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Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?

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Last Updated: 07/18/2020 at 4:14am
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December 23rd, 2015 2:43pm
You could get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you could have trust issues. it is also possible that you are struggling with having too much time on your hands. It also depends on what activity your boyfriend is taking part in. i.e is there alcohol or drugs involved?
December 23rd, 2015 11:09pm
Maybe because he makes you feel so safe that when he leaves you start feeling like so. it doesn't have to be a bad thing but try to avoid that kind of feelings
December 24th, 2015 2:14pm
Anxiety and fear are closely related. Is there something you fear will happen when he goes out? Does his behavior change towards you before or after he leaves?
December 24th, 2015 3:49pm
There is a trust issue in the relationship. It differs from relationship to relationship. You either has trust issues because of your experience in the past, or he has done something to have caused your trust in him to alter. Either way there is an issue with trust that needs to be settled. The relationship will not be successful if both partners do not trust each other.
December 25th, 2015 4:39am
I'm worried that he might be seeing someone else. But I need to remind myself that I cannot spend my energy on things I cannot control.
December 25th, 2015 6:55pm
You may be anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you really love and care about him and you don't want anything bad to happen
December 25th, 2015 8:35pm
You are probably feeling anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you may or may not trust him. You may think he may be with someone you don't know about or doing things you may not approve of. Most girls (Not all) have the most common thought that their male/or female partner is cheating on them with someone else. The best way to handle this is to communicate with your partner about how you are feeling.
December 26th, 2015 12:41am
Maybe because you have expirienced a earlier boyfriend who has been unfaithful, or maybe you're just plain scared of looking him.. Anyway, the best thing you can so is to talk with him about how you feel..
December 26th, 2015 6:04am
There could be many reasons that can cause your anxiety. One main reason that many girls have is a trust issue. You probably don't trust him that well or he has hurt you and neither one is good.
December 26th, 2015 11:39am
Well, this is a sign that you are worried about him and you are afraid of losing him but he is your boyfriend and you have to identify this by yourself
December 26th, 2015 7:38pm
i get anxious when i am away from my boyfriend because i get scared he will find someone better because there is always someone better that me. the reason is because of our self esstem in our self
December 26th, 2015 9:29pm
Its a trust thing if we are really honest with ourselves and feeling insecure and also the thing of feeling safe and proteced.
December 27th, 2015 4:48pm
Maybe it is because you're afraid that he'll find another girl? It's totally normal, but you have to trust him. He already has a girlfriend/boyfriend, and he won't find another one x
December 27th, 2015 10:17pm
If you have ever been in a unfaithful relationship, or have ever been put in a situation where you trusted someone, and it back fires, that can cause you to feel this way.
December 30th, 2015 6:45am
You're most likely not very trustworthy of your partner or are simply afraid with being hurt again from experience in past relationships which is perfectly OK!
December 30th, 2015 6:32pm
Premonitions maybe. I think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, and if he is doing something then now you know and you can go wherever from there and if he's not then there you go nothing to worry about.
December 31st, 2015 6:17am
yes, tell me why. if you're afraid he's gonna have someone else, you have to believe in him. Love is trust.
December 31st, 2015 12:46pm
It's a natural feeling. You know how attractive he is to you which causes you to fear that another person will too.
December 31st, 2015 7:33pm
You probably worry that he will cheat on you. Unless he already has a history of it, I wouldn't worry about it. If you two truly love each other, and if it was meant to be, then you should be able to trust each other enough to not cheat. If either of you do end up cheating on the other, then it wasn't meant to be. Don't stress it..
January 1st, 2016 5:46pm
Sometimes, we think of the negatives where we think they're up to no good. However, it could show that you really need them there instead of them going out. It's not you being needy at all. It's just, you need them there instead of them going out. It affects us a lot more if they're doing nothing, and we're alone without someone around us
January 2nd, 2016 7:46pm
You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you like being close to him maybe he helps you with anxiety
January 3rd, 2016 8:13am
You probably get anxious because you don't trust him or have faith in him. You need to learn to trust that he will do the right thing if someone tries to hit on him.
January 6th, 2016 6:48am
Because you feel like your life depends on him, so everytime he's not there you feel like nothing, everything's fine babe!
January 6th, 2016 7:51am
The thought of something that could happen without you can make you anxious. That's something that needs to be addressed with your boyfriend.
January 6th, 2016 6:49pm
It's the way most people feel. You have to trust in him just like he has to trust you. You have all these feelings in you. You should use them and tell him how you feel.
January 6th, 2016 10:32pm
I'm not sure, have you tried speaking to him about your anxieties when he leaves. It may be something to do with low self esteem and confidence.
January 7th, 2016 4:04am
It's possible that you feel anxious because you feel he might do something wrong or something bad will happen to him, etc. It's okay to feel this way about anyone you love or care for but, if the anxiety that you are feeling becomes something that's unbearable then you should definitely seek out some one to talk to.
January 8th, 2016 3:41am
Goes out in he sense..! If it is leaving you alone and going somewhere for example going for work... and that disturbs you a lot means.. it can be separation anxiety.
January 9th, 2016 2:11pm
Sometimes we just feel insecure, so we start thinking about a lot of things, like what will they do?
January 9th, 2016 5:18pm
Because I'm worried she (I'm lesbian) might get hurt or worse or get lost or cheat on me or do something harmful I'm really paranoid okay?