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Why do we feel nervous before starting something new?

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Last Updated: 01/28/2020 at 12:32pm
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Ya93DC
February 15th, 2015 11:35pm
I personally feel nervous because I'm not quite sure what to expect and if I'll succeed. Will I embarrass myself? Will I not be able to do it? What will others think of me? It's the anxiety of facing something unknown. When we're more familiar with something, we feel more in control. When we're encountering something for the first time, we're not quite sure what to expect which can make us feel like we lose that control, and that's pretty scary.
caringSmiles20
January 29th, 2015 8:33am
We feel the fear of failure or mistakes and the fear of judgement by others. Generally we feel like, what if I do it wrong, what if others will laugh at me.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2015 8:12am
We feel nervous because of the fear. We're afraid of how things are going to work out. Most often it is the fear of failure or embarrassment. If we aren't good at the something new we tried, our confidence goes down. It is helpful to remember that most people who are good at something have practiced and gotten used to it. Setting high expectations when we are trying something new could make us nervous. Everything in life is not always about achievement. Starting something new is an exploration. So let go of the fears and start exploring.
PeacefulWarrior86
July 13th, 2015 4:18am
I always feel nervous about starting something new because of the unknown. I don't know if I'm going to like what I'm starting, if others will like what I'm starting, if I'll succeed or fail, will I be praised or humiliated.
Manneken
October 19th, 2015 3:26pm
This is an evolutionary trait. When we move from one environment to another we have to be alert for new dangers, a rush of adrenaline heightens our senses as we try to anticipate danger. This is a subconscious reflex which we can tame by engaging conscious thought processes and simple physical behaviours like slowing our breathing. Think about things in your life which are stable and will not be affected by the new project and think about aspects of the project which are easily managed. Breaking down the new thing into small manageable pieces is a common method for making it appear less daunting. The easiest way forward is think of one small thing that you can do now which will progress your position, it can be an organisational step, just writing things down has a calming effect on the brain.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2015 3:10pm
We feel nervous before starting something new as we are unaware and anxious about what is going to happen next. Also there is a tendency of knowing about the consequences and how are we going to deal with it.
ItGetsBetter2015
June 11th, 2015 6:16pm
Nervousness usually shows 1) How much we are invested in a certain action 2) Also as the future is unpredictable therefore forecasting the outcomes aren't always possible and 3) We usually have to come out of our comfort zone to try something new. It helps when we tell ourselves that no matter what, we are strong enough to deal with the results of our actions. Good luck!
Toby1996
July 26th, 2016 10:26pm
Because we fear what we don't know. We don't know what to expect, and that's normal. It's like approaching a stranger to start up a conversation. We don't know what will happen and we overthink these situations, and this is what makes us feel nervous.
patientLily30
April 5th, 2015 8:50am
The anticipation of what will happen and the excitement of starting something new is what causes us to feel those butterflies in the pit of our stomach.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2015 4:05am
A fear of the unknown. With everything new, we can't plan out what we want to do, which, as humans is slightly disconcerting because we often find comfort in certainty of the future. That along with fear of failure and repercussions, often make new experiences nerve-racking.
ThePosea
October 3rd, 2016 2:29am
Well, i'm quite sure that's a very common feeling. We all feel nervous before starting something new, because new things take us away from our comfort zone, and that's scary/unsettling. So don't worry about it, just try to go through with it, and you'll be comfortable with it in no time :)
Seekingsolace8
May 22nd, 2015 3:44pm
It's the fear of the unknown - well, for me anyway. I was really nervous doing my first chat today but I feel better now
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 3:47pm
It is the fear of the unknown, that makes us anxious. If you are nervous, perhaps research beforehand, if possible, or seek out someone who has experienced the situation before and ask them how they dealt with it. The more knowledge you have about situations, topics, etc, the less you will be surprised with.
