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Why now? Why, when I seem to be doing so good in life, do I suffer from this crippling anxiety now?

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Last Updated: 07/09/2018 at 1:08am
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
June 15th, 2015 2:15pm
Anxiety is not based on so much on your environment as your reaction to your environment. Getting past anxiety is not an outward change, but an inward one. Anxiety is an internal problem that needs to be solved internally. If all seems to be going well in your life, try to figure out what is giving you anxiety, and focus on that.
usefulStar85
March 11th, 2015 2:55am
no you just suffer from the fear of being alone which a lot of people do best you can do is love and pray
Anonymous
March 17th, 2015 3:50am
Anxiety can affect a person even during the happiest times in life. It isn't anyone's fault, it's just how our brains sometimes work. I suffer from anxiety and even though I have a lot of loving people and accomplishments, I can't help but feel anxious sometimes. I suffer from panic attacks as well. It's important to know that your feelings are valid, and that your anxiety does not define who you are.
nicolehere
April 20th, 2015 2:53am
Anxiety isn't always caused by situations and is an illness just like any other health issue. It is unfortunate that you cannot decide when you get sick, but the best thing to do is learn how to deal with it. If you get strep throat when you have a big game coming up, what should you do? You should rest and recover so you can come back stronger for the next big game. If you have crippling anxiety when everything is going right, what should you do? You should focus on helping yourself now so you can succeed even more later.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2015 4:39am
When things are going well, you sometimes wonder how you got there and how you can maintain it. Just keep doing those good things that brought you to where you are.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 5:42pm
Well even when things seem to be going so well anxiety can still be a thing in your life. Without even realizing it a lot of little things can add up to make a lot of stress.
lovingLight24
August 31st, 2015 1:00am
Sounds like your brain is trying to give you inner doubt about yourself, or your worrying to much without realising .. Your doing so good in life maybe deep down your worrying things may go wrong. Just keep reminding yourself how great you are! How great you are doing and smile :-) hope this helps xxx
Skybringslight
September 21st, 2015 5:43am
If you know the term "trial by fire", then you will understand why. You are like a piece of metal, as you get hammered and molded into who you truly are by these rough experiences, you come out on the other end completely unbreakable.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 5:14am
You need to understand the real situation and you have to think practically. You might feel that things are going wrong now. But if you are positive enough, then you will think that these all are great experiences for a better life.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 5:46pm
Sometimes, depression leads to anxiety and vice versa but stress is one of the main causes because stressing over things makes us feel anxious so try to say no to people because doing things which are stressful causes more anxiety
Penny12
January 19th, 2016 12:12pm
Asking why someone has anxiety when they have nothing to be anxious about or their life is going well is like asking why asthmatic people are struggling to breathe when they're surrounded by perfectly good air. Conditions don't adapt to circumstances
DapperRainbow
May 23rd, 2016 10:45am
Anxiety can strike anywhere at anyone at anytime. Unfortunately it can be the anxiety is caused by a lingering fear of loss or failure. Do you think there are ways to assuage that potential feeling?
PositiveDreamer2016
May 30th, 2016 6:24pm
Anxiety is sometime difficult to cope with, and its even worse whenever something good in life is going on. What's caused this for you?
wonderwomann
July 5th, 2016 12:11am
Anxiety has no agenda, especially when mental illnesses, specifically anxiety disorders are involved. I understand it must be frustrating to have anxiety for no clear reason, but do not beat yourself up. Anxiety is not something you have chosen to have.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2016 11:44pm
It is not your fault. The best you can do is to go to a therapist or counselor or trusted adult to get help that you deserve and allow you to continue living a nice life.
LucasClaus05
July 19th, 2016 2:46pm
Unfortunately, anxiety never chooses a mutually agreeable time to strike. Anxiety hits heavy and hard at seemingly any time, Anxiety disrupts your life when it is at its best, but also when it is at its worst or idling somewhere between the two. Regardless, you ought to focus on doing your best. Do not let anxiety trip you up. Take the anxiety in stride, keep your head up, and continue doing what you're doing that has allowed you to, as you say, "do so good in life."
wanderer42
November 1st, 2016 12:40am
Anxiety can be triggered at any moment. Finding small exercises or little reminders to calm you down can be a big help.
friendlyPerspective32
January 3rd, 2017 7:15pm
Anxiety unfortunately doesn't wait to hit someone when it is most convenient for them. It happens whether or not you are experiencing the better moments of your life. There are ways to reduce the anxiety though so that you can gradually get back to the way things used to be (or at least work with your anxiety overtime). Have you considered seeing a therapist? Practicing exposure therapy (either by yourself or especially with the help of a professional) can really help you to recover. I suggest looking exposure therapy up. I hope that this helps and I wish you the best of luck. :) As someone who has anxiety herself, I can assure you that you will be fine.
sweetParadise30
November 14th, 2017 7:37am
Anxiety can come and go depending on circumstances, but also it can come on randomly, which is both disappointing and confusing
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 1:08am
This is a very good question, and one that a lot of people have. Anxiety comes when we least expect it, which is one of the things that make it so crippling, as you've said. Anxiety can come around when you're happy, sad, excited, any emotion. In the 'My Path' section of 7 cups, there is actually a really great exercise that talks about anxiety, and the on-off struggle switch that I would suggest that you listen to! It has really helped me, personally.