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Why do I always feel like people are laughing at me when I don't hear it?

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Last Updated: 05/04/2022 at 4:48pm
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Elisaishere
February 10th, 2019 4:44pm
On my experience, it’s because i didn’t have a lot of self esteem and used to know every little thing « wrong » with me so i could hear them laughing and i was so sure that it was about me because i also have been bullied so i was so sure that they were saying things like « have you seen her hair » or  « ew look at her face or body » and even when they were not even laughing i was so used to judgment that i convinced myself that they were laughing at my looks or at what i was saying, i was and am still scared of judgment.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2019 8:26pm
I think you'll find a surprising number of people who can relate to this question. I think that sometimes we start to believe that "confidence" is the absence of insecurities, but that is absolutely not the case. Everyone is insecure about something, and it's more than ok to feel insecure. You can express an insecurity, even to yourself, and accept that this is a fear that comes from somewhere inside you, it isn't what anyone outside of you necessarily feeling or thinking. It is likely that people around you are also unaware that you are thinking it and feeling it. Knowing that alone, and reminding yourself in the moment, which of course is harder in practice, can quiet some of those fears and make social situations more manageable. People who appear confident are not people who have know insecurities, they have just gotten to know them, and people who do not feel or appear confident just haven't done that yet.
jennifer1984
June 12th, 2019 7:30am
People sometimes expect others to react to them in certain ways others have responded to them in the past, and they don't recognize when others have thwarted their negative expectations because they've been conditioned to emotionally respond to others a certain way in certain circumstances in which their minds have noticed negative behavior patterns based on past events & circumstances. Think of Pavlov's dogs for a better understanding. Pavlov is a famous scientist who studied behavioral patterns. He rang a bell to announce that he was going to feed his dogs, in one famous experiment. After consistently ringing the bell before feeding them and doing it on numerous occasions, his dogs began to drool in anticipation of receiving food when they heard a bell ring, even though they weren't provided with food. If you've been ridiculed in social situations involving groups of people in the past on numerous occasions, you might expect to hear people laughing at you and feel embarrassed and demeaned when you enter into situations with groups of people, even though no one is ridiculing you. Here, feeling like people are laughing when they're not is the equivalent of Pavlov's dogs drooling when there isn't any food around for them to eat, and entering social situations with groups of people is the equivalent of Pavlov ringing a bell. Feelings can be triggered by your own expectations of what will happen in a situation, just as easily as they can be when something actually happens in one.
shanjul8
June 27th, 2019 6:10pm
Before you can even begin to trust your partner again, you first need to trust yourself — your inner knowledge of what's right and wrong for you. We have all been blessed with two sources of knowing — our feelings and the wisdom that pops into our mind from our higher guidance. When you learn to trust your feelings about your partner and learn to trust the wisdom that is always here for you, then you become truly trustworthy of yourself. This means that you stop ignoring that inner whisper and start listening to what you know in your heart and soul. Then and only then will you be able to discern what is true and what isn't about your partner and the relationship. With self-trust, you will be able to feel — and believe — when he or she is lying or trying to take advantage of you in a way that erodes trust.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2019 8:32am
Is it possible that you go through social anxiety ? Or have been through some tough experiences with people you loved and trusted ? If yes , then that can explain what you feel . I advise you to start working on your mind , learn to control the thoughts you have because not everything you have in my is true and healthy. It will take some time , but I trust it gets better when you get used to the practice and also , do you have friends ? If yes then I advise you to spend some time with them and learn to trust them because not everybody spends his life laughing at other people. If you don't have friend , I hope you make some very soon. You don't need to stay alone.
SriVidyaSaraswati
January 5th, 2020 6:30pm
Probably you pay many attention about what others think, and you should't. Whatever a person thinks in his mind has nothing to do with you. You are responsible for your actions and your mind....not for others. Apart from that you should try to boost a little bit your self-esteem, because it is strange that you feel like that always....Probably you have a low self esteem, and you should work on building positive emotions about yourself and acceptance! here on 7 cups there are few self-esteem meditation that you could try...and meditation works faster than any other method, since it affects our subconscious mind!
JohnWayneApproach007
January 10th, 2020 7:41am
Sometimes we put too much emphasis on what others think of us. Hold your head high and have confidence in yourself. You're a very capable person and others may look up to you more than you know! Remember and understand that you are not the only person who has ever felt this way. Talk to the people you are closest too and ask them if they have ever had a similar experience and you will most likely find that we all go through similar situations. It is important to remember to respect ourselves and to think positively about ourselves. Others will take note and respect you for it.
