Why can I not control my thoughts and keep calm?

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Last Updated: 03/06/2018 at 7:42am
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Fachini
April 9th, 2015 12:14am
i can't control my thoughts and keep calm because i have a low self esteem. it's hard to control yourself when you don't believe you're good.
braveIris99
April 30th, 2015 10:48pm
You cannot control your thoughts because you attempt to control your thoughts.keeping calm is not about controlling or restraining oneself but about observing the thoughts maybe eventually smiling at them one day like one would the antics of a small child after realising that you are not your thoughts at all.loosen the need to control and just observe,don't label them,dot get stirred up by them.as a 16 year old girl I'm pretty moody so I've realised that just letting them drift by like clouds will eventually put a stopper on that silly ol' brain box of yours! :)
Anonymous
March 4th, 2015 12:22pm
It sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment, it makes sense that you would feel that way.
OneOcean801
May 24th, 2015 4:49pm
It may be to due to the sheer amount of information your brain is trying to process. Take a step back and try your best to organize and prioritize your responsibilities to avoid being overwhelmed. Are you also making time for yourself? taking on all of your responsibilities without meeting your own needs for relaxation can lead to great anxiety
Ashiya
June 21st, 2016 3:52am
If you feel anxious or that your thoughts cannot be kept calm, try breathing exercises or meditate. Music and a calming environment can help these two.
AWfulesomejj96
December 29th, 2015 11:21am
Thoughts occur frequently on our brain while we are awake, Yet in order to adapt to the ever-changing environment our brain automatically generates random thoughts. As a result these thoughts can be both our boon and curse. In order to keep calm we are responsible for filtering our thoughts and excercise self control and be calm...
StayingStrong89
May 20th, 2015 12:54am
to control yourself, you got to believe you can! and is also something not easy, so it takes a while.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2017 5:57pm
Your heart could be racing. Whenever I have trouble controlling my thoughts it is normally because my heart rate is very high. To lower my heart rate I do some deep breathing exercises. After my heart rate is back to normal I can think clearly.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2015 5:44pm
You might feel like you can't control yourself right now, because you can't seem to cope with your emotions and probably the anxiety that they trigger, but it is possible to have some control over it again. You need to know what triggers it, what kind of thoughts, it's very important. And if you have a panic attack use it to learn your coping techniques. Maybe taking full deep breaths, walking around for a little bit. Picture a thing you like and keep adding detail to it so your mind focuses entirely on that one thought.
H3r3ForYou
April 6th, 2015 1:59pm
It takes practice to be able to fully control your thoughts and keep calm. Sometimes, speaking to a professional can help you with this.
thetruepixie
April 22nd, 2015 9:30am
I think that it is all a matter or training. The more you succeed in calming and controlling your thoughts, the better you will get. It might be agonising to not have the feeling to succeed but it will happen!
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 7:01pm
You may be suffering from anxiety. To calm down, try meditation, hypnosis, or other similar things.
iloveyou166
March 6th, 2018 7:42am
You're overthinking or too stressed. Take a nice breather and plan / map out your thoughts to organize them.