Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

Sometimes big crowds can be overwhelming. Its easy to feel like you're alone in a crowd being judged because a lot of people look around. It's also extremely easy to lose someone you're with in a crowd which can become scary! Big crowds of people can also feel claustrophobic. Being with one friend can be more comfortable because it's less noise and you already know them! Sometimes the noise of everyone talking can be overwhelming as well. It can feel like you can't even hear yourself think. However, with one friend it's easy to avoid the tension of a big crowd and to feel more comfortable to familiarity!

It sounds like you might be suffering from some social anxiety. This is a very common problem and there’s nothing to be worried about, many people suffer from social anxiety, you are not alone. It can feel scary and confusing at first but once you get to the bottom of it and really understand your feelings you’ll see that there’s nothing to be afraid of. I know that you can overcome this, it’s not always an easy path but you are stronger than you know and I believe in you. I will be here for you all along the way and please feel free to message me at anytime just to chat, if you need some support, etc. you are very brave to talk about this and this is your first step to recovery.

it means you're selective and there's nothing wrong with that. You can gradually level up your social skills by hanging out with more than one friend at the time, but not a big crowd. Choose your friends accordingly -- I bet what matters for you is to keep the conversation on a meaningful level. Once you are comfortable in this situation, start noticing which elements are important to make you feel relaxed. There you have a pattern you can apply in each social occasion: just try to replicate the condition that made your comfort possible and emotionally enjoy the confidence you've found in yourself. There's a future for introverts :)

That's exactly how I am... and I've wondered the same too, very recently I think I figured it out why. It's how comfortable you are with the people. Let's say you are with 5 people, now, you are comfortable with all of them when it's one on one you can be yourself around them without being shy but with all 5 at once you feel shy, its because you dont have the same level of comfortable-ness? around all of them it varies person to person,so its difficult for you. Think about two close friends/siblings/cousins around them you wouldn't feel shy because you feel comfortable around them equal amount of it from both of them.. I hope that helps to understand yourself ...

This trait is really common in people with anxiety or depression, and sometimes people with no mental illness at all. When you're with one friend, it's understandable that you feel safe because they know you well, and they won't judge you for what you say or what you do. When you're in a big crowd, there's a lot of unfamiliar faces and people and that might trigger you to be shy in fear of judgement. Not everyone is comfortable in big crowds, and that's okay. It can be really intimidating to be around tons of people that you don't know.

Big crowds can be intimidating and overwhelming, and it's perfectly understandable that you're shy. You're comfortable with one friend and you feel no reason to be shy, whereas big crowds can bring out the shyness and intimidation. This can can also be mild social anxiety and if it's a group of people you don't know, it makes sense you'd feel shy. Your brain is protecting you and you don't feel as confident versus when you're around things that are familiar. This can be why you're shy in crowds but not with friends, and you're not alone with this. Good luck!

This sort of anxiety is pretty common. With one good friend, it's a close relationship where you don't worry about impressing them, or having anxiety about a specific action. Or it's easier to focus on one person, without sensory overload. In a big crowd (a party for example), it's a lot to take in at once. With one person listening, it's easier to see rationalization where you tell yourself it will be okay. But when it's multiplied, the stress also multiplies.

This could have multiple reasons. It might just be a personality trait that you have, you might be an introvert or you might be kind of shy. You probably get overwhelmed by big groups of people which is very understandable, there's a lot of people out there that experience the same problem. However, it feels really uncomfortable and it makes you feel anxious, it might have to do with anxiety or most likely social anxiety. If you think that might be it, please consider professional help because self-diagnosing isn't the right thing to do, it's important to get a professional's opinion.

Have you ever heard of introversion? What you describe fits exactly to the problem of introverted people. The opposite of introversion is extroversion. When you get more energy in a big crowd of people you are extroverted, when you get more energy when you are alone or with only one humen you are normally introverted. You can search on You Tube for videos of introversion, there are very much. Also there is a # on this website. I have the link for you. Here it is: https://www.7cups.com/~introvert I hope I could help you. I wish you best luck. Hope to see you again.

Perhaps you feel safer in the company of one trusted friend, and large numbers of people, make you feel more anxious, and that can cause you to withdraw. One friend gives you time for equal communication, that is time to talk, and time to listen, and helps you form a better bond. Whereas in crowds, there can be lots of competition to make yourself heard and accepted, very daunting! Even if you know most of them, if some appear to gel together more than you are able, you may feel left out and alone, that can be a very uncomfortable feeling. If you are able to socialise with one friend at a time, and comfortable with that, I would think about sticking to that for social interaction.

I think that many people are like that. Talking to friend makes you feel safe, while many unknown people can seem threatening. Also, if you are an introvert, crowds can overwhelm you because your mind tries to focus on many things at once. When you're focusing on one person only, you calm your mind. I also find that when I am in a big crowd, I feel better when I'm listening to music. When you have to speak to a big crowd of people, try to focus on one or two people who you know or seems nice. If you are unsure if you are an introvert or have social anxiety (the two are not the same!!), there are reliable tests online too.

I think this is a very normal feeling that a lot of people have. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you are surrounded by a lot of people, most of whom you might not know, and the perceived 'threat' of being judged increases. Your friend is your friend for a reason; you might have a lot of things in common with them, you will likely feel comfortable around them and you will hopefully not feel judged by them. All of this can make it feel easier to have a conversation one on one with a friend as opposed to a large group of people.

The reason is because you're more familiar with your friends. You've been around them for quite some time and they know things about you just like you know things about them. The information learned can go in a number of ways from being personal to deep and dark and so on and so forth. As our relationship grew in this friendship so has your trust. That is why you are able to let your guard down around your friends and be yourself. In big crowds this is different because these are people you do not know and you do not trust so you can't be yourself because they are strangers. In some instances you feel like they may judge you or some other it kind of reflects on how you may feel about yourself, your self identity.

