get used to a relationship especially if it’s a new one. Love is a weird thing to expierence and can get uncomfortable for a period of time, it could also be past experiences too for example you might’ve ended up in a judgmental relationship maybe even an abusive one either physically or mentally, there could be heaps of reasons why you feel nervous around your S/O. It’s defi not an abnormal thing, relationships are trust building and loving and will again take a while to get used to.

Because she's an important person in your life, and you care about what she thinks. It could also just be young love :)

You probably are feeling scared that you will do something that she will not like and you are feeling unsure. It's normal

You might be nervous around you're girlfriend because of something they did wrong in the past that you don't want to see it happen again and this is why you get nervous when they're around.

I think it's because you don't want to mess up your relationship. You know you've got something good when you're anxious about the outcome. It's precious that you are nervous, because it shows you really care that this relationship ends well.

I find that I get so wound up about doing everything right that I get really nervous around my partner. You could be getting nervous for the same reason.

It can be normal for someone to get nervous around their partner. They could be shy and be a bit more reserved than yourself. If something doesn't seem right with the situation, I suggest talking to someone that you know and trust and possibly seeking for help if you feel that you need it.

It's normal to be nervous in the early stages of the relationship, because you want to make sure everything goes smoothly. But if this pertains to later on in the relationship, it may be caused by anxiety. There are many great resources to learn and help cope with anxiety on 7Cups.

Most people are nervous due to some the new feelings they are showing towards the significant other, it causes stress so try to make yourself more relaxed.

because either you dont have that trust factor in your relationship or you have very low self esteem.

It is very common to doubt the courage you believe you don't have to confine in someone you love about what is bothering you. The anxiety encourages feelings of burden, but it is important to remember that they are there to listen and support you.

Maybe you like her so much and u want to be the best version of urself. It is pretty common to be a little excited around people we know for a short period of time. As you know to get to know her better, u won't be nervous anymore.

What are you nervous about? Perhaps you have trouble trusting her intentions or trusting her reactions. Has she ever treated you with harsh words or violent actions? Being nervous is our instinct trying to protect ourselves from what we perceive as danger, but we are also afraid of things we don't understand. Perhaps you will be less nervous if you get to know her better and learn to trust her.

You could have very strong feelings you may not know how to express make sure you never deny those emotions.

Maybe you aren't comfortable with her? It can take time to get comfortable with someone, even in a relationship. It is normal. Have you talked to her about it? Maybe she can help with it? You never know, maybe she is feeling the same way.

Some of the factors involved might have more to do with your thoughts and how you feel about yourself that how she is and what she thinks of you. Are you trying to impress her? Are you afraid she won't like you the way you are?

You're scared that you'll do something wrong that will push her away. You have feelings for her and you don't want to lose her.

That's totally normal, it means you really like her and that you're watching your actions so you don't do anything wrong in front of her.

Sometimes it can be the "butterflies" kind of nervous because you like them so much! But other times it could be that you're afraid you'll do something wrong and mess up. No worries though! Just be yourself :)

You either love her or you are worried she may see you differently to how you see yourself. This can be a very confusing and scary time.

This could be a sign of insecurity. Learning more about her and having her learn more about you might remedy this.

First of all, consider how old you are. If you are still in high school it could be because your body has not fully come to understand all the hormones. You are experiencing the strong emotions hormones evoke for the first time. It may be you are nervous because you don't have much life experience yet and you are trying to understand who you are, your likes and dislikes, and generally what you are about. If you are a young adult or an adult, it could be that you are so attracted to her that you are trying too hard to make sure that she likes you. If you're always trying to impress or always choosing to do what you think she would like, that can make you anxious. Casually open up and share yourself- your likes and preferences on many levels with her as time progresses. If it's a healthy, positive relationship, the more you share your real self with her and she accepts you, the more comfortable and less nervous you will be. Emotionally healthy people are not nervous being themselves. If you are just getting to know yourself, or if you doing some self-improvements to become a better person, take it slow. Accept how she responds to you and move forward.