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Why can't I calm down even though everything is okay?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2017 at 1:01pm
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August 15th, 2016 8:44pm
There's an idea planted in your head that something must be wrong. For some this is because that is what they're used to and happiness is unexpected. For others it can be the voice inside their head telling them they have to worry because... And this idea changed everything. You want to get rid of it but it's there it will always be there you just have to find your way of controlling it. You cannot be told how to do this, it has to come from you.
June 11th, 2015 8:19am
Sometimes when everything is okay, we imagine a time when everything will not be okay. Then we might spend more time worrying about that rather than enjoying the moment we are experiencing.
June 29th, 2015 8:03pm
The Hypothalamic pituitary adrenal axis is still activated and is still allowing the increase release of stress hormones (CRF and others); therefore, although the main stressful event is over (getting angry, crying, or shock) we still feel the aftermath in our bodies until the sympathetic system brings our heart rate and stress hormones down.
March 8th, 2015 8:33am
Maybe you are overthinking things in your life and that's making you feel this way. I'm sorry to hear that you feel like this.
March 26th, 2015 8:27am
Sometimes I feel really stressed and can't calm down because I'm worrying about what might not be okay in the future. I use mindfulness techniques to draw me back to the present and focus on my breathing.
July 10th, 2017 1:01pm
It depends on how you react to difficult/stressful situations and it also depends on the type of stressful events you have experienced in the past and how you dealt with those. Personally, I've experienced a great amount of trauma so I tend to freak out at a lot and not understand the reason. I've learned that since I've been through traumatic experiences, my brain sometimes goes into a "fighter" mode. It makes me feel as if I am in danger and need to protect myself. While I'm feeling this way, I could be doing something simple as washing the dishes or working. Our brains are amazing and can remember things at certain moments that we don't think about that may send us into that "fighter mode".
April 9th, 2015 3:38am
Anxiety. It can be caused by anything. But its most of the time in your head.You can control it by Self validation, telling yourself that everything is fine. You can try to distract yourself.
March 8th, 2016 6:28pm
Sometimes there is just that overwhelming feeling that something is wrong, even though everything is okay. Sometimes there just cannot be an acceptance of things being okay, it sometimes feels as though something has to be wrong, for whatever reason
March 10th, 2015 11:59am
because everything is not okay, you should look hard for the reason that makes you feel not okay so you can solve it and then feel okay again
July 25th, 2016 3:39pm
It sounds like you are having anxiety, and there is not always a reason for it. It is important to try and notice similarities in the times you feel as if you cannot calm down, so you can identify a possible trigger.
April 25th, 2015 5:44pm
The reason is simple... because often we tend to tell ourselves that everything is okay, and we deny problems, but in our subconcious we are not okay, thus you cant calm down, so you need to get to the bottom of things
September 14th, 2015 12:34pm
The mind works in strange ways, there can be things that you don't even know about, but your mind does. Emotions stay for a long time even though everything is okay.
May 3rd, 2015 9:51am
This can be a sign that you are anxious about something. You might not be fully aware of that problem though but are subconsciously worrying a lot about it. Can you think of anything in your life that is causing you stress or worry (no matter how small?)
September 21st, 2015 6:05am
You amy be experiencing anxiety and have a disorder its okay and its not your or anyones fault it happens and its ok to have that .
September 28th, 2015 1:11am
continuously thinking of something do not let us calm down. So spend more time in doing something instead of thinking.
February 16th, 2016 6:24pm
Anxiety Doesn’t Always Come Alone, and It Can Be Hard to Spot. But you can practice to calm down and figure out maybe about what exactly is the trigger.
July 11th, 2016 1:55pm
It sounds like you're anxious about what the future holds. It is actually a phobia, in which you're scared about something going wrong or something bad happening, when everything is going smoothly. It can feel abnormal to us when everything is going well, so we panic in response.