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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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May 23rd, 2016 5:57pm
He regrets what he has done and realized it's not fair at all to his girlfriend. There are a lot of single men out there, you shouldn't accept to be the other woman. It's not fair to anyone. In most cases, a man who cheats on his girlfriend with someone will ignore that someone afterwards. So, you can do better! And sometimes we should think of others too and make the right choices even though at the moment we feel something strong.
June 15th, 2016 3:20am
You just being used dear...He used you to subside his lust and now he get what he wanted and you don't matter to him anymore...
June 18th, 2016 11:05pm
Maybe he feels guilty about it or is trying to sort out the mess with her before talking to you again
June 23rd, 2016 11:27am
Perhaps he regrets cheating on his partner, not because of a loss of feelings for you, but because of his conscience. The conflict within his heart and mind. Perhaps he realizes that yes, whilst he has feelings for you, that is not the way to go about it all.
May 25th, 2016 1:35am
He feels wrong but doesn't know what to do. If he went out of his way to cheat on his girlfriend, it means he really likes you or love you. But, at the same time, he knows that it was wrong to cheat on that poor girl. Don't worry. Just go up and ask him yourself as to why he is ignoring you.
May 29th, 2016 5:59am
Some people are confused with what they want. Some people want attention. He may love his gf and he may or may not love you. Cheating is hard situation. But remember you are not alone.
May 20th, 2016 8:13am
This type of guys are not sincere, if he can cheat on his previous gf with you then he can cheat on u as well.
June 11th, 2016 10:41am
I don't want to say he's an idiot. He's just greedy when it comes to women. He might reinstate his manhood by cheating. He's probably ignoring you as he's cheating on you with another woman/ his girlfriend has found out/ he's going through a difficult time. However, I wish to inform you that you are his side chick. You're not his main course of sirloin steak. You are bird crumbs in his life. You need to step out of the situationship and start valuing yourself. Don't worry about why he's ignoring you. You should ignore him.
June 10th, 2016 1:32am
He is done with you. You served your purpose now he is going back to his real life. I know its harsh but its the truth.
May 18th, 2016 3:42pm
There are a few reasons only one is in your favor though. 1. He's trying to protect you from people calling you a ho and stuff ( in your favor) 2. He feels sorry for what he did and to make up for it in some way to his girlfriend he pushes you away hoping you keep your mouth shut 3. He wants to protect himself from people finding out how much of a un-loyal person he is
July 30th, 2016 6:54pm
Because he feels ashamed he did that to his girlfriend and he feels even more ashamed that he used you. He hurt you. He feels bad about it.
May 26th, 2016 12:38am
He might have wanted to get some sort of revenge on his girlfriend, so he cheated, but he actually cares about his girlfriend.
May 20th, 2016 3:26pm
He is probably trying to figure things out and understand his emotions. The fact that he cheated on someone shows how confused he is. He feels bad about what happened and maybe he hadn't thought it through. Give him some time to acknowledge his wishes and needs. Also allow him to talk to her and explain what happened.
June 2nd, 2016 2:02am
because he wants his girlfriend now, and decided that she is worth it.
May 26th, 2016 8:56am
Well, to me it seems like he regrets what he has done, and usually men tend to run away from their emotions to avoid making a big deal of everything. What I think, is that he is pulling himself away because he himself doesn't know what to do regarding the situation, maybe he still has feelings for his girlfriend or maybe he is just looking for a way to tell her it's over. Only time can tell. But you should ask yourself .. are you willing to be a choice in someones life ? There are a lot of single men out there, you shouldn't accept to be the other woman. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally and be yours and only yours.
July 13th, 2016 12:42am
This man is a betrayer of trust and has made a mistake in judgement and character. He is probably filled with shame and guilt for his actions, he may even be feeling regret. The action he did was wrong therefore he is coming to terms with what happened between both of you.
July 24th, 2016 10:37pm
I've been in this situation before except I actually use to be this guy's girlfriend. He started leaving me for other women and got himself new girlfriends and he's cheated on all of them with me and denies it to them. They actually believe him. At those times I wasn't aware that he had a girlfriend or that he was even seeing someone. If I knew I wouldn't have slept with him. He always found some type of way to tell me after the fact that he had a girlfriend. If you actually know that he has a girlfriend why are you sleeping with him? He's putting this other girl before you that's why he's ignoring you. He's not obligated to contact you. He has a girlfriend and it's not you. It's really self explanatory. You're not his girlfriend so he doesn't have to answer you back. Now if he just doesn't want to talk to you I strongly suggest that he just tell you that in place of ignoring you.
