Why am I so shy around big crowds, but when I'm with one friend than I'm fine?

Maybe your introversion level is high, introverts in general find it hard to stand crowds more than a close friend or a single people since it drains the battery, i understand as i am an "Introvert" too and i find it hard to deal with crowds. When we are communicating or interacting with people as an introvert, we are spending our energy to that person, so the bigger the group, the more energy we employ. On the other perspective; the more people around, the more expectation there are. And sometimes the thought of a consuming amount of expectation around us is making us feel awkward and anxious and overthink that if they like me or if they're judging me. It not wrong to be averse to crowds, its just part of the personality. A case of social anxiety too can be involve as they show the same symptoms too.

Crowds are full of unknown, people you’ve never met, strangers, loud people, and it can sometimes feel like chaos. When you are with just one friend, it is a comfortable warm environment, and it’s just you and them. You are safe, you feel safe. There’s none of that uncertainty you feel in a crowd. Since you know them better as well, it is easier to talk and it is easier to be calm. Crowds are harder to trust. Probably the most obvious reason is that it’s much easier to manage talking with one person than it is to be with a large group. It’s overall more controlled.

I believe that it is because I feel secure when I am with my friends and know my friends' reactions. Therefore, I am relaxed compared me in crowds. It is also related the possiblity of making mistakes in front of crowds. It makes me frustrated if I say or do something embarrassing. I believe that people can get over it by making practices. For example, presentations, starting to be with small groups, and taking feedback from the audience. Also, imagining how I should talk before my presentations helps me to increase my self confidence and cut off my shyness

There is a lot of pressure when you're with a large group of people. In crowds, you may not know everyone intimately and that can create a feeling of being "spread too thin". I, personally, am a person who strives to communicate and maintain friendly relations with everyone I am around. With a lot of people, that is a lot more difficult to do. Also, crowds and large friend groups have high energy, which can be overwhelming, sometimes bordering on exhausting. With one friend, you only have to focus on them. If you're comfortable with them (which I'm assuming is the case because they're a friend) there isn't a constant pressure to please them. Being with one person is also a lot more "chill" than being with a lot of people.

First of all, it is very common for people to feel uncomfortable around large crowds. This is probably adaptive in some circumstances as well. Acknowledging that this is not an uncommon experience may first help to appreciate that there is nothing per se "wrong" with this emotion, but rather that the shyness is telling you some important information about yourself. For example, perhaps being shy in a crowd stems from a fear of being judged by others. What could that concern tell you about your core beliefs about yourself, or about the world, or about your values? Perhaps, for example, it demonstrates that you value harmonious relationships with others, or that you distrust strangers / that the world is a dangerous place, or that you are in some way "less than" those around you in the crowd. It could be all or none or some other reason. There may be may different reasons, though often shyness stems from a general worry that hits close to a core belief of being judged by others.

When someone is around big crowds, it is natural to be more shy than if you are with only one friend. Where you are with only one friend, nobody else is listening or can listen to what you are talking about. Therefore you can tell your friend whatever is on your mind. If you are around big crowds, you can't talk about everything what is on your mind and have to be really careful not to tell anything what isn't suitable for wrong ears. Not everyone is entitled to hear about your intimacy, your intimate issues, intimate struggles, etc.

Big crowds can be very intimidating for anyone with anxious tendencies. Friends are a familiar territory for us, and that safety of familiarity can relax us. In contrast, crowds contain people we don't recognize or particularly trust. Often, we can even perceive threats in places where there aren't any because of paranoia we have inherited from cable news or others who have experienced trauma while in a crowd. If the anxiety is debilitating, this might be something to talk to a licensed professional about. If it is manageable, however, try and use calming techniques such as mindful breathing or grounding to bring you back to reality.

With one friend, you can feel more comfortable since you have known them for long enough. Big crowds may have people new to you. For me personally, I am shy with big crowds because there are way more people who could be giving me judgement. Since you know your one friend well, you would not be as likely to feel judged by them. Big crowds can also be overwhelming since there are so many individuals there with you in the room. You may be fine with one friend because you are used to being around them and experiencing their presence with you.

