Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?

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Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?
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Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 3:24am
Most people are nervous due to some the new feelings they are showing towards the significant other, it causes stress so try to make yourself more relaxed.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 11:28am
because either you dont have that trust factor in your relationship or you have very low self esteem.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2018 11:11pm
It is very common to doubt the courage you believe you don't have to confine in someone you love about what is bothering you. The anxiety encourages feelings of burden, but it is important to remember that they are there to listen and support you.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2018 10:03am
Maybe you like her so much and u want to be the best version of urself. It is pretty common to be a little excited around people we know for a short period of time. As you know to get to know her better, u won't be nervous anymore.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2018 3:48am
Because she's an important person in your life, and you care about what she thinks. It could also just be young love :)
Inperfection
July 12th, 2018 10:43am
You either love her or you are worried she may see you differently to how you see yourself. This can be a very confusing and scary time.
KyleTheHelper
July 19th, 2018 3:57pm
This could be a sign of insecurity. Learning more about her and having her learn more about you might remedy this.
AmethystUnicorn
July 19th, 2018 5:53pm
Sometimes it can be the "butterflies" kind of nervous because you like them so much! But other times it could be that you're afraid you'll do something wrong and mess up. No worries though! Just be yourself :)
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 6:07pm
Maybe because you like her so much and you don't want to look silly or put her off from liking you back? Especially if it's a fairly new relationship. If this is the case then there's a high chance she feels nervous too.
BronyDice
July 19th, 2018 7:57pm
What are you nervous about? Perhaps you have trouble trusting her intentions or trusting her reactions. Has she ever treated you with harsh words or violent actions? Being nervous is our instinct trying to protect ourselves from what we perceive as danger, but we are also afraid of things we don't understand. Perhaps you will be less nervous if you get to know her better and learn to trust her.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 2:57pm
That's totally normal, it means you really like her and that you're watching your actions so you don't do anything wrong in front of her.
hopefulParadise73
August 3rd, 2018 3:06pm
Maybe because you lack self confidence. You don't see yourself as good enough for her or simply because you are too shy.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 1:50am
Some of the factors involved might have more to do with your thoughts and how you feel about yourself that how she is and what she thinks of you. Are you trying to impress her? Are you afraid she won't like you the way you are?
GabrielaaTaker
August 9th, 2018 3:24am
You could have very strong feelings you may not know how to express make sure you never deny those emotions.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2018 8:04am
First of all, consider how old you are. If you are still in high school it could be because your body has not fully come to understand all the hormones. You are experiencing the strong emotions hormones evoke for the first time. It may be you are nervous because you don't have much life experience yet and you are trying to understand who you are, your likes and dislikes, and generally what you are about. If you are a young adult or an adult, it could be that you are so attracted to her that you are trying too hard to make sure that she likes you. If you're always trying to impress or always choosing to do what you think she would like, that can make you anxious. Casually open up and share yourself- your likes and preferences on many levels with her as time progresses. If it's a healthy, positive relationship, the more you share your real self with her and she accepts you, the more comfortable and less nervous you will be. Emotionally healthy people are not nervous being themselves. If you are just getting to know yourself, or if you doing some self-improvements to become a better person, take it slow. Accept how she responds to you and move forward.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2018 11:37pm
Maybe you aren’t comfortable with her yet? It does take a little while to get used to a relationship especially if it’s a new one. Love is a weird thing to expierence and can get uncomfortable for a period of time, it could also be past experiences too for example you might’ve ended up in a judgmental relationship maybe even an abusive one either physically or mentally, there could be heaps of reasons why you feel nervous around your S/O. It’s defi not an abnormal thing, relationships are trust building and loving and will again take a while to get used to.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2018 4:40pm
Great question-a lot of times when we are nervous around someone it is because we have thoughts or the belief that that person is some how better than we are. Maybe we think they are better looking, more talented, smarter-in some ways maybe more than one, better than we think of our selves. When that happens we suddenly feel like we have to prove ourselves and impress them. This feeling of nervousness can also be mixed with doing something new and uncertainty. Also, more likely than not if this is a new relationship your girlfriend is probably feeling some nervousness too-I would try saying that you are nervous next time you feel it on a date and see if she opens up too. Hope this helps!
ryanjsmith
November 21st, 2018 8:31pm
Often, especially if the relationship is in it's early stages, you might be worried you'll embarass yourself in front of your girlfriend. This isn't usually a cause for concern and should ease off as you two get closer. Take your time and try to step out of your comfort zone every now and then, for example doing something with her you wouldn't normally to try to get used to being with her, this will help you relax and enable you to become closer until you no longer worry about how you act; you know she loves you and she will love you for who you are.
HereWithYou52
November 25th, 2018 2:43am
There can be a few reason as to why you are nervous around your girlfriend. First of all you could have the fear of being rejected in what you do, for example giving her a simple hug. Next you could feel nervous that you are not good enough for her, which keep in mind she chose you (if that is the reason). However if you are genuinely scared of her, because maybe she is abusive verbally or physically then that is another issue entirely and is not a healthy relationship. However the other two are quite healthy in a relationship when managed in the right way. Just be sure not to let these nerves disturb your relationship.
