Why can't I talk to people without freaking out?
Last Updated: 01/20/2020 at 5:49pm
Monique Thompson, LPC, LPC-S
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am in my 21st year as a psychotherapist. I have worked with over 3, 000 people over the course of my career.
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People are scary. Their eyes watch us when we speak and their mind works like a bullet train waiting to point out whatever slip-of-the-tongue we make. Being rejected once is enough to hold us back for a lifetime.
One of the reason can be that you are having low confidence level. You always fear what others will think about you and so whenever you try to talk to someone, you loose the control if they ask you or interrupt you in between.
Maybe you had a bad experience in your past, or maybe that could be a sign of social anxiety. Often, social pressure can affect us greatly, especially if we react strongly to others. Social anxiety is linked to being an empath and reacting strongly to others, so your reactions could be perfectly normal in your context. Wish you all the best.
It is most likely just social anxiety. I know how it feels. You think everyone will laugh if you mess up talking or doing whatever you're doing or any little thing and you think someone will think something bad about you. I PROMISE it's not like that. It's all in your head. Social anxiety is not fun to deal with but there are ways to control it that you can look up online and there might be something on 7 cups. Hope this helps.
Maybe because you feel inferior to them, or you have a low self-esteem. You should be confident that you are just like others. You can easily build your self esteem by reading a personality development book. It will be easy only if you believe in yourself.
its a lack of confidence. sometimes we over think that someone is going to judge us no matter what we say that we completely freak out before we even answer
people don't respond and they waste my time. it's annoying, because now i cant help the people who need it.
It sounds like you may be experiencing some 'social anxiety', this is a very common type of anxiety that many people experience. It causes people to have difficulty in social situations, sometimes even resulting in panic attacks. There are methods to help cope with anxiety, you can find them here on 7 cups in the Self-Help guides. If you feel like you need to see your doctor, they are usually the ones to go to in order to get a referral letter for diagnosis if needed.
its due to the fact that u cant be comfortable with them , so go in places having environment favourable for u
You might feel nervous or paranoid that something will go wrong. Try to think about possible outcomes of a conversation and think about how they would or wouldn't help with your situation.
Because that's just how you are, just like frankestein, misunderstood by the villagers, freaking out all the time because he's so hidious. NO! Find a solution, do some EFT (emotional freedom technique), find a psychologist, learn NLP (Neuro linguistic programming), take a deep breathe, go for a walk, pet a dog, Do something about it.
Maybe you should start out with a group of your friends and practice speaking in person. It is a skill that you have to learn to be able to get up and speak in front of people. Speaking in front of people does not come naturally to every body. It is a skill something that you learn and practice and get better with each time that you do it. Maybe even start out teaching a small class until you get comfortable and can speak to a larger group. Anxiety could probably play a role in why you freak out when it is time to talk to people check that out as well.
Social anxiety can be very real for some people. It is debilitating and can leave us feeling isolated and struggling to feel a connection with others. The best thing would’ve to concentrate on your mood levels by doing something you enjoy, such as exercise. Increasing our mood can help us to feel more confident and comfortable around others. It may be easier to talk to people online first and develop a friendship that way. You can explain that sometimes you feel anxious whilst talking and allow them to gain an understanding. This may help put your mind at ease and gradually be able to meet people
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