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Any advice to get over a first heartbreak?

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Last Updated: 06/14/2021 at 12:57am
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February 25th, 2020 7:00pm
First heartbreak sucks. But just remember it probably wasn't meant to be, if it was it wouldn't have ended. I like to think that everything happens for a reason. I saw a post somewhere and it said that you will meet many people in your life and certain people are sent with a mission to change you or teach you something. So just look back at it and think what has this taught me. And just so you know, it will be hard to get over them, no lie. It is painful because they were your first, so you probably got extremely attached to them, and you'll occasionally get sad thinking about them, like i do.
May 7th, 2018 4:44pm
Accept it for what it is. It won't be you last either. The first is always the hardest to get by, give it time and you will eventually be over it. Hang out with people you like, meet new people, occupy yourself with things to do.
June 30th, 2020 12:10am
Do not ever settle. If it is meant for you, let it go because one day you will thank yourself for never setting on your happiness. One day you will realize that you are meant for so much more and that you only found it because you never settled. Experiencing a heartbreak in your lifetime is inevitable. It is about what you can turn that heartbreak into. It is important to step back from the pain and analyze the relationship. I believe that people come into your life to teach you and mold you into becoming one step closer to the person you are meant to be. Do not waiver for too long but do not push past the pain too fast.
October 12th, 2020 1:57am
Well, heartbreak can suck a lot. How I honestly get over heartbreaks is going out and doing stuff that brings me joy. Now with COVID going out with friends may or may not be a choice. I also try not to talk to the person. This has helped a lot of friends and me. Make sure not to do anything like self-harm for that is worse then better. Also of your having suicidal thought over the person then please seek professional help. I wish you the best during your heartbreak. Heartbreak can be extremely painful and especially the first heartbreak.
June 14th, 2021 12:57am
i would say give it some time. create some space from the person if you are still in contact until you get your feelings sorted out. usually when you are in your first relationship you put lot of your energy into one person. try to focus on other relationships you have and seek them out when you need comfort. keep a diary and write your feelings down. think about what went well and what you could have done better but donĀ“t let it drag you down. try to focus on good memories and not on just single event of heartbreak. also, its okay to be vulnerable at times as long as you have people you trust around you. if everything else fails, seek help professionally. try to do things you love and enjoy things on your own. let some time pass so you can look at it as an event and not your whole life.