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January 14th, 2015 9:47pm
Everyone gets doubts when they meet anyone new, especially someone who may or may not be with you in a romantic way. Everyone gets self-doubts, but the thing to remember is that they are with you for a reason. They saw something they liked and saw potential in the relationship.
A relationship is a huge risk: you are putting your most vulnerable self out to a person and you have to trust them to not hurt you. Realize that you have to trust the other person, and that you have the power to take things as slow as you feel comfortable with going. A relationship doesn't have to be 100% from day one!
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December 22nd, 2015 1:07pm
You might have uncontrollable doubts about new relationships based off of past memories of bad relationships and the trauma that occurred. I was in a verbal violence case with my partner once. I'm still uneasy getting into new relationships!
Something may have happened in the past causing these trust issues, whether you can remember or not. What I'd say is maybe talking to your partner about how you're feeling, share your doubts, it could really help just by talking it out and getting reassurance. Best of luck. :)
Some people just don't trust as easily as others. Some individuals may have gone through something traumatic or upsetting in their relationship and may find it hard to trust new people. It isn't a bad thing as long as you can realize what is happening
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September 22nd, 2015 8:14pm
It's actually quite common to have doubts, fear rejection, and worry about even small things. Sometimes simply talking to the other person can put your doubts at ease.
Having doubts it's natural. A lot more if your previous ones left you somewhat disappointed. Our doubts can help us approach anything new with caution. We have the power to decide whether or not to trust these thoughts or try to find proof to help us understand if we are only insecure or truly things aren't what they seem to be.
Negative past experiences could be a reason to have doubts. It's understandable to generalize the person in your relationship. But just remember that not every relationship is the same because not every person is the same. Allowing yourself to be more open minded could have a positive effect for opportunities to come.
being in relationships can be anxiety provoking, because you are entering a world of unknowns and unpredictability, sense you have to accept that they have the free will to make their own choices and so, we have no control over that person. This can make trusting very difficult. perhaps, it is trusting ourselves, that we can accept and cope with these decisions and still remain valuable to people and to ourselves. looking inward to our own strength is the only path, when taking on any new journey,
Doubts are very normal for new relationships. It's alright to worry that things may seem off or question another's loyalty. A relationship takes time and dedication from both members, taking to the other person can help drastically, as well as help the two of you bond closer. As time goes on you'll feel more comfortable, if theres nothing that the other person says or does which is of concern then remind yourself of that. Doubts typically go away when the relationship strengthens and is maintained. Taking and expressing any doubts can help as well, including figuring out why you feel you have these doubts and closing them with any answers you have or know.