The need to be accepted is a natural human instinct. Such need can cause anxiety, fear, pressure, and even depression in any individual. So, the fear of being judged by the way one looks, acts, or speaks is a normal one. However, with time one learns to see the meaning behind such need and the significance of wanting to be accepted.
Truth is, with the passing of the years, one grows to appreciate quality over quantity. In doing so, we progressively learn to appreciate those few individuals that add more value to their lives rather than just take up space and time. Friendships become more selective and the group of people we care about grows smaller the older we get. We may have many acquaintances, people we know, and people we come into contact on a daily basis, but the people who really matter to us usually become a selected few.
When such thing happens, you realize that you do not need to impress anyone and that those who you have accepted in your life as priority already love you for who you naturally are. As a result, you become more comfortable in your own skin and you eventually learn to love and accept yourself just as much those selected few in your life. In addition, with such core of support, you become more accepting of letting people who take up space and time in your life, go. You learn to develop self-value in realizing that you deserve to be surrounded by quality and by people who will accept you by the way you naturally look, act, or speak.
In conclusion, it is normal to feel fear towards rejection as well as judgment.... The good news? It most likely will pass. However, if with time you realize that such fear does not dissipate, try to analyze the root of your fear towards rejection. To some, such analysis may require the help of a trusted individual or the help of a qualified professional. Regardless of who you approach, I encourage you to always pursue your happiness and mental stability. After all, you have the same right to be happy as those who you fear may judge you for the way you look, act, or speak. Just know that regardless of your situation, you can always find people who can listen to you and will not judge you here at 7 Cups of Tea.
We are here for you and we embrace your uniquely natural internal and external beauty!