This is a very common experience and I have been through the same thing with my social anxiety! It’s totally okay to feel this way. I used to think that I had to be like the super friendly and extroverted girl like in movies to fit in and have friends. I eventually learned that this isn’t the case! Being around big crowds can be nerve wracking, but spending one on one time with a friend gives you more space to open up and feel comfortable, without fear of judgement. This is just one possible answer for why you feel this way. Keep doing what makes you feel comfortable and know that you aren’t alone! 💕

being shy or closed off around a lot of people, or big crowds can be a sign of anxiety, social anxiety to be exact. Yet around your friends this shyness is not shown. Yes, that does sound like anxiety. However it could be other things. If you are feeling nervous, or uncomfortable around big crowds it could be anxiety, but it could also be the phobia of big crowds (which is a thing). And so, though I can't be sure of course, being shy around big crowds is something I can relate to and is one of the main signs of social anxiety.

You feel that way because the more the people are the more eyes on you. We tend to feel more comfortable with one friend because it feels less intimidating and it is more personal. However, when we interact with large groups, you might feel that the interaction is less personal and that they might all be judging you and sharing their thoughts about you with one another but this is not the case at all. We make all of this up in our minds but trust me, it is all a matter of practice. Try practice your public speaking amongst people you are comfortable around. You will get there.

You might be a bit of an introvert! This means that you mentally recharge by having space and time to yourself. Introvertedness is often confused for being shy or antisocial, while they’re actually quite different. You might recharge from being around this friend, but it might be overwhelming to be around larger groups. What are some ways that you relax and recharge? Maybe you like to draw, or take walks, or curl up with a book. I would suggest trying to find more downtime. You can also work your way up to big crowds. For example, next time you’re with a big group, challenge yourself to get to know just one new person. Even if it’s just a simple ‘hi how are you’. Over time, you just might grow comfortable enough with big groups to fit in better than you ever thought you could! Hope this helps :)

I think it's normal to be shy around big crowds, especially if it's not something you do on a consistent basis. Being around big crowds can be stressful and overwhelming, especially when alone. It makes it really difficult to socialize with others when you don't know anyone. I think that's where having a friend around is helpful. Your friend can help you get through the crowd if you need to. They can unknowingly provide you the support you need in a sea of people by simply just being there and tackling the feeling of loneliness and shyness. For example, attending a music concert hosted by a popular artist by yourself can be a bit scary. While you may have some common ground and similar interests with the other people attending the concert, it can be overwhelming. If you were able to have a trustworthy, reliable friend by your side, you can socialize with each other. You can also build confidence in each other to approach other attendees and start up some conversations.

Though we are all different and the answer could vary from one person to another, it could be due to a few things. Based off my experience with shyness and the knowledge I have on social structure it's likely to be down to your comfort level and personal confidence. You could feel overwhelmed in a big crowd of people and feel shy as a result. Seeing as you are all alone in a big crowd it's common with people to experience uncomfortableness alone as we have no one or nothing to cling onto for safety making us feel unsafe in a sense. As well as that is could be linked to confidence as well as the more confidence we have the most self assured we are so less likely to feel shy in an overwhelming situation. When you are with one friend you have a higher sense of safety as you have a person to stay near to that you are comfortable with, providing you with a sense of security. That friend can also be a large reassurance to any overwhelming feelings you have or boost your confidence as you feel safe in their presence to be yourself (which means being more outgoing VS shy when you're alone).

Oh! That's simple. You are more comfortable with that friend and you are an introvert. That is what happens to introverts usually. Well, you can not do anything in it. Because this is your personality trait. But still try to built up your Self-confidence more by practicing the talks before hand in your mind that may help you. I am an introvert and that's what I usually do okay. I just practice the important talks before hand so that I can speak with confidence. I think this can help you. Well, this works for me. So, I wish works for you too.

Social anxiety hits a lot of people nowadays. We tend to get concerned about how people perceive us and it makes us very self conscious and unfortunately, it gives us anxiety that makes us shy away from big groups of people that we dont feel totally comfortable with. Working on your confidence is the key. You can build that confidence by removing the fear or false thoughts by tracking them (there are amazing proven techniques for it ), learning how you feel and working on your your mental health can and will solve this. You will feel more relaxed in this situation as soon as you break the barrier in yourself that makes you feel this way. :)

You may not be comfortable around big groups either because you do not know them like you do your friend, or it could be a difference in introversion and extroversion. Introverts spend energy by spending time with people while extroverts gain energy from spending time with people. Extroverts are known to be big with crowds and large groups of friends while introverts are known to enjoy spending more time alone or in small gatherings. What you should ask yourself is, Is this related to how well I know the people in the crowd, or is this more related to being introverted.

