Why can't I just overcome my anxiety?

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Last Updated: 06/05/2018 at 8:24am
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Top Rated Answers
kiwihannahnz
February 21st, 2015 12:50pm
Anxiety often feels like a constant grey cloud hanging over your head. Your anxiety may never be completely overcome, but you can overcome the challenge of losing control of your life through your perceptions of yourself and situations. Challenging these negative ideas with positives is important in taking charge of your anxiety.
caringCara11
March 20th, 2015 2:55pm
Anxiety is really difficult and overcoming it is a process, not a single event. It takes time and lots of inner strength. You may not be able to conquer it because you fear losing it - like an old friend. Team up with a professional you can work with in order to let it go and move on.
LilyFlowers
May 3rd, 2015 5:46am
Just overcome your anxiety? Anxiety is no small thing and in some cases have been formed in your brain, your entire life. It is under no circumstances to be taken lightly and think we can just wish it away or just get over it.
MellyLa
November 3rd, 2015 8:41am
Anxiety is not something you can just get rid of from one day to the next. It requires determination and constance in whatever it is you're doing to keep anxiety from taking over your life. DO whatever feels best for you, whether it be writing in a diary, doing progressive relaxation, seeing a therapist, or a combination of all these. Slowly, but steadily, you'll see that your anxiety won't be as bad anymore.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 3:38pm
Because life can be scary and we are all terrified by it. We want to have control over it so everything will run smoothly but there are many things that we cannot control. We are scared that if certain things don't happen the way we expect it then we will be lost in uncertainty. We are conditioned to think that everything is linear, when actually nothing is exactly the same. Nothing is permanent, whatever happens will pass, moment will not stuck there forever. We have to let go and be confident that whatever life throw you, you have the control over what you feel about. We can't control our surrounding but we always have the choices on how we respond to them.
thatsorachel
May 16th, 2016 11:11pm
Overcoming something like anxiety isn't something that just happens overnight. It takes time and effort, and a lot of baby steps, but you will get there. I've struggled with anxiety my whole life and with each new challenge it has created for me, it's taken time to learn to cope and overcome it, but I knew that even if it was hard, taking the steps to overcome it would improve my life. So, while it may not be easy and simple, and it may take some time, you CAN overcome your anxiety.
caringdreamer94
June 5th, 2018 8:24am
From experience, it's a matter of managing it every day by taking one step at a time. It is overwhelming at times, and it might feel as though you'll never overcome it but I can attest to the fact that it certainly can be managed.
c1ov3rda1e
February 18th, 2015 4:15am
You can. If you find the right methods to relax your mind and body, and work on changing your thought patterns in relation to whatever is giving you anxiety, you can overcome it. Explore what you can do for your unique mind and body, as well as confronting your fears in a safe environment.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 10:56am
If it is a long term then it might take a long time to manage it by yourself or have someone to help you ...
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 7:39am
Because you have to really try...its a disorder that humans get...try keeping your mind busy and full of good things
cuddlyBreeze53
November 9th, 2015 4:45am
Anxiety is not something that is easy to overcome. Because it does not involve just your feelings, but also your brain. Because you experience anxiety so often, it has become some sort of a habit for your brain and it is impossible to stop it so quickly. So take things slowly. One way to reduce anxiety effects is by counting slowly to 10 when it occurs. It really helps a lot.
resourcefulHeart93
January 5th, 2016 10:44pm
Breathe, meditate, take things slowly, try to figure out the reason why you are anxious, and try to overcome that.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2016 12:00pm
You can overcome it if you put your mind to it. You just have to let it make its way through you and not fight it, just focus on making yourself feel relaxed and calm.
plumflower
May 9th, 2016 5:22pm
It takes time for it to go away, it's not something you can get rid of right away. When you are getting an anxiety attack pull yourself to the side and take deep breaths. Something else you can do is carry a small rubber band with you and play with it when you get an anxiety attack.
CupOfShaye
August 2nd, 2016 6:10pm
Many people think of anxiety as a fleeting emotion that ceases to exist once the situation improves. Unfortunately, this is simply not true. Anxiety causes a chemical change within the brain and can rewire a person's emotions, responses, and judgment. When this change takes place, it can be difficult to consider life without anxiety - this can push a person to feel like they will experience this forever. Anxiety is often treatable with different options: Medication, therapy, better sleep habits, a positive support group, and/or long-term detox from negative stimuli.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 9:20pm
Because we cant be definite what exactly we're anxious about and we cant clearly identify our crisis to solve
HereToHelpYou742
August 16th, 2016 11:11pm
Depending on how long you have been dealing with it your brain may automatically want to respond to it in an anxiety provoking way. Go to therapy and they can help you think about things
Anonymous
October 4th, 2016 7:41pm
You don't just overcome any hardship, and sometimes willpower isn't enough. Using all possible help & support available can be of help.
BrooklynM
March 5th, 2018 9:39pm
Overcoming anxiety fully is a very hard thing to do, especially if you've struggled with it for awhile, like I have. I've found that talking with either a therapist or school psychologist helps a lot, as they understand what's going on more than most people. Close friends can also be a great support system if you're in class and your anxiety levels rise to where it is hard to handle. Parents are a great support system as well, as you're with them a lot and they are always there for you. :)
YellowSunshine14
April 2nd, 2018 10:07am
Anxiety isn't something you overcome easily- it takes time. But, with the correct help and medication (if required), you will feel better.
IWannaBeWell23
June 4th, 2018 9:34pm
Why can't you just skip through school and get the job you love? Anxiety is a beast without reason, it will latch on to you when you least expect it. To fight back and press forward, learning new techniques and ways to handle it will only give you strength and help you grow. It's hard to live with anxiety, especially if it feels like thats all you're experiencing. Know that after each bout with it, you're becoming a stronger person.