AlexisFayeWritten
January 3rd, 2019 9:49pm
Sometimes, we are eager to impress those that mean the most to us. For some, this person could be a significant other. Feeling nervous around this person is usually normal. Do you feel the need to impress this person? Do you look up to them? Are you worried about embarrassing yourself around them? These are all healthy things to be nervous about, and will fade with time and practice. However, being nervous around a significant other can be a sign of an abusive relationship, depending on the reason. Are you afraid they are going to hurt you or say something mean? Do you often worry that they will lash out at you for saying the wrong thing? Are you nervous around them because you are afraid that they will make fun of you or embarrass you? If your answer was yes to any of those questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. For help with relationships, visit our guide or research some more on the topic
nlpinspiration
January 23rd, 2019 5:02pm
There may be a lot of reasons about that. First of all you have to check are you good fit with her. If you decide that you are good fit than you check, is this nervousness is always or just in some cases and situations. Share with your girlfriend your thinking and check is it right or it is just your feeling. Usually it can be just the feeling which distort our perception and make feeling so nervous. Conversation is the best solution which helps to increase the awareness about current situation. Only with honest conversation you can the answer what makes you nervous, and make decision what actions will you perform
Anonymous
February 9th, 2019 12:30pm
Well, It sounds like you are nervous around your girlfriend. Are there any reasons that you can think of yourself, to why you may feel this way around her, maybe to do with any past events that may have happened between the both of you? Depending on how long you have both been together, you may feel anxious about how you appear in her eyes, or that you want to be your best self in front of her. Have comfort knowing you are not alone in this aspect, and there are many others experiencing the same thing. It is normal. Have you read the 7 cups of tea guide on relationships?
Anonymous
May 9th, 2019 7:07pm
In my personal experience, relationships can be very stressful for both parties. In the beginning stages of a relationship, the novelty of the relationship, as well as the pressure of being with someone romantically can cause anxiety when with your significant other. Nerves are completely normal in relationships, and can even, in fact, show how much you care and want to impress the person you're with. However, nerves can also show a level of discomfort with the individual, thus hinting at incompatibility or lack of vulnerability. If you have not yet opened yourself fully to your girlfriend, that can severely factor into your comfort level with her, and thus cause anxiety around her.
RaspberryMuse
June 19th, 2019 3:37pm
Maybe you are nervous because you have an expectation of her to like you/love you and that keeps you in state of not wanting to make any "mistake". Although, this question can be looked from other sides, for example if you are new couple it is understandable to feel nervous cause you are just getting to know each other and see each other's boundaries. But on the other side, if you're not a new couple then this nervousness may be a sign of something deeper that is waiting to be questioned, like you are not yourself with her, or you don't feel good enough.
SupportiveSockMonkey
June 29th, 2019 6:28pm
Only you know why you are so nervous, try focusing on the physical and emotional response when you are around here and try and think about the thoughts that come into your mind. This may help you understand why you are so nervous. It's okay to be nervous and maybe speaking to her will help you feel less nervous. You never know she could be just as nervous as you are. If this is your first relationship this is completely natural and will fade with time, even if this is just a new relationship nerves happen to us all.
15Kenzi
June 30th, 2019 5:46am
First of all, consider how old you are. If you are still in high school it could be because your body has not fully come to understand all the hormones. You are experiencing the strong emotions hormones evoke for the first time. It may be you are nervous because you don't have much life experience yet and you are trying to understand who you are, your likes and dislikes, and generally what you are about. If you are a young adult or an adult, it could be that you are so attracted to her that you are trying too hard to make sure that she likes you. If you're always trying to impress or always choosing to do what you think she would like, that can make you anxious. Casually open up and share yourself- your likes and preferences on many levels with her as time progresses. If it's a healthy, positive relationship, the more you share your real self with her and she accepts you, the more comfortable and less nervous you will be. Emotionally healthy people are not nervous being themselves. If you are just getting to know yourself, or if you doing some self-improvements to become a better person, take it slow. Accept how she responds to you and move forward.
TacoBoutet
July 13th, 2019 12:39am
Being nervous is a positive thing. It's your body's reaction when something important is happening around you. On the other hand, there's anxiety. Anxiety and nervousness can be confused sometimes so I'll give my thoughts on anxiety as well. Anxiety is the feeling you get when your mind is telling you that it wants to do something, and you try to shut it down. So if you're feeling anxious around your girlfriend (and not just nervous) it might be because there's something you want to express to her but aren't allowing yourself to. But if you're really just nervous, try to enjoy the feeling of your heart pumping in your chest. It's like the moment when you're getting on a roller coaster. Your girlfriend might be just as nervous as you and if so, now the two of you can laugh at how silly it is that you both feel this way around each other.
GenerousCreature
August 10th, 2019 5:08am
If you are so nervous it means that you probably have something inside that you need to clarify. You could surely start to self-analyze yourself, understand if you feel nervous around her always or in some specific situation. Do you feel nervous because you are uncomfortable, embarrassed or for another reason? it is important to be able to understand when, how and what triggers your feeling of nervousness when you are with her. This is the first step to better understand the situation, ask yourself questions. Furthermore, communication has a great role in relationships. So, at the right time and in the right way, it would be good to express your doubts and feelings to your girlfriend. She could understand your fears and help you, step by step, to resolve the situation.