Around big crowds, there is a fear of the unknown, that I wont respond in the right way, that I will stick out, I will be judged by my race ethnicity or religion and not by who I truly am. However these thoughts running around my head are predisposed because people couldn't care less, many are just as preoccupied with their own worries and stress. When it comes to friends they know me, who I am and will accept me as a person. I feel accepted and comfortable to be myself without feeling judged. There's no fear of awkward silences, more comfortable.

being shy in big crowds is totally normal! Not everyone is an extrovert. It’s sometimes overwhelming when there’s multiple people around you, especially when they’re not people you’re used to or comfortable with yet. If it’s a problem, slowly work up to it, don’t be afraid to speak up or say your opinion. If you’re worried about what others think, don’t be! You are the only validation you need. I myself struggle all the time in big crowds. I slowly worked my way up and became more and more comfortable with speaking out loud and being open. It just takes time, and a little courage. Life is short! Don’t be afraid, just work at it!

Of course I don't know specifics about your situation, but for me, it comes down to trust. When you're in a big crowd, you most likely haven't gotten to know / trust most people in the crowd. When you're just with a friend, though, you feel like you're able to trust them because you're friends. Something else that it could be is just feeling overwhelmed, I know that happens to me as well. It can definitely be overwhelming in large crowds, whereas with just one friend there's not much to be overwhelmed about, and so you're more comfortable in that situation.

When you're with one friend, that person is someone you know very well and someone whose behaviour you're familiar with/can predict. However, when you're surrounded by people in big crowds, it can get overwhelming because so many people are listening to what you have to say and so many people may judge you. Their behaviour is not as easy to predict as your friend's is because you probably do not know them well. I understand how you feel, I also get really shy around crowds with lots of people. I believe it does get easier with more practice, though. Good luck!

- Social anxiety can affect the individuals self-esteem and has emotional and behavioural traits associated with it. These traits involve negative perception of self, avoiding social situations, over-sensitivity to critique as well as increased fear over embarrassment, humiliation and teasing. Some of the physical symptoms of social anxiety involve avoidance of eye contact, stuttering when taking, blushing. To improve comfort on socially anxious friend a very careful communication style must be taken into account to make sure the individual is at ease: 1. Avoidance of certain phrases (“calm down”, “you don’t need to be afraid”, there is nothing to be anxious about”); but do acknowledge how they truly feel and that you are there for emotional support (“I know you are uncomfortable but I will be there to help you get through this”) and that it’s ok to make mistakes in social situations (“I know you are I uncomfortable but don’t worry about what you say; take your time and see any error as just a learning process”), 2. Knowing that your questions or suggestions may come across as judgemental (e.g. Do not ask or recommend therapy to them as that may make the individual feel like they are being labelled or may magnify that what they experience is extreme and hence may feel worse about themselves). What you ask should not highlight your friends own self-frustrations (e.g. what coping mechanisms do you use for your anxiety?). 3. Do not give the person too much space as an anxious person can interpreting this as abandoning them or they may think they come across as not worth your time. Read the tone, renascence, pitch of their voice when they talk. Even though your friend want to be alone how they say that may suggest otherwise (tone of voice, body language, facial expressions). 4. Do not stigmatise their anxiety but have range in the topics you discuss with them (have light-heartened conversations and ones that don’t always revolve around anxiety as the friendship needs to be a genuine one). Ask your friend in what way they would like you to help them. Talk about common interests and have humourous conversations with them. 5. If you are someone who also experiences anxiety share your experiences with your anxious friend to show they are not alone or join support groups together as it may feel a better connection and relatability to you. Agoraphobia most common in late teens and adults can exist with a combination of other anxiety disorders such as panic attack disorder (A condition which involves serve physical symptoms such as fear of dying, dizziness, sweating). Risk factors such as experience of trauma, abuse are common in acrophobia. Typical agoraphobia symptoms include fear of large crowds, waiting in lines, enclosed spaces (movie theatres, stores), public transportation (bus, trains), leaving home alone. These symptoms can attribute to extreme distress in work situations and misjudgement of the danger of situations. Coping mechanisms in how to help a friend with agoraphobia and panic attacks involve: 1. Educate oneself on the symptoms of agoraphobia and panic attacks ( read what the diagnosis is for agrophobia), 2. Give the friend opportunity to leave at any time of the are pushing themselves out of their comfort zone and still feel uncomfortable. 3. Help friend find a support group. 4. Do not put your friend on the spot as they may feel uneasy about this and further their anxiety.

