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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Last Updated: 11/21/2021 at 5:35am
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Top Rated Answers
Weirdhelper
September 2nd, 2016 3:01am
cheaters are never trust worthy ive always thought that if he did it once he can always do it again.
thoughtfulPomegranate86
September 7th, 2016 3:03am
Maybe he realized he made a mistake and he wants to stay with his girlfriend, but that isn't fair to her or you, you should confront him about it!
Dontletyourselfdown
September 28th, 2016 6:38pm
He is cheating on you too my dear sorry to say that.... You should help yourself and leave him......
courageousLove14
October 1st, 2016 12:20am
He probably feels guilty for what he has done. Cheating isn't a good thing, it really does hurt people in all kinds of people.
ZoeH
October 29th, 2016 8:29pm
He may be feeling guilty for risking his relationship with his girlfriend. Although you may be important to him, he has made a commitment to this other girl. He obviously cared about her at some point. Even if he doesn't still have feelings for her, a relationship is like a promise. A promise that he broke. Give him some space, but let him know that you support him and are there for him.
Blueteaburrito26
November 24th, 2016 1:10am
Personally, I would be suspicious. You have to be wise, he may have cheated on her with you but it is unpredictable as he could have been cheating with multiple people. Showing the willingness to cheat is a warning sign beware that he isn't doing the same to you.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2017 11:36pm
He is most probably feeling guilt and confusion due to his doing. You should probably clarify your feelings with him and see the results of it. I don't know if his girlfriend knows that he cheated on her with you but I think she should understand it, cheating is never a sign of a healthy relationship.
mumuxy
April 16th, 2017 8:56pm
He is probably ignoring you because he felt guilty and maybe he wanted to work things out with his girlfriend, but if he truly loves you then give him an ultimatum whether he stays with you or with his girlfriend
Z3rocool
September 15th, 2017 9:43am
He isn't trustworthy so, he might be cheating on you with another girl. Sit down and have a serious conversation
avanef
November 3rd, 2017 3:49am
He might have realized what he has done is not the smart and right choice. Probably doesn't want to hurt you or the other girl he cheated on and it's okay because you shouldn't be in that kind of stuff. There are more loyal people out there for you. Don't get hung up on people who will let you be the person they cheat on someone with.
Vheax
December 28th, 2017 2:10am
Perhaps you were never his priority. People who cheat typically seek for temporary satisfaction and not a lifelong partnership with the one they are philandering with. There could be many reasons as to why he is ignoring you, may it be he's busy or he's trying to refrain from repeating the same mistake toward his girlfriend, or he simply doesn't want you anymore. But all of those are just assumptions. He can be the only one who can answer this question himself. Besides, you do not want to be the other woman. Be with a man who respects you enough to not have to choose between you or someone else.
WatchingOverYou
January 4th, 2018 5:54pm
Because maybe he feels very guilty and regrets that, or is super confused and doesn't know what to do.
softSugar96
January 13th, 2018 1:53am
Maybe he felt guilty for cheating, but know it is not your fault. There could also be something else going on at home or maybe he is going through a rough patch..hang in there.
lessax207
January 24th, 2018 7:40pm
Maybe he's angry at himself for not staying loyal. It has nothing to do with you. Maybe he just needs time to think.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 4:42pm
He might be in guilt for cheating on his girlfriend maybe that's the reason he is ignoring you, you should ask him straight
Hope39
February 7th, 2018 7:22pm
maybe guilt over what he did? so sorry to hear that but he might be moving on and only wanted sex or what ever it is he got with you as a one time only thing
Anonymous
February 14th, 2018 3:03pm
Cheating on someone is not usually something more people are comfortable with. While in the heat of the moment it might seem to be the best idea, afterwards when there has been time reflection the people involved might not want to repeat the choice again. Removing all temptation from their life is typically the easiest for them.
MuddatherAbozaid
March 8th, 2018 12:20am
Most men in relationships when they cheat they start to feel low self respect for allowing themselves to follow their needs which made them cheaters.. Feel the pressure of guilt instead of the joy and excitement of starting a new relationship. So they simply run, Run from the guilt he feels whenever he's with you or with his girlfriend whom he cheated on. Simply to get to the point of his psychological balance he enjoyed before this affair "even if he didn't knew that before falling into being a cheater" he needs to lose you and go back to become a boyfriend once again.
TKPool
March 22nd, 2018 3:11am
He may feel guilty and with this feeling comes many others. His way of dealing with it is avoidance, and because you were apart of the situation that caused this feeling within him, he will be avoiding you too.
joyfulcece87
March 31st, 2018 9:14am
he probably ignoring you because he worked things out with his girlfriend or it was just a one time thing
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 4:58am
Firstly, Maybe he felt guilty after cheating for some reasons such as religious beliefs, personal morals or values, cultural norms and so on. Secondly, he might be that kind of person who like fancy girls if it is right to say or like to do sex not more than that. Thirdly, he might not have a value which is called loyalty in relationships so for him relationships are equal to friendships or doing sex is something not connected with relationships, so basically, he think of the logic that we can do sex with someone that we do not love. Fourthly, he maybe he cheated because he was curious about how it does feel to have another relationship or just sex with someone else, so he did it just to know better the value of his girlfriend. Lastly, there could be other reasons which might be not common.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2018 6:46am
He may just feel guilty for doing that, it is a horrible thing to cheat so maybe he wants to ignore his mistake. Don't put too much pressure on him, try to understand his point of view.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 3:30am
Perhaps because he feels great deal of guilt and shame or he may regret it altogether? perhaps he decided to give it a 2nd shot with his gf?
SeekApotheosis50
May 13th, 2018 3:39pm
I'm sorry he isn't being more up front with you about what's going on. Unfortunately, he is the only one who really knows the answer to that. But if I were to guess, he probably has feelings for both his girlfriend AND you, which is pretty confusing. One of the feelings he might be experiencing is guilt about cheating.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 7:53pm
Maybe, because he wants to make things right for her and him. Also, he is a jerk!
cheerfulRainbow56
June 2nd, 2018 3:16am
I Am Just A Listener, Not At Liberty to Give Advice. It's Hard Dealing With Someone Who Is Already In A Relationships, Even If He Only Did It For A Sense Of Comfort
renderix
June 4th, 2018 10:51pm
I suppose the person is feeling a bit guilty.He might also be thinking that you would be trusting him less since you know he cheated with someone else just to be with you.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 2:27pm
I see. May be you should ask him this question and see what his reasons are? There are many reasons why people do what they do.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 11:37pm
He might be ignoring you because his girlfriend found out and threatened to leave him if he didn't stop talking to you.
OneBeathAtATime
July 1st, 2018 8:06am
There are many possibilities. Could be guilt that he cheated. Could be that she found out and is now monitoring him more closely. If you really care for this person, the hardest thing to do is realize that he did something wrong by 1. Cheating 2. Ignoring his mistake by keeping you in the dark 3. Realizing you were part of a mistake. It's all hard to take in.