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Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?

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Last Updated: 09/12/2018 at 2:11am
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Top Rated Answers
hopefulParadise19
January 21st, 2016 7:41am
Because u had a lot of feelings towards him,so it may makes u pain while ur boy friend left from you,but you should be more strong in that
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 5:58pm
You get anxious because you feel that letting him go he will end up find someone else and will leave you
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 5:36pm
You're experiencing trust issues. What's best is that you should talk to him and discuss that you would like to spend more time with him, just so that your trust can be rebuilt and you can really experience a well lived relationship
royalLily78
January 23rd, 2016 5:21pm
you could possibly be scared that hes going to cheat or get into trouble. you could try talking to him about it. if he tells you that you have nothing to worry about it could help calm you
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 9:04pm
Anxiety over a partner's whereabouts when they go out is normal. It is often caused by fear and uncertainty. You may fear the your partner is be out with another person having a hookup or out with friends and not being safe. Uncertainty is the little voice in your head that tells you that they could be lying about where they're going, or who they're with. The best thing to do with this is to talk it out with your partner, see what they have to say about it, by chance they may feel the same thing when you go out.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 10:11am
This could happen for number of reasons could be you feel unsure about what is doing or you worried about his safety or what he gets up to when your not around
StitchChan
February 3rd, 2016 3:19am
I Feel like he will cheat on me... I think this happens to everyone sometimes. But I dont know anymore
Daniela95
February 3rd, 2016 1:41pm
It is okay to feel insecure sometimes, but trusting your partner is one of the key things in a relationship.Talk to your boyfriend openly about how you feel and try to disscus with them why you feel that way.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 6:46pm
Because you're afraid of losing if it turns out and that you will be alone but think you'll never be alone while you are with yourself
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 7:34pm
I feel the same and I guess it happens because we always tend feel safer and calmer around the ones we love.
divinewillpower86
February 7th, 2016 9:06pm
Either you might be feeling a temp separation from him. I guess you worry about someone trying to talk to him. I guess this is the behavior that tempts you to feel close to him. However have some faith and belief and see results.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 11:53pm
You might feel anxious because you might be scared of him leaving you or forgotten you or you are afraid he might get in an accident or something bad is going to happen to him.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:33am
Maybe its from past experiences that you may not have thought are still affecting you. Subconciously you may be worried he may do something or you just don't like being alone. Or simply you could just be worried about him!
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 5:09pm
This is actually a normal feeling. Trust is a hard thing to gain, you just have to have faith in him
Anonymous
March 19th, 2016 11:37am
Feeling anxious about your partner's doings is natural. It is perhaps the best course of action to talk it out with him, to strengthen the trust and ensure that you are inseparable.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:58am
This is a sign that you do t trust him. You probably feel like he is going to do something, or you're afraid that he'll leave you for whatever reason.
VickyP
March 20th, 2016 5:03pm
Well, maybe you care about him too much and are worried. Or maybe you are a bit jealous and worry about his actions.
peacefulPicture38
March 20th, 2016 9:12pm
Perhaps it is because you're unsure of what he is doing. Maybe try speaking to him about this issue and telling him how you feel. It's ok to feel this way
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:03pm
It's probably because you're afraid that something will happen to him or you're nervous that he'll POSSIBLY cheat on you with someone else.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2016 9:32am
One of the causes could be separation anxiety. Its very common in children, where when they get separated from their caregivers or parents they get very anxious. It might persist in adulthood as well. Or it might be just insecurity.
Sunshinesue
April 3rd, 2016 4:26pm
It could be because you may have not expressed your concerns when he is absent. You may not only miss him but it could also be due to the fact that there may have been a lapse in communication and expressing oneself positively
dogswinenetflix
April 3rd, 2016 4:49pm
If it's because you have had negative experiences in the past, then that can be playing into your anxiety. However, there may be a part of you that wants to join him when he goes out, and that he wants to do things without you may feel like a reflection on how much he likes you, which can also cause anxiety.
Tumb13weed
April 6th, 2016 12:22am
It's your care for him getting magnified to quite an extent. You wouldn't get anxious about him if you didn't care about him. It's essentially a positive emotions that's taking a form which is a little out of control. You are worried about him, and concerned for his safety, and these feelings grow exponentially to induce anxiety.
AshcoSensei
April 7th, 2016 6:44pm
Be more specific on your feelings. What goes trough your mind when he leaves the house? Do you feel jealous? Alone? What do you specifically feel? (:
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 9:34am
beacuse you miss him and you feel safe around him so when he goose your worried that something might happen beacuse he is not there
casicanhelp
April 8th, 2016 6:06pm
You don't trust him. The truth is, if you get anxious when your boyfriend goes out, you should leave him. Unless if it's just the anxious feeling that he'll die, then yeah, you wouldn't want him to feel anxious about you leaving the house as well.
Jetdrip459
April 8th, 2016 11:32pm
How did you post a question I can't figure it out
Understandingfox
April 10th, 2016 4:04pm
You may feel like he is doing something behind your back, or perhaps you might feel unsafe without him. Both things can be helped with a deep talk with each other.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2016 4:58pm
Maybe you're worried of what he could be doing without you or in what situations he could get in, let him know about it and talk with him
vwgirl91
June 29th, 2016 1:49pm
I agree with the other answer. It could also be that you don't like being on your own. I find it helps to have a friend over or make plans of my own so that I have a distraction