Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
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Anonymous
June 29th, 2016 6:42pm
You may feel like this due to the past? Trust issues or bad experiences- however if you love your girlfriend and she loves you you should be happy together
A lack of trust for others in your past maybe? Possibly even your present. Maybe she has given you a reason to not trust her? If that's not the case, maybe insecurities of your own are what's playing a part in this. There are definitely some kind of trust issues present in the relationship if you believe that she is cheating all the time.
Maybe you don't trust her or you don't trust each other, and this is really bad in a relationship. You have to figure this out and talk to her.
Perhaps you are worried or maybe insecure that you aren't good enough for her. Talk to her and communicate how you feel.
Because we are human beings. We make mistakes and sometimes things like jealousy get the best of us.
There are many reasons as to why you might thing your significant other is cheating. It might be that trust hasn't really been established in your relationship or maybe you have been cheated on before. It is completely normal to be aware of the possibility that your girlfriend is cheating. I suggest making trust an important thing in your relationship. Get to know each other better, learn to feel like yo love each other so much and would never cheat on one another. If you have trust issues that are a bit more complicated to overcome, that's okay too! Talk to someone about it.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 1:23pm
Well, when you're in a relationship the first thing that matter is trust and without it.. every Relation is nothing.. and if you're feeling this way from a long time.. then there are two solutions.. one try to figure out the difference and clear up things.. or leave her.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 4:56pm
It could be down to something that has happened in your relationship but also could be down to something in your mind making you feel like she is.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2016 8:48pm
Did you ever experience betrayal from a loved one before or witness someone being betrayed or though this may sound harsh did you ever cheat in a relationship or think about doing so ever ? These could be some major causes of suspicions.
Other causes might be deep inside you feel you don't deserve her, that she is too good for you, you think you are not able to make her feel the way she deserves to feel.
You may be anxious because you care so much about her you don't want to lose her, you should gently bring up the subject and ask her about any boys your suspicious about
If youbfeel confidence in yourself than it shouldn't bother you but if she has giving you clues than its better to move on and be happy
Anonymous
July 29th, 2016 3:22am
Always follow the signs and your instincts. If you are insecure then it would be good to have a talk with her.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 4:03pm
Complicated question. She may not be giving you the attention you want which could start a train of negative thinking leading into the question of cheating. It could also be a problem of bad relationships in the past which makes it hard to trust a significant other at times. Keep communication lines open and loving, ... try to do what is best for you and your partner.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 4:42pm
You might have had previous negative experiences like that influencing your fears, you might not trust her enough sensing unconsciously some hints, you might not have developed a deeper authentic communication with her, so many possible reasons... the best answer is within you for sure that only you can know best
I don't know. You have to trust the one you love and if you can't then you don't really have anything to begin with. Try to understand better if it is you or her that is going crazy and make sure you relax and just live and let live
This is anxiety. If you do not have a specific reason, that is, and even if you do really. Access your anxiety and/or perhaps speak to a doctor about it.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 3:00am
Maybe you have got trust issues? have you had any past issues with relationships? Is there any indication that might lead your suspects
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 9:53pm
It can be hard to feel secure in a relationship. This can result from a lack of trust, connection, or communication. Maybe you could feel more assured if you talked it through with your partner. It could also be that you are jealous of someone she hangs out or spends a lot of time with.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 9:44pm
Maybe you are just insecure about the relationship in general or a little paranoid because of other reasons.
There could be deep issues here. I don't know. What makes you feel that your girlfriend might be cheating on you? How long have you feared this?
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 3:01pm
Basically u don't trust her. It may be because of your previous experiences or it may be because you afraid to loss her or she is not suitable for u.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 1:50pm
There are many reasons there are and they can interfere one possible thing is that your girl friend is flirty or just say random things that might make you very jealous & you already very jealous also maybe because you have had experience of your girlfriend cheating on you before so you are afraid of cheating again it's normal just try to explain that to your partner & keep her informed of what's triggering these doubts it would great if she can understand then things will get better
We all deal with thinking too much and jumping to conclusions and we're all scared too. Mostly of the fact of being cheated on. Just don't worry and if things don't work out, don't worry, there's someone else there better for you that'll make you the happiest than you've ever been and that'll treat you right.
You could talk to her about it, maybe find the reason for your trust issues. You could also talk to some of your or her friends about it.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 5:40am
Is there a reason you think she is cheating? Perhaps you could do a trust building activity with her?
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 4:11pm
This could be paranoia, or an intense feeling of jealousy that is clouding your mind. Try talking it out with her, and explain your delimma.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 3:54pm
You may believe that your girlfriend is cheating on you because of a strain in your relationship. The best way to deal with this is to evaluate your relationship and see where it is going. Talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and see if your suspicions are true.
Lack of trust is sometimes an issue in relationships and you could say it is common. Unless your girlfriend has done something to misplace your trust, it could be down to paranoia. You can read about paranoia through google and the websites that come up when searched.
Do you have any reason to think she might do this? If she has in the past, then you might be right in thinking so. If there's no reason to mistrust her, maybe you are struggling with trust in a broader sense. Has somebody else betrayed your trust in the past? Maybe another partner, friend, sibling or parent? Maybe connect with someone on here in 7cups and talk it out. All the best.
From my experience it usually stems down to the fact that you may feel she is too good for you or you are not enough. That was what it was for me at least. Lack of self confidence is usually the cause of these feelings and a lack of trust as well; it might be worth doing a little bit of reflection on why you feel this way and what you can do to stop it. I did this and it seemed to help so it might be worth a shot :)
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