Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

You most certainly can if your partner has an ex that is still in their life and it makes you uncomfortable. Yes, they can be friends with their ex but ask yourself what it is that makes you uncomfortable about their continued association. If there are extenuating circumstances, such as illness or they are in some sort of trouble then it might be that they get in touch and in some cases that can be reasonable. But If you feel they are constantly flashing up on your partners phone, just for a chat or whatever, ask them why they think it's ok that they do this. And be clear about why you feel uncomfortable. If your partners ex is breaching the boundaries of your relationship then they are disrespecting you and your partner is also, in allowing this. Don't feel shy about a situation which would make most people unhappy and be clear with your partner about how this makes you feel. But it's also worth reminding yourself that just because you feel uncomfortable in this situation that doesn't automatically make you a crazy jealous person. If you can respect someone else's relationship then your should be respected in return.

In every relationship there comes a time where the ex is involved. This provides a very great struggle in the relationship. You can calmly explain by giving and I feel message to your partner and letting them know that you do not appreciate that they are speaking with someone that they have been with in a love aspect

Healthy relationships are built on trust. Unless the relationship between your partner and the ex is an unhealthy one, banning are part of another's past is more of a sign of distrust and personal insecurity. Perhaps talking with someone about why this association with an ex is bothering you might be more beneficial.

You definitely can, because your significant other is now in a relationship with YOU and there must be something going on if he keeps mentioning his ex. He hasn't gotten over her/him, but it doesn't always have to be that. However, even if it wasn't serious, it is serious to you. He should give all attention to you. Tell him how you feel openly. Maybe pick up the courage to ask why he talks about his ex to you. If he's the real one and if he loves you unconditionally, he will listen to you without judgement and will try to solve the problem.

First, ask yourself what's making you feel uncomfortable with their friendship. Has there been an inappropriate gesture, or are you feeling that way plainly because she is his ex? Understand that even though their love relationship didn't work out, doesn't mean they aren't good friends - and yes, without malice. If you really want him to stop, calmly talk to him about what bothers you and why it bothers you.

If the situation makes you feel uncomfortable then yes you should. Do it in a respectful way, and don't try and bring them down.

Express that you really love your partner, and any mentioning of his or her ex, makes u uncomfortable, keep assuring your partner that you trust him or her, completely,.but it somehow hurts you when a person who was in his/her life contacts your partner, let your concerns reached to your partner in non accusing phrases, it will certainly work,

Unless you have a very good reason to ask them to not associate with their ex, it's best not to force them to do any such thing. It's quite possible that they have managed to stay friends and asking your partner to stop talking to his/her ex will only damage your relationship with them in the long run.

You need to talk to them. Communication is key. You need to be direct and tell them how you feel if they are talking to their Ex. You most certainly can say you don't want them talking to their ex. It's totally understandable to think that way as we all would share the same emotions towards the topic if you in deed love your significant. If your significant cares and takes regards your emotions then they surely should respect that and stop talking to their ex.

A relationship is built upon trust, if your significant other is still friends with his ex then you should trust him to make the right decisions. If it is affecting you then speak openly to him about it and come to an agreement.

Sometimes when you ask your boyfriend to stop talking to his ex, he might feel that you are forcing him. I feel the best way would be for you to let him know how you feel about his ex and how uncomfortable you are with that.

I think if your significant other is talking with his ex and it is making you uncomfortable it's something you should talk about. We cannot control what others do, or who they talk to, but you can let it be known how you feel. It could very well be that they don't know or understand that you are upset that they are talking to an ex. Having this conversation can help both of you come to an agreement that will ease your mind. In my opinion, you should not tell people who they can and cannot talk to. But if it is a deep issue you are having, your partner should be caring enough to take your feelings into consideration, and take the appropriate measures to insure they are not causing you harm. If someone is causing you to feel badly even after you've talked to them, I feel like that's a different problem. No one that cares about you should be making you hurt on purpose for no reason.

I believe you shouldn't have to ask your significant other to stop associating with their ex. They should know whether they can or cannot spend tie with them based on their feelings and you should be able to trust their decision.