SilentSerenityy
December 7th, 2015 1:55pm
Because it's a journey into the unknown, where anything could happen and you feel unprepared for what might lay ahead. We like doing things we're comfortable with but to find things we're comfortable with, we must try something new.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2016 3:34pm
We, humans, feel irritated or anxious before starting a new page because we fear the negative things that may happen. But we shouldn't worry as much, it's just human nature :)
Anonymous
July 16th, 2018 12:11am
It can hard starting something new because you never know what you are going to gain or lose from that experience and the problem is when us as humans are faced with something our minds also want to associate it with the bad memories when in reality we need to start rewiring our brain to focus on the good events associated with an object.
Mocha3800
October 10th, 2016 5:18pm
Its getting out of our comfort zone, stretching our boundaries a little. Afraid of being judged and giving a bad preformance.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2017 4:40am
Trying new things can be tricky for most everyone. It's not something we're used to, and it causes anxiety to not know what's going to happen. However, you may really enjoy it, so don't ever let your worries hold yourself back!
Anonymous
May 15th, 2017 10:19am
It's normal to fear the unknown. It's the body's natural reaction to facing something new. We must try to face new experiences with an open mind and positivity in order to avoid the negative emotion of nervousness.
musicalEnergy94
June 19th, 2018 11:16am
when you start something new you may feel nervous and try and procractinate from the new project, feeling nervous be may give you a way to give you a little more energy to complete something new.being new at something may not always be bad
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 3:57am
We feel nervous before starting something new because we crave to know the outcome. Sometimes as people we can’t accept the unknown. We can’t learn to accept not knowing what’s to come of this new thing we are trying or doing. So, we get nervous because our thoughts get the best of us. We think “what if” instead of “what happens, happens” this is also why we fear taking risks and jumping at opportunities. We are scared of what is to come. New things are scary but we will never truly know how it will turn out unless we push aside the fear to find out.
Rooibos14
January 28th, 2020 12:32pm
In my personal experience, I always feel anxious or a bit nervous before starting something new. Why I think we experience this is because change and the inevitable is scary. We don't know what to expect and this fear comes from the unkown. Once we get into the swing of things we feel a little more comfortable and we begin to lose those anxious feelings. I always base my decisions to start something new on the basis of how scared I feel. It sounds silly but I know if I feel fear over something I should try it anyway. The worst thing that can happen is that whatever it is doesn't work out and at least I tried. You never know how something is going to work out unless you try, no matter how fearful or anxious you are.
PastelRhian
November 27th, 2017 2:38am
Because we don't know what to expect or if it will work out how we're imagining. If it's new, we can't expect what it'll be like.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2018 6:15am
The reason why we feel nervous when we are encountering something new is because of the fear of the unknown. As people, we ultimately are used to what we know and it's how we view this 'new' thing. In life, there are times where we all have to encounter new activities, jobs and people. There's also different types of anxieties such as the fear of the unknown, what if it doesn't go well, what if I mess up. Which are all rational fears, but at the same time we all live our lives trying to do better for ourselves and confronting the unknown is one of those things. Mostly, it's because it's something we haven't experienced before and it's down to people we haven't met before but sometimes going in open-minded can make sure that you would be able to learn and take things that you wouldn't have otherwise. New can be scary, but also eye-opening as well.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2019 4:24pm
this is super common and completely understandable. the reason is that we are dealing with the unfamiliar, and fear/caution about the unknown was an important survival strategy during the hunter-gatherer ages. if you stick to what is safe and familiar, you are more likely to survive. now in this day and age, trying something new generally doesn't get you killed, but your brain's instinct is to be cautious, which is why you're nervous.
sincerelyyours18
October 29th, 2019 3:39pm
We feel nervous before starting something new because the brain works this way. We as human beings are more comfortable with the known because we then know what to expect, what to do, how to survive. When something new is going to happen, it is something unknown to our brain. So it needs to inform itself again about what to expect, what to do and how to survive. The good news is, you will survive most of the times. That's how I learnt that being nervous is okay and you are absolutely allowed to, but that it isn't something to lead you through life. Because by getting through this nervousness, you will experience and learn A LOT. So go do it. Who knows what might happen.