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Why do little things seem to bother me more than they bother other people?

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Last Updated: 06/08/2020 at 4:28am
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August 17th, 2015 4:12pm
Perhaps the reason behind this is overthinking. Most of the times the reason we are bothered with little things is because we tend to overthink and we make it hard for us to sort things out.
July 26th, 2016 3:35am
You're likely to be sensitive or depressed. The good thing about this is you may pay good attention to detail and you are good at reading people. You may have good intuition too :P
November 9th, 2015 7:41pm
all the little things bother you you feel like the world and all of the humans are against you and have something toward you
March 18th, 2015 10:36pm
Little things bother me a lot sometimes as well. It could be possible that you may be suffering from anxiety, however, you should also look at the possibility that you could be a stuffer. What I mean by this is, do you ever feel like your cup is overflowing with red juice and when you accidentally bump into something, the red juice overflows everywhere? This is only a visual, not a real example, of what can happen when we stuff our feelings instead of dealing with them. Try reflecting, becoming self-aware, and talking about your feelings. Contact any listener here at 7 Cups of Tea for a chat. It will be very encouraging and maybe you can begin to slowly empty your cup. Does this make sense? I hope so.
January 11th, 2016 7:19pm
Sometimes, we pay very close attention to detail. When something becomes out of place or no longer functions they way we expect it to, it can bother us quite a bit.
March 9th, 2015 6:10pm
You may have obsesive compulsive dissorder, or simply a different personality. Little things always bother me and people find me difficult, but those things don't matter to other people. The key here is to be calm and rational about it, before making a scene about it. It's about control
May 23rd, 2016 10:40am
Sometimes high levels of stress or anxiety can heighten the senses and I believe it's a form of hypersensitivity. Certain actions or noises cam become more irritating or stand out more, intensifying the frustration. Usually it's caused by a high level of tension.
April 8th, 2015 1:18am
It's ok, everyone is different! If it something that bother's you, it bothers you, and thats ok. It could be anxiety. Anxiety makes the world bigger than in seems but you can control that. Check out the anxiety self help guide:
April 16th, 2015 2:27pm
Everyone is wired differently with varying emotional responses to things. If you could read another person's mind you might find there are some things which don't bother you at all, yet greatly affect them! So it's no reason to compare yourself negatively to others. We are all unique with our own strengths and weaknesses.
July 28th, 2015 7:19pm
Sometimes, it's the little things that count. Focusing on those things means that you are detail oriented and perhaps a little bit of a perfectionist. Don't worry, though, it's all a matter of perspective; everyone has small things that bother them and it might just not show all the time.
November 3rd, 2015 1:12am
In my personal experience, I have the type of personality where those little things matter. I like to think everything in my life should have it's own little box. It's just the way some of us are! :)
October 29th, 2019 4:38am
I think it's important to remember that little things actually bother other people too. The difference may be that you remember and think about these little things more then other people do? You might make assumptions or have ideas about those little things that cause you anxiety? Your mind may play with little moments more then most? There is nothing wrong with you in doing any of this. Many people do this and you wouldn't know it. I think if I was bothered about my thinking doing this, I would try to notice when my thinking starts to grab onto small things and distract my mind from reacting in a way that caused me stress. For me, that would be to stay in the moment and be gentle with myself, and be my own friend through it to help myself breathe slowly and let it go.
January 14th, 2020 4:07am
Things tend to bother me more than others because of my anxiety. Many times I have thought about how others approach and handle things seemed to be so much easier for them than it was for me. I used to compare myself to others. Recently, I realized that comparing approaches to handling problems in life is not beneficial to anyone. Everyone has a different way of dealing with the little things that bother them. As someone with a confirmed GAD diagnosis, It took me a long time to realize that smaller things tended to bother more because of the fact that I have GAD. Living with GAD means that I usually have elevated responses to things that someone without GAD would consider "no big deal." Embracing this diagnosis has helped me in so many ways. I finally understand that comparing the way things impact me to the way that things impact others is not a healthy or effective way for me to manage daily stressors. The most helpful thing is finding an approach to managing things that works for me. Over time, I have noticed that I got better at handling the little things!
March 15th, 2015 9:15pm
we all tend to react to things differently, it is normal. what can be silly to you can be a big deal to others and vice versa
July 25th, 2016 2:36am
Sometimes it can be because of anxiety. Sometimes it can be because of high standards. It just depends, as individuals vary.
June 13th, 2017 10:23pm
Everything effects everyone differently. It's ok to have different feelings than the next person. That's what makes our experiences unique.
November 17th, 2015 4:54pm
We all have our weak moments. Some more than others. Some for different reasons. The first step to recovery is recognizing the problem so you are well on your way.
June 8th, 2020 4:28am
Sometimes it can feel and seem that way but it's not necessarily the case. Others may not show it but everyone is bothered by what may seem like trivial things sometimes. Whenever something is bothering you, it's best to find someone to talk to and if you're reading this you're already in the right place. Find people that you can confide in and who will listen to you and be supportive. If you find that you worry excessively and you're confident that you're probably worrying more than most people, it may be advised that you seek professional help.
March 10th, 2015 4:18am
It is easier to see the reactions we have to things than to notice other people reacting to things. The little things may be different, but it is likely that everyone is reacting to little things that set them off, just like you are.
May 6th, 2015 5:49pm
THinking and bothering varies from person to person..! It can affect someone who keeps thinking about the past ones and it has absolutely no effect if somone dont even pay attention to it..! Its all a psycological thing..! Sometime neglection is the way to move forward..!
June 4th, 2018 4:06pm
i would guess it's due to increased empathy or being seemingly in tune with other people's emotions. another way to put it could be increased sensitivity which is not always a bad thing