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Why are they all looking at me?

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Last Updated: 03/26/2019 at 3:14pm
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Top Rated Answers
March 16th, 2015 1:08pm
They're all looking at you because you are gorgeous! Or because you are a mysterious success on legs so they all want to know the secrets..
April 16th, 2015 6:14pm
They may not be looking at you, and you could be experiencing anxiety issues. It may be wise to talk to a professional about the way you are feeling if you experience this often. If they truly are looking at you, it's likely because you are unique or have some other quality they do not possess. Keep your head up and keep moving forward!
June 7th, 2015 7:37am
June 27th, 2016 3:41pm
Why are they all looking at me, you might wonder. The thing is, we often think that people are more concern about us then they really are. For example we may think that as we are walking down the street, everyone is looking at us and are judging us. I think this is because we are judging ourselves. When we feel bad about ourselves and we feel flawed, being around other makes us more conscious about our apperances. We are afraid that everybody will notice whatever we strongly dislike and desire to hide about ourselves. When in fact, everybody is mainly focusing on themselves and probably not judging you.
September 12th, 2016 12:27pm
they aren't, its your mind tricking you to believe that
March 16th, 2015 4:07pm
Are you sure they are looking at YOU? There might be someone else they are looking at, also, not everyone would be looking at you, but you probably get that feeling as you mostly notice the small percentage that do look.
May 10th, 2015 5:19pm
Because you probably look amazing, and whatever you're doing is drawing attention, and you should bask in the glory of that attention :)
December 1st, 2015 3:42pm
Do you feel anxious they are all looking at you because there is something different or weird about you? Sometimes other people are reflection of ourselves, how do you see yourself? If you are confident, you will probably take it as a compliment. If you are insecure, you might think that there is something wrong with you
December 7th, 2015 9:42pm
Sometimes we feel like others are watching or judging us. If you think it's specific people, you might want to talk to them and let them know how you feel. If you feel like this in general, know that everyone has things going on in their lives. You might think you're being watched or judged, but it's possible people are working on their own issues and not focused on you.
April 18th, 2017 8:42pm
I don't think they are. We think people are looking at us because we are looking at ourselves. In truth, nobody really cares what someone else looks like or what they're wearing or whatever. We are much more concerned with ourselves and how we appear to others than we are with how others appear to us. Think about it this way- how do you look at other people? Are you NEARLY as critical of others as you are of yourself? Probably not.
March 27th, 2018 10:30am
Perhaps they are but I doubt this. Most of the time people are busy with themselves and in their head thinking about their own life and problems
March 26th, 2019 3:14pm
Are you sure they are? My dad once told me something, and it's stuck with me ever since. No one is watching you. No one cares what you do, except the people closest to you. If you do something embarrassing, or say something weird, chances are that the strangers that saw it will forget within 10 minutes, and the people that know you will forget within 20. No one is looking at you in public, they have no reason to be. Often, even if someone's eyes are fixed on you, they're not actually watching you. Think about how you look when you're daydreaming. Staring straight forward, eyes on an unsuspecting person. Your friends won't remember if you do something embarrassing. The public doesn't know that you walked by them in an outfit you deem horrible. They aren't looking at you, unless you want them to be.