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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Last Updated: 11/21/2021 at 5:35am
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lifekeepsgoin7
June 10th, 2016 7:19pm
because his love is now taking him to post traumatic situation and there he is repenting over his deeds..
bhetherson4
June 11th, 2016 3:25am
Someone who has once cheated could possibly lose interest easily. If he lost interest of his girlfriend of you, he might do the same to you. It is a sad and difficult cycle, but it is best avoided when you find someone who truly cares for you first.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2016 1:40am
He probably thinks he made an awful mistake by cheating on his girlfriend. It could be that he regrets cheating for that one night stand and wants to keep his long term relationship.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 11:16pm
Maybe because his girlfriend told him to, that's happened before. If not, try to ask him. And talk things out.
charlieparlie
July 28th, 2016 12:50am
You weren't his girlfriend and he may feel bad about cheating on his girlfriend and so he will have stopped talking to you in order to earn his girlfriend's respect back
smoltimes
October 16th, 2016 2:26am
He may be trying to regain the relationship he had back. He could have decided that he made a mistake of cheating and doesn't want you in his life anymore. Either way give him time, he's gonna need it.
HelenTheWiseOne
March 2nd, 2017 10:51pm
He is probably feeling massively guilty. You may have to just come to terms with the fact that even though me may have cheated on her with you, he may want to stay with her. Its really a hard thing to go through and you deserve to be with somebody who can give themselves to you without guilt.
Youarenotaloneipromise
December 8th, 2017 9:08pm
Hi, I know this is really difficult to understand. There will be a hundred different emotions running through his mind right now, guilt, regret, excitement, happiness, confusion and so many more. Please give him time, although what happened is not an ideal situation, maybe give him space and see what happens in time. I hope this helps. X
WallflowersandRoses
February 3rd, 2018 1:28am
Perhaps he feels guilty for having done it and so does not want to face you. He might still have feelings for his girlfriend and want to fix things with her.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 7:51pm
He feels really guilty right now. He likely wishes he had stayed loyal and has to live with that now.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2018 4:34am
He probably feels guilty and ashamed about what he did and wants to fix it in the way he thinks he can. I don't know what would lead him to assume that ignoring you is the best solution, and I'm sorry he's doing that! I think that he needs to figure out why he cheated on his girlfriend and to sort out all of his confusion, and after that, I think he might talk to you again! The best thing you can do is to try and stay positive. We at 7 Cups are always here to help support you!
Anonymous
February 4th, 2019 1:57pm
Just think about it for a second. He is risking his relationship in order to talk to you, a person outside the relationship. Maybe he regrets cheating and he decided to move on from your relationship so he can be with his actual girlfriend or he is taking a break from interacting with you so his girlfriend does not suspect anything. No offense but I hope he moved on from this interaction because that is a really unhealthy relationship and the girlfriend doesn't deserve to be a part of this. This can ruin lives and I do not think you should demand his attention.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 8:20pm
He might feel uncomfortable in his conscience and is trying to sort out the situation. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 5:25am
because he is probably feeling guilty for doing such a dishonest act and/or he realized he did a non loyal thing by cheating on his girlfriend with you
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 2:23am
It's probably because he realized that cheating on his girlfriend was a mistake. don't take it personally and I think you should find someone who really supports and cherishes you.
RileyStruger7
July 28th, 2016 4:56am
He may feel ashamed he made the decisions he made. Or he's trying to figure himself out. Give him time to come around.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 2:50am
He may feel guilty. Or thinking things over. He shouldn't have cheated on his girlfriend though. Also, maybe he's ending things.
MarcV
September 2nd, 2016 2:53am
well, he clearly feels guilty about cheating and obviously drop your guys relationship or friendship
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 9:17pm
Perhaps he feel guilty and doesn't want to make the situation worse. Or he is choosing to now remain faithful.
xcxmotionless
November 2nd, 2016 5:16pm
He may feel bad for doing that to his girlfriend. If he feels guilty about it, he's probably trying to get away so that he doesnt do it again, or he may not have thought it was a big deal
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 8:39pm
he probably feels guilty .. and is ignoring you because he cannot seem to look at you properly after what he has done
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 5:25pm
He has regret and guilt and is "hurting" you because he does not want to hurt his girlfriend. That, and he lacks courage.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2017 6:42am
Well, he's just cheated. Obviously he's going to be going through some major emotions and decisions. Who does he choose? Who does he tell? How does he feel? What's the best solution? And he was in a relationship with his girlfriend. He will probably feel guilt in some way or another. Put yourself in his shoes. While it might be frustrating to be ignored, especially after you've been thrown into the relationship drama, realize that the couple will be going through a lot. Communication is key, but you might want to let him work out what he needs to work out for himself. Just don't let others make your decisions for you. If you don't want to be with him, you might want to think about telling him soon, before any major changes are made. (If they are made.)
peacefulkat
April 5th, 2017 5:06am
He may have finally realized how wrong it was to cheat on his girlfriend with you and he wants to do right now.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 8:46pm
Maybe he realised that what he did to his girlfriend wasnt okay and now he regrets about it. But you never know, the best thing would be to ask him about it
JasmineApoyarte
January 18th, 2018 5:57am
Many times when someone has an affair while in a relationship, it is due to impulse. Consider that he may be embarrassed with his actions, and wants to try to forget that he ever made the decision to have an affair in the first place. That type of romantic partner is not the one you want. Keep your eyes open for someone with genuine interest in you!
modestPenny5745
January 31st, 2018 5:20pm
I have been the girlfriend that got cheated on and my bf has changed a lot recently. Maybe he thought he needed something new and then realized it wasn't worth it. You are a worthy person and you don't deserve to be second best find a person that puts you first. A man that is with someone won't do that for you. He will use you to pass time.
chubbybunny0314
February 7th, 2018 5:27pm
He feels guilty for what he did and probably needs time to comprehend what happened. Give him sometime and ask him at the right time.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 9:45am
Cheating is much more than a one-time practice. Once done, it could have adverse effects on the parties involved due to constant feelings of guilt, insecurity, emptiness, loss of control, and other negative emotions. He is most probably ignoring you because of those emotions confronting his conscience.
LoneWolf1010
April 6th, 2018 5:40pm
May be the guilt haunts him?.. Usually at these situations... People feel guilty for what happened and try to make the mistake right... This might be a step to reconsider himself..