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Why can't I figure out what to do with my life?

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Last Updated: 04/19/2021 at 1:01pm
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August 3rd, 2015 4:08am
Maybe you just haven't found what you LOVE yet. Or maybe you are like everything and you want to be something different every week.
January 28th, 2015 3:14am
Maybe you're trying too hard. Maybe there is nothing to figure out. Can you accept your life for what it is now? Can you be okay with not having a plan, or having all the answers? John Lennon said, "life is what happens to you while you're busy making plans." Some of us think we have it all figured out, but nobody does. But if you learn to love the questions, you won't need the answers anymore.
February 17th, 2015 9:24pm
Life is a journey. Sometimes you put a lot of effort into something and gain nothing, sometimes you can discover your greater talent completely by accident. There are millions of possibilities for you and finding something what would you like to do with your life may be pretty challenging! Just try different things and talk with many people. Enjoy your journey - learning about yourself can be a reward itself!
January 25th, 2015 6:01pm
Maybe it's because you aren't trying enough new things. Put yourself out there and experience as much as you can. Eventually you will find something you are passionate about and it will just stick with you.
April 1st, 2015 1:45am
There is nothing wrong with not being able to figure out what to do with your life. Many people of many different ages and situations are still trying to figure out their lives too! Know that any choice does not have to be permanent if you don't want it to.
May 28th, 2015 12:43am
Because being human means that sometimes we don't have all the answers, for instance many people who feel frustrated have trouble explaining why they feel what they feel... not having all the answers is part of life...
June 28th, 2016 4:36am
It is okay not to know what to do with your life. There will be stagnant periods in your life where you don't really know where it is going, and that's alright. Moments like these are perfect for small little breaks where you think about what type of things make you happy. If you consider all the things that make you happy, you can begin to figure out what you might want to do with your life.
March 7th, 2015 7:01pm
Figuring out what to do with your life is a really tough task. It can take years of trying different things (jobs, relationships, locations) to figure out what you want or don't want. It's not supposed to be easy! Focus on things that make you happy and will have an impact on the world and people's lives.
March 19th, 2015 6:40pm
Life is so hard to figure out and it's terrible that our society demands everyone to immediately know what their purpose is with minimal trial and error. Don't feel ashamed to have to try things out before fully committing to it. Plenty of people do. If you talk to older people, you'll find that a lot of them studied one subject in school and then found themselves working in a completely unrelated field.
December 28th, 2015 7:51am
It is absolutely normal, you did not find your purpose yet, but you have to be strong enough to know your purpose because there is no one who was born on this earth was born without a purpose.
July 26th, 2016 9:11am
You can't figure out what to do in your life as you have no focus. If you want focus ,you should find your passion. If you can't find your passion help somebody build up their passion until you know yours. Once you find your passion you will have focus and will work to achieve that dream and you will know what to do with your life.
December 5th, 2016 6:03am
Because as humans we are always changing our minds. Whether it's from fear of failure or disapproval or just found something better. Don't give up you'll find your calling!
September 13th, 2016 12:23am
Life is a complicated thing, it's hard to know where you're going! Focus on what makes you happy, and it'll all fall into place
March 14th, 2015 4:13pm
You will have many lives and find yourself doing many things until you feel that spark that tells you this is no longer just a job, it's something you excel at, something you want to get out of bed to do. Personally, going back to my teens, I was a cook, a cashier, a dental assistant, an admin asst., a Realtor, and entrepreneur where I did payroll, hiring, firing, accounting, site management, sales and marketing. When that ended, I was blessed to have the opportunity to find what gave me joy, a sales person. I was also a bartender, which also gave me joy.
April 1st, 2015 4:18pm
Everybody has different time to figure it out. After all, it's not something easy! Take your time and don't pressure yourself.
August 24th, 2015 1:45pm
Hello! Feeling lost sometimes is completely normal. From my own experience finding out what you want do with your life is only a matter of time. I would recommend you to try out all sorts of different things that might interest you. In my case, I can tell you that I grew up wanting to be a filmmaker but after I graduated I found out that my passion is business communications so I want to apply to do MBA. It took a long time, many classes, many experiences ... to realise that. The answer is there inside of you. You just have to find it! And there's no hurry for that :)
December 14th, 2015 4:25pm
you haven't found your calling yet most people have trouble with this and that is always ok so dont worry to much because you will find it one day
August 23rd, 2016 4:32pm
It depends, sometimes it is because you do not feel like anything is worth doing or you are in a emotional low. However often times it can be because you just don't know or you are scared to take a wrong turn. We don't always know what we should be doing, so follow your instincts and follow your heart and you will find the right path for you.
September 5th, 2016 1:40am
Just go with the flow. Don't worry so much. Basically, good thing will come along. We will know what to do in the right time.
February 20th, 2017 3:16am
It is normal to not know what to do with your life. The key is searching through options and finding what is best for you, it is perfectly fine to take your time.
August 7th, 2017 4:30am
What is your dream? What you really want to do in your life? Think wisely, then you will figure out what you can do with your life. Get out from your comfort zone, go explore the world.
February 25th, 2019 10:22pm
Figuring out your passion takes times and it may evolve over time. It is important to set SMART (Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic Time-Based) goals that you can divide into small tasks. Some people like to take career assessments to see what fields they may fit best in. However, you may already be involved in something that you enjoy and would do for free. That may be your passion or it may be something that you can't stop thinking about accomplishing. That means you are one step closer. You can do it and remember to be kind to yourself :)
April 19th, 2021 1:01pm
Figuring out what to do with your life can be challenging, but it's important to understand that you may not have all the answers. I've learned it's ok to start down the wrong path, it allows us to make critical decisions that lead us to where we should be going with our life. We have lots of time to figure out what we should be doing, but most importantly what we want to be doing. There may be things blocking you are holding you back, but take each day to remind yourself that you will be able to figure out eventually what to do overall.