I find that comfortability lends to me feeling "fine" when I'm in small groups or one-on-one. A big crowd can make feel uneasy because I get worried about being evaluated negatively. However, this feeling is lessened when speaking with just one person. I'm able to gauge their reactions personally instead of imagining the reactions of a large crowd (virtually impossible to accurately gauge). Reminding myself that I'm human, mistakes are ok, and that other people are mostly kind helps me to get out of my head when speaking to a large group. I totally get feeling shy but speaking with people personally helps to build my confidence.

Your friend should feel super lucky because that means that you are totally comfortable with them! It's incredibly important that we surround ourselves with people that allow us to be our true selves all the time. Being in big crowds can be really daunting, because you might feel uncomfortable sharing a part of yourself and being vulnerable with your true identity with someone who you don't know too well. That is totally normal and something that many people experience. I think that building confidence in yourself by continuing to spend time with those people that do make you comfortable is the best way to overcome this shyness, if in fact you want to do so.

It is very normal. You might just not need several people to make you content. One genuine person around you is enough for you. You may value quality over quantity. You may also be a bit introvert which is fine . You may find people judge you easily but someone you trust has patience to understand you. Do not feel bad. It should be that what makes you happy rather than what people think about you. If you feel comfortable with one person that is fine, you do not have to be around crowd much. If you feel shy it is okay, you do not feel bad because it is not something harmful in nature. I hope the answer helped. Take care.

Maybe your interoversion level is high. I say this because that is the case with me too: When I was in high school i got into this tutoring class which have like 5-15 students in it. And my high school class have, like, 36 students in one class alone. I was a shy and more on the reserved side when I am at school but when I’m at this tutoring class I turned into some kind of class clown/ extrovert/friendly person. Totally different. I noticed I always do best in small groups, and after a long session of contemplating and analyzing, I guess it’s because I distribute a lot of energy to be around with a big group of people. What I meant is, when we are communicating or interacting with people as an introvert, we are spending our energy to that person, so the bigger the group, the more energy we employ. On the other perspective; the more people around, the more expectation there are. And sometimes the tought of a consuming amount of expectation around us is making us feel awkward and in my case, clumsier. So I restrain myself from doing things because I know it heightened the chance of embarassing myself. So I became reserved. Whatever is the reason, if you’re still on the “shy” spectrum then I guess you’re completely fine. No one wants to embarass themselves. But if you feel like that “shyness” have interfered your life significantly, I highly suggest you seek a therapy or any sort of help.

Maybe because it's difficult to meet new people but you know how you can deal with people that you already know for example your friends. A lot of people feel this way so I personally wouldn't mind too much. If you really feel like your shyness is bothering in those kind of situations you can reach out to a professional or talk to someone on 7cups. Maybe another way to feel more comfortable in situations like that you can start by meeting new people in hobby clubs or something. When you already have the same interest as other people that might ease the communication between you. And you will feel better more easily

Things can be detailed when there are only 2 persons. Around big crowds, there are a lot to take care of. The influence is big. Sometimes we do not feel ready or even have not ever thought of how we would like to present us to a big crowd. What is the occasion? Who are they? What will they think? What will they talk? How should I do? It could be very different from the way that we get along with friends. When we are with friends, it is about building relationship. When we are around big crowds, the objective could be very different and vague.

Sometimes being in big crowds can provoke anxiety in people. It can be intimidating having many people stand near or around you. You may feel like you don't have control of the situation or the things happening around you. Having a friend with you in big crowds might provide you with the support and comfort that you are missing. Simply knowing that someone is looking out for you can be reassuring in a stressful situation. Now more than ever, being in crowds can increase levels of stress and anxiety. Having someone in your corner helps to relieve some of that stress.

Well, it's either you don't know those people because they are total strangers or you're uncomfortable when they're around. A simple friend that you can trust and spend most of the time with makes you feel safe and happy because you know what their personality is like. Maybe you prefer one friend or by just simply being alone. Sometimes, being around many people makes us feel uncomfy because we aren't familiar with their faces. Our friend is someone who supports you and makes sure that you're okay. On the other hand, strangers are just, well, strangers. They don't know who you are and neither do you, so your life is none of their business.