No, I don't think so! That's something he has to decide if he wants to do. You can not just ask him to stop talking to his ex if they may be good friends.

This depends on how you feel about it. If you feel that you are uncomfortable that your partner associates with his ex, having a conversation with him and letting him know how you will might help you out. Openly talk about how you feel so that he gets a proper idea about his his association with the ex affects you. That might be helpful to you.

I would explain to your significant other how much it bothers you and why. It is then only up to them what they decide. If you don't like their choice move on

Start by saying "hey look it buggs me that you still talk to your ex" being honest is key, start the conversation, talk about it. The conversation may not end in the way you want it but it will help.

Yes. If it makes you uncomfortable that he is speaking to his ex, it's perfectly reasonable to ask him to stop. You should tell him how it makes you feel (jealous, angry etc).

If it makes you uncomfortable that your partner still associates with his ex, you can tell him about it. Just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that he texts and associates with someone he used to be romantic with. It's perfectly ok to ask him not to especially if you don't like it. He can still associate with them if he pleases though, you'll just have to trust him if he continues to do so.

You are in all your right to speak your mind about what you're comfortable with and with what you're not. Communication is the key, however in order to really get to the core of this situation and make it viable for both of you it would be important to ask yourself what bothers you about it, what role you play in this situation, etc. So you can explain to him (calmly) what your boundaries are, how you feel and why. Giving some self reflection to this issue as well as try some proactive communication may be a good way to figure what needs to be fixed and how.

From experience this rarely goes down well but what's important are your feelings. If your partner talking to their ex is causing you distress or an amount of anxiety then you should be truthful. Hiding your feelings will only worsen the situation. If they love and respect you they will understand and take steps to reassure you nothing but friendship is happening. Remember, just because they talk doesn't mean anything untoward is going on.

Romantic relationships are based on trust. Many people have strong friendships with their ex, who may have been with them through a turning point in their life. Talking to an ex is healthy, provided it does not jeopardize your SO's ability to support your relationship.

If you're feeling uncomfortable with your significant other talking to his ex, maybe instead of flat out asking him not to associate with them anymore, you could try just talking about how you feel and seeing if you can come up with a way you're both happy.

Perhaps help him see how that makes you feel (or state why else this is affecting you so much) instead of instructing him not to do it. If the idea to not talk to his ex comes from himself, he might feel better about that action.

It depends, you should know better than me since I dont know him. Exs sometimes mark us through a part of our lives, and if the relationship ended up well sometimes the good bond stays even if the love is no longer, if your significant other is still good friends with their ex and you dont feel like they share other kind of feelings with one another then it may be harmful for them to give up a close friend. When it comes to this things, you have to aknowledge your feelings and to talk with your SO about them, let him know the situation and work it out with you, share your insecurities and trust you and him can get to a situation where you are both comfortable with each other

This really depends. I don’t feel like I’m close enough or informed enough to pass judgement on this situation correctly. However, I do personally think that if this ex is particularly harmful, abusive, problematic, toxic, or otherwise bad for you/your significant other/your relationship, then it is reasonable to want them to stop talking. If you feel this strongly about something involving your relationship in general, you should always speak to your partner about it. A lack of communication in a relationship is a death sentence for it. I’m sure if you explain your (reasonable and fair) reasoning, they will understand and want to do their best to preserve their relationship and respect your wishes.

When your partner keeps in touch with his ex, it can stir up anxiety, resentment or concerns for you. That's a pretty normal reaction. It turns out a recent study shows that "people are more likely to communicate with ex's they still have feelings for." Especially if the contact is frequent - several times a week. But what do you do? A good start is to come clean with your own feelings without accusing - "I need to share something I'm feeling. When you spend a lot of time with your ex, I start to wonder if there's something missing for you in our relationship. It makes me uneasy and anxious. Can we figure this out together?" Good luck!

Trusting your significant other is important. Talk to them about the way it makes you feel and you can decide together if it would benefit your relationship.

Just sit down and talk with your partner in a calm, polite way and explain why you want them to do so.

If you believe that asking them to stop talking to his ex, then ask him nicely but always remember that e might be friends with his ex still, don’t get mad if he says no.