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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Last Updated: 05/12/2022 at 9:56am
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Anonymous
September 19th, 2020 9:36am
If you knew he was with another woman, what made you go out with him? Do you think that just because he cheated on her with you, that you are someone special to him? Perhaps he is in love with his girlfriend and realizes he made a mistake when he went out with you. Perhaps you were just a fling. How does that make you feel? Do you think things would be better if he paid attention to you while still going out with someone else? And, if he did dump the other woman for you, what makes you think he would be faithful to you?
Caringbud
October 11th, 2020 11:47am
Maybe he come to his sense, and rethinking about his relationship with her girlfriend and how much it means to him. You need to have honest talk with him, so you both can know the reality and move on. Do you really see yourself having a future with him, you need to think about that and consider all possible future factors , is it a healthy relationship or not?! Every think will be only known for sure , when you both have a honest talk about it. I understand how you feel, but you need to be emotionally strong in situations like this.
Tblaney1234
November 5th, 2020 9:47pm
Hi! After reading through this, I can only imagine the emotions you are going through. However, from personal experience, it is potential that he is ignoring you to make it right with his previous partner. Simply put, he could be trying to convince his girlfriend that you are not a threat to the relationship. This is very likely not because of something you did. It is very likely the man you slept with is very confused about what he wants, or more specifically, who he wants. Im sorry, I know situations like this can be extremely hurtful; I hope you find this to be helpful!
Actuallynobody017
November 9th, 2020 10:44pm
Hello. Thank you for the question. It could be that you both are feeling guilty of it. It could be that he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship. It could be that you are feeling guilty yourself. Does he talk about marriage ? Do you talk about it ? Are you both in a serious relationship ? Is the relationship emotionally connecting you both ? It could be all these things why it is not working. He may have no moral responsibility towards you or your ex. You are now feeling dejected for stealing someone's happiness and not feeling better. I hope this answer helps a bit. Take care. Be true to yourself.
circusmirror123
April 22nd, 2021 8:36pm
There are many reasons he might be ignoring you, but it's best not to make any assumptions without talking to him - you never know he's really feeling. He might be going through a lot or have a lot to sort out considering the situation, but oftentimes they might just need time! He could be feeling anxious about his relationship, he may be regretting his actions if he feels he has hurt his girlfriend etc, or he might just need some space right now. If you've reached out, all you can do is wait and hope that he is alright.
Macaronip
June 6th, 2021 9:00am
He may be feeling guilty, or unsure of his decision to cheat. This is not a reflection of yourself. This is a reflection he is making of himself. It is likely not a personal front to you. Give him time to reflect and find his own answer to the dilemma he has created. Do not take it personally. He has made a big decision and will need to address this before he can make his next move. Take this time to think on your part of the issue. Address how you feel about the situation. Do you feel any specific emotions about it? Why?
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:39pm
He is ignoring you because he has a girlfriend and you're the other woman. Forget about him, you don't need that.
thisismeSAMIE
May 27th, 2016 3:30pm
Sometimes when a guy cheats with you he was insecure about the relationship. Maybe he is ignoring you to find out what he was insecure about or even to be honest with is girlfriend and try to make things better.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:21pm
He could be ignoring you because he feels unfaithful to his girlfriend, he could also be speaking to his girlfriend about what you both have done and trying to break up with her so make matters easier.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 5:58pm
He probably doesn't think he needs to give you any attention, for him you're just a someone right now
Rimyazeenam
June 5th, 2016 9:45pm
This is something that a lot of us have went through. There could be a number of reasons, chances are he probably assumed that it was a casual hook up and didn't feel the need to get back to you because he's afraid you might want to be in a committed relationship. Another reason could be that he's scared that his girlfriend might find out, which is why he wants to cut all ties from you
understandingOrange
June 9th, 2016 6:36am
He may feel guilty about the situation because he had a moment where he questioned his relationship with his girlfriend. So he cheated. Afterwards he realized the mistake he made and he's probably trying to forget it even happened.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 5:20am
Maybe he feels guilty about the pain he's caused you and his girlfriend. He did the wrong thing by cheating on her, he may realize his mistake now and wishes to keep you out.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 9:31pm
Because maybe he understood it was wrong and he is guilty. You also should move on. Maybe he really likes his gf
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:21am
Either he figured things out with his girlfriend and wants to make things right. He just wanted to use you. He feels guilty for what he did to her and you. He doesn't want to hurt you anymore. There are many reasons why he could be ignoring you and many reasons why he did it. What is important is how you feel about what happened and is happening, if you want to be with a man who is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you. And why you feel he cheated on her, not just the reasons you come up with to make it feel right, but the real deep down reasons.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 2:06pm
Perhaps his girlfriend found out, perhaps guilt has started to kick in for him and perhaps he got scared of running two relationships at the same time - whatever it was, you are worth someone much better than that!