SofiaT2000
February 27th, 2020 10:33pm
It's the feeling of exposition. We all feel exposed in different ways. It is really important to try to comprehend how special you are in order to get over it. Everyone has been in this place. Just remember that not all people are bad and try to judge you. Those who do that, they use it as a way to gain attention. After a great amount of research, it is proven that most people whom judge others they do it to feel better with their own self and appeal for help because they are facing their own issues. It is not always your fault when others treat you bad, it may just be them. The fact that people are enable to understand how valuable you are makes them immature but definitely does not affect your value. Just don't forget to have faith in yourself and your abilities because I'm sure that you are lacking absolutely nothing in comparison to other people. Never give up on yourself because I believe in you!
urstrong
May 13th, 2020 10:52am
When someone is not completely accepting him/herself then they alwys think that thw world is also not and that makes them to feel inferior about themselves which causes a lot of problems for them, some of them are like this that peolpe are laughing at them. So one should be confident about themselves and the first thing to do about it is accpeting yourself. Just do it and see the differences in yourself and then in the eyes of the society. And if even after that you feel the same then you will act differently on such situations. BE STRONG, BE YOU.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 2:58am
Social anxiety is a disorder that can make us feel, hear, and see things that aren't there. Though someone may just be laughing at a joke, or something that happened earlier in their day, we assume as we walk past that they are laughing at us. We question how we look, or the way we act, and wonder what makes us stand out to be made fun of. What we need to recognize is that this is an irrational idea that causes insecurity and unhappiness within ourselves. People laugh, people stare, people whisper to the people with them, and we need to know that unless it's a hateful person with nothing better to do with their life but that, 9 times out of 10, it's our own mind playing tricks on us to think they're directing it towards us.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2020 6:22am
We, as humans, often are anxious about what others think of us, so it is not uncommon for us to feel this way. We often do not feel as though we fit in or are good enough for others, but those who you feel are laughing at you often feel the same way. Though everyone has different ways of overcoming this fear, it can be very hard and tedious and right after you think you have fixed it, it comes back again. It is easy to trick yourself into thinking others dislike you. It's all self confidence. Just do your thing and rock it :)
fantasticJoy75
November 22nd, 2017 8:40am
If you feel like people are laughing at you it's a conversation that needs much discussion to understand more. These symptoms could be signs of a much more serious condition and may need to be referred to a therapist
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 3:35am
Everyone experiences this at some point in life! It's a very reasonable thing to be scared of, but just know that it doesn't matter what others think. You are you and that's amazing!
insightfulWaterfall81
February 7th, 2018 4:15am
You feel like this because you're self esteem may be a little low and you think that you're being judged
Melissame
February 7th, 2018 6:09pm
This can be a difficult thing to experience and can lower your self esteem. Sometimes our thoughts are difficult to control which is fine. This is one of the main symptoms of social anxiety but in time you can overcome this. Sometimes if we already think bad of ourselves, we automatically believe others do too thus leading us to believe people laugh. Check out the social anxiety forums, there may be some helpful tips!
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 12:38pm
I believe this is possibly felt by one feeling paranoid caused by a low self-confidence/esteem. The anxiousness that can be caused because of lacking confidence can often times be extreme where one feels that others around them are silently judging/mocking them, even when they are not. This paranoia can infringe on ones ability to succeed at certain things when it overpowers them in a particular moment. Anxiety that causes paranoia can be crippling and create avoidance behavior when not able to be manage.
sweetmikayla
April 8th, 2018 2:13pm
Maybe it is caused by a past traumatic experience. Maybe you were bullied and were used so much to people laughing at you and pointing out your flaws. You just have to think that it's all in your head, and that people aren't necessarily laughing at you. Maybe they're laughing at something else, maybe they didn't even notice you. Some negative events have scarred us much more than we think, so we have to stop focusing on them in order to be able to think clearly.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:11pm
You may have some issues with your self-esteem and have social anxiety. Often those who have social anxiety feel self-concious.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 3:39am
You seem to have a deep fear of public embarrassment. You are constantly thinking about what would happen if you do something wrong
Mariaaa00
June 17th, 2018 7:28am
The thing you may be feeling is called the spotlight effect. The spotlight effect is when you feel like you are being noticed by others more than you really are. It's completely normal to feel this way.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 3:10pm
This is because i lack self confidence.I always fear that what ever i say or do is possibly incorrect.
wonderfullSummer84
June 30th, 2018 2:03am
Well. You’re insecure. I totally get it. You feel like there is nothing that people would rather do than make fun of you, and I’m super sorry. It sucks. Feel free to message me so we can talk about it.
jaylaise
July 5th, 2018 5:11pm
You might be insecure and very self-conscious. Perhaps, you suffer from low-self esteem. Or maybe you've had negative experiences with people laughing at you in the past or during your childhood, and that feeling has stayed with you.
Inperfection
July 12th, 2018 10:45am
You are paranoid, but you are not alone. Majority of people feel this way and it can become exhausting. Try distract yourself because 95% of the time, it's only yourself thinking this.
Kiwilovelyunderstands
July 12th, 2018 12:03pm
I feel like that sometimes because I feel insecure and I don’t think I am good enough. But it is ok because you don’t have to care
positiveHeart50
July 12th, 2018 3:34pm
You might be struggling with anxiety, and you feel uneasy around other people. From personal experience they usually are not talking about you, but I completely understand how it may seem that they are
SeaShell55
July 13th, 2018 3:28am
Social anxiety and self doubt caused me to believe that people around me in public were judging me for my appearance, how slow I am at the checkout, what I'm shopping for etc. It also has a lot to do with confidence
Samasmokey13
July 19th, 2018 11:39am
Well, when you feel like these it often means your insecure and shy and you feel like everyone is watching you.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 9:47pm
There's always that paranoia of embarrassment. Just tell yourself, you don't care what other people say about you. You are your own individual.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 9:08am
Feeling like people are laughing at you when they aren’t isn’t a common sign of anxiety. Do you experience any physical signs such as Fast heart rate, shaking.. etc..?