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Why do I have all of these irrational fears, like talking to other people and going outside? What's wrong with me?

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Last Updated: 11/02/2021 at 12:14pm
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August 11th, 2015 2:29pm
There is nothing wrong with you. People are inherently afraid of been ignored, hurt, embarrassed and even forgotten. In a world where everyone is trying to connect it can be a scary thing to go outside and interact with life. You have to remember though that the only way to improve... the only way to evolve, is by experience. Sometimes your experiences will be good and sometimes they will be bad but you must always try to learn from them.... The world is a scary place sometimes but your imagination can conjure up far worse fears than anything you may confront. And if you do come face to face with your worst imagined fears... then don't turn away from the experience. Learn from it... and you will always be ready for what comes next.
February 8th, 2015 12:55pm
I learned to think that my opinion will always be labelled as wrong and that I'll be critisized even for my thoughts. That's why I began to hide my own opinions because I thought nobody would listen anyway. But this way of thinking made me think badly about myself and I nearly stopped trusting people at all. It took me a long time to realize that my opinions aren't that bad and that I have the right to explain my thoughts to other people, and I still tend to be nervous when I decide to talk about my opinion.
June 9th, 2015 6:19pm
Nothing is wrong with you and you should never think that. They're called irrational fears for a reason; they often stem from past experiences and while irrational, they're often understandable. You may benefit from things such as group therapy and seeing a counsellor. Having those around you who also understand your problems is a huge relief; to simply know you're not alone in all this and I can assure you, you're most definitely not alone when it comes to irrational fears.
September 7th, 2015 10:45pm
I feel it when i lack confidence and think thats the main reason when why we are scared is we lack self confidence
November 10th, 2015 12:18am
Simply anxiety...worst case agoraphobia. Depression can cause irrational fear as well! The anxiety demon wants to keep you in your 'safe zone'.
February 1st, 2016 6:59am
From my personal experiences it wasn't what was wrong with me, it was what was wrong with the way I was thinking. Once I turned to positive thinking my fears with talking to other people slowly disintegrated.
February 29th, 2016 6:48am
You seem to have social anxiety. Although I am not an expert on social anxiety, it sounds similar to some cases of social anxiety that I have heard of.
May 31st, 2016 10:59pm
That sounds like symptoms of social anxiety but I can't really say. What causes your fear are you scared they're judging do you just feel paranoid? Maybe you should talk to a therapist or someone about this.
July 12th, 2016 2:53pm
Nothing is wrong with you. You're only thinking that people are going to tell you what to do and what not to do.
September 12th, 2016 3:04pm
They're not irrational, they're extremely real to you and that's okay. Everyone has their demons, you have yours. There's nothing wrong with you. You'll find a way to cope with them in your own way
January 16th, 2017 1:57am
There is nothing wrong with fear. Fear is a natural part of life. How ever, it sounds like you may have a form of anxiety, once again you're not alone! Anxiety affects several people, but if it becomes to much for you to handle you may want to try medication or therapy. Even just talking to someone might help! Good luck! I believe in you!
June 27th, 2017 6:10pm
There's nothing wrong with you, it's perfectly normal and there's no real need to find a reason as to why you're feeling like that, but if you want to find out why you feel like that some introspection can come in handy, and maybe you would like to try talking to a therapist if you feel like it's too much for you to handle
November 14th, 2017 5:27pm
What it sounds like your experiencing is social anxiety. A fear of social situations. It's a mental health issue that provokes exaggerated responses to normal situations. You can work on this via a variety of therapeutic methods and also medication if appropriate.
May 8th, 2018 6:24pm
There's nothing wrong with you. You are only a person who is passing through a hard time and need a helping hand to get out of this situation
December 22nd, 2020 2:04pm
Nothing is "wrong" with you, but you could have an anxiety or panic disorder that affects your ability to socialize and function in public. Social anxiety disorder and agoraphobia are possible causes for your fears. Again, there is nothing wrong with you, but you could benefit from speaking to a mental health professional who can assess and help you. There are effective, evidence-based therapies that can help you overcome your fears and function the way you need to, including cognitive-behavioral therapy, which helps you control fear-based thought processes and behaviors; and dialectical behavior therapy, which helps you learn to sit through uncomfortable feelings during social situations.
November 2nd, 2021 12:14pm
First of all, there is nothing 'wrong' with you. Not liking talking to other people or going outside is NOT some illness or something to be ashamed of. Sometimes, it's in our nature, it's hidden behind our backgrounds, where we came from, where we were taught, where we grew up. Everyone has their own experiences with networking with people, and it's okay to not like this process. Try setting smaller goals for yourself, instead of talking to another group of people, try talking to one person first, and then build on it. Try spending 5 minutes out in the sun each day. You will do great!!