kindrose302
July 2nd, 2016 8:04am
There is a chance that he feels guilty about what he did and is trying to ignore the situation, so the problem goes away.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 6:48am
He must be feeling guilty or there must be something that is causing him to ignore you.. He could be in a different emotional plane right now.
thelittlemy
August 26th, 2016 8:57am
He might have been looking to blow off some steam, he got that covered the first time you guys were together. Now he's probably feeling regret towards his girlfriend and he is therefore ignoring you. He's not worth spending your time on, if he could cheat on his current girlfriend he could easily cheat on you as well.
wonderousWhisper18
August 27th, 2016 3:47pm
because may be he is guilty for that and realized that he did wrong doing what he did when he was have girl friend
Dontletyourselfdown
September 28th, 2016 6:38pm
He is cheating on you too my dear sorry to say that.... You should help yourself and leave him......
courageousLove14
October 1st, 2016 12:20am
He probably feels guilty for what he has done. Cheating isn't a good thing, it really does hurt people in all kinds of people.
ZoeH
October 29th, 2016 8:29pm
He may be feeling guilty for risking his relationship with his girlfriend. Although you may be important to him, he has made a commitment to this other girl. He obviously cared about her at some point. Even if he doesn't still have feelings for her, a relationship is like a promise. A promise that he broke. Give him some space, but let him know that you support him and are there for him.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2017 11:36pm
He is most probably feeling guilt and confusion due to his doing. You should probably clarify your feelings with him and see the results of it. I don't know if his girlfriend knows that he cheated on her with you but I think she should understand it, cheating is never a sign of a healthy relationship.
mumuxy
April 16th, 2017 8:56pm
He is probably ignoring you because he felt guilty and maybe he wanted to work things out with his girlfriend, but if he truly loves you then give him an ultimatum whether he stays with you or with his girlfriend
Z3rocool
September 15th, 2017 9:43am
He isn't trustworthy so, he might be cheating on you with another girl. Sit down and have a serious conversation
avanef
November 3rd, 2017 3:49am
He might have realized what he has done is not the smart and right choice. Probably doesn't want to hurt you or the other girl he cheated on and it's okay because you shouldn't be in that kind of stuff. There are more loyal people out there for you. Don't get hung up on people who will let you be the person they cheat on someone with.
Vheax
December 28th, 2017 2:10am
Perhaps you were never his priority. People who cheat typically seek for temporary satisfaction and not a lifelong partnership with the one they are philandering with. There could be many reasons as to why he is ignoring you, may it be he's busy or he's trying to refrain from repeating the same mistake toward his girlfriend, or he simply doesn't want you anymore. But all of those are just assumptions. He can be the only one who can answer this question himself. Besides, you do not want to be the other woman. Be with a man who respects you enough to not have to choose between you or someone else.
TogetherForeverAlways
January 4th, 2018 5:54pm
Because maybe he feels very guilty and regrets that, or is super confused and doesn't know what to do.
softSugar96
January 13th, 2018 1:53am
Maybe he felt guilty for cheating, but know it is not your fault. There could also be something else going on at home or maybe he is going through a rough patch..hang in there.