October 13th, 2016 9:28pm
Most people when they're in the wrong, they tend to ignore and isolate themselves from situations. Since he cheated on his girlfriend, he knows it's wrong so he wants to distance himself from the entire situation.
November 25th, 2017 11:04am
I think it’s important to understand that you can’t control another person, and they’re response to you (or lack of) is not your fault. Considering the situation, this man obviously has some unresolved personal issues that he needs to come to terms with before he can make progress in any relationship (including his own). Perhaps, he is quite simply not interested in pursuing something else again. I think the best thing you can do for yourself is take the experience for what it was, and move forward. Every human deserves to be happy and feel secure in their relationships, not questioning them. Love yourself and try to participate in mutual encounters (whether sexual, love, friendship, etc.) - ones that make you feel good. Of course we all experience unreciprocated emotions at times, the thing is, you need to understand this is not a reflection of your worth.
May 27th, 2016 8:47am
I don't think this is a good situation at all. You deserve better than to be the secret! His girlfriend may have caught him or he's trying not to get caught.
May 27th, 2016 2:00pm
It's normal to feel guilt after abandoning someone close. Guilt is a very strong emotion, and it affects us all. If this is the case, he could possibly be ignoring you because he feels so much guilt that he has to be loyal to his girlfriend again.
June 15th, 2016 9:24pm
There are a multitude of reasons why this may be, he may feel guilty, or just want distance to try to get his thoughts in order before continuing with any further practices. It all depends on the person!
June 4th, 2016 10:58pm
Maybe his girlfriend does not like you and he did it for her. You could have been just a one time thing to...
May 18th, 2016 9:35pm
Most people cheat with the goal of obtaining pleasure. Once they have had that, you may no longer be of use to them, meaning they could surely ignore you.
June 9th, 2016 11:21pm
Hi there. He might be ignoring you because he feels a sense of guilt for going against the commitment that he made to his girlfriend, and because he wants to pursue a long term relationship with her. It is difficult to endure, especially if you have feelings towards him, but try and understand both sides of view. Perhaps try and find someone else who can fully commit to you and fulfil your needs, so that maybe you could just remain friends with this 'fling'. Hope it helps :)
April 12th, 2019 1:26pm
I would suggest a change in question as no one is going to be able to answer that question without access to his inner mind. Maybe he is feeling guilty and not wanting to face up to what he has done, maybe he is torn over how to proceed, maybe he had a new computer game delivered and has been totally engrossed and just not thought about it... no one but him could possibly know. This means that if you even try and guess the chances of being right are slim. :) How about we ask this question instead, who do you want to be? Sounds like quite a shift huh? Hear me out. What if you decided who you want to be, how you want to act in situations, how you want to be treated, what your boundaries are... as in 'if this happens, i will do this' etc. I suggest this question as i think all other answers fall out of it easier. So do you want to be someone who presumes to know what is going on without any information? Do you want to be someone who guesses and works with that guess as if it were truth? Do you want to be someone who focuses on what someone else wants rather than the most important, what do you want? What do we know? He cheated on his girlfriend with you and you haven't heard from him recently, maybe you have seen him and he has even blanked you? My question would be, does it matter why? How about the other thing that matters is what you want and what you do and that comes from answering the question who do you want to be? Sometimes we avoid thinking of exactly how things are by trying to guess how things might be different. However if we accept what we know and only what we know then it becomes easier to make decisions. Are you someone who wants clarity and calmly would contact the guy and directly ask him to have a conversation about how things are? Are you someone who if there was no reply, would see that he is not communicating and move on with your life.... making your life the best possible life to be in for you and for all those around you? There will never be just one potential guy in your life, or even 10 or 100 or 1000 potential guys.... there are lots. Your heart has the capacity to love many different people, many different times and be broken and heal too. The pain we feel in the moment becomes the experience we build on in the future. Our challenges make us stronger and teach us about ourselves way more than any easy time would do. Consider changing the question to be less about why he wants to do what he is doing, and more about what you want you to be doing because your only authority in this life will be over you and your actions and impacts. :) Good luck! :)
May 29th, 2016 12:09pm
Your not the one there will be others but possibly next time don't let your urges ruin a relationship
August 3rd, 2016 4:58am
He has either decided to go back to her or he was just toying with you. Either way, it's time for you to move on.
May 25th, 2016 5:34pm
We should always take account of the fact that if someone cheat on his girlfriend with us, there's nothing that will stop doing it on us. Some people never get satisfied with what they have and think they're the centre of the Universe. If he is ignoring you probably that's because he doesn't love, you should let him go and find a guy who really loves you and care about you!
August 14th, 2016 4:25am
He probably is ignoring you because he was not serious at the first play when cheating with you. He wanted to have fun probably and that is the worst situation ever to realize he only wants your body.