Social anxiety can cause people to feel shy around others. It’s also a common thing to be shy. You’re in a huge group of people that you may not know. It’s your brain trying to protect you from accidentally saying the wrong thing, like where you live.

You may feel shy around big crowds because there are so many people present compared to that one friend you feel comfortable with. When we are in crowds or a group of people, there could be more eyes on us at once where we can't keep track we feel like our every move is calculated, and everything we say matters because we have to worry about more than one opinion. In that case, subconsciously it can be "scary" or maybe stressful, maybe we feel anxious, overwhelmed, embarrassed more easily if we make a joke and not everyone laughs or no one does. It can add more pressure to us, but just about everybody else can feel the same thing. Some people are more immuned to bigger crowds or speaking up and not being shy, it can be genetics or because they are so sued to being talkative, we all have our individual personalities. We have to find the good qualities in them. Being shy or quiet isn't necessarily a bad thing at all. Like for me, for ex., I am afraid I could mess up my words, slur, choke-up, and I think about it so much it does mess me up sometimes. But, what helps me is not to put that thought in my head when speaking, and take a pause when I don't know what the next word will be, or think of what I will say before saying it if it doesn't already come naturally. All in all, we all have mixed feeling when talking in crowds or expressing ourselves freely especially if there are strangers there or people we could compare ourselves too, or we want to make a good impression. It is completely normal, but just like us observing, we are interested in what the next person is going to say as we like to connect as humans and communicate, and have a good time. Being shy is very common, and it can be looked at as cute as well! This is my input on that.

Because you can’t manage the crowd. You can focus on two, three companions and find your place among them but as soon as a crowd shows up you do not know anymore where you belong. Just try to be yourself, always. Be true to yourself, do not try to find any place but where you already stand. Speak because you want to speak not because you want to be heard. Act for your own good and not to appear good in the eyes of someone. Know yourself. And I highly suggest reading the book 'Quiet' by Susan Cain, you will understand a ton about yourself if you feel like this:)

Because you want someone to be there for you to back you up in case something goes wrong, they are like your support and foundation to help you be more confident.

May be you are feeling over conscious. Please try to be confident. May be you are afraid about others judgement or may be you are too afraid about what others might think about or may be you think that others may not like you. Yiubare comfortable with one friend because you are not conscious here. He or she already knows you and never was judgemental about you. Please get loose of these negative thoughts. Love your self they way you are and least care about others. I'm sure everyone likes people who are string and bold and confident. Good luck!!

that just may be what you think, if you are an adult you are not the only one who is shy around crowds, crowds make people feel lost like they will lose something or lose the people who are around you. a lot can go wrong in big crowds, theft, harrassment, you may hear things in a crowd that you think someone is trying to send your way. i am a bit afraid of big crowds i know this because i havn;t been using public transpertation that often. i always think the worst. a big crowd of friends at a cottage having fun is no problem, because i feel comfortable around my friends but when people i don;t know come around i get anxious. one on one with a friend is not as exciting as a big crowd, make it an adventure.

For most people, not necessarily everyone, they feel small when they are surrounded by many more people and have less confidence, or feel exposed in some way. When you are with a friend, you feel more comfortable and confident and, most likely, feel a sense of protection.

it could be that you are not comfortable in a crowd especially when they are mostly strangers or people you are not close with. it could also be that you are not confident enough to make yourself heard. as it can also be social anxiety. all of the above applies to me and believe me i'm a little cocky goof around my close friends and a very reserved person in a crowd. as if i have a dual personality.

It is just a type of social anxiety. This is a very common issue for introverted people. It can be very overwhelming to be in large groups of people because you do not know the people around you and what they will do. There is much less predictability in a large group, and it would be exhausting to have to interact with and get to know all of those people. When you are with just one friend, it is someone who you already know, trust, and feel safe around. It is a low pressure, comfortable, familiar situation. . .

You must really trust your friend and realize how much you can be you without being judged, but knowing that it's alright to be yourself can help a lot

I consider myself to be a quieter introverted person and can relate to this. I think for some people it is normal to feel drained around larger groups of people as a lot of the time they are competing to talk over one another, I find that coming back from a social gathering I need to recharge my batteries and have some alone time. 1:1 you can focus all of your energy on the person you are talking to and get to know them on a personal level without feeling over whelmed. Some people are just better at listening than talking. I know I am! I am also not a fan of small talk and you can't really get to know someone well when being in a big crowd. Don't worry you are not alone!

I am the same way. When I am with 1-2 people I am fine but in crowds I am very shy. I tend to think it is because I don’t like people touching me or being too close to me.

You're probably shy around big crowds because you don't know anyone and then you're fine when you're with one friend because you know that person, so you're comfortable.

Sounds like it could be social anxiety. You may not be comfortable around all of those people and your one friend may be the person you are comfortable with.

Usually, that would mean you are an introvert, a person who prefers one on one time will people, and not with large crowds.

It’s sometimes really hard to be around a big group of friends. Overwhelming I can say. Start small with 4 or 5 friends

It sounds like you might be experiencing social anxiety or be an introvert. Feeling shy or overwhelmed in large crowds of people is common to experience for someone with social anxiety and is nothing to be ashamed or worried about, plenty of people are introverted or have anxiety. Being with one close friend at a time rather than a large group is less stressful and makes you feel more comfortable because there is less pressure being with only one person. Sometimes spending individual time with each person before being with them in a group can help you warm up to all of them in a group but it’s different for everybody. I hope this helped clear some things up