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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Allears247
July 25th, 2018 11:17am
Perhaps he is regretting is choice and maybe is considering being faithful to his girlfriend. Maybe he didn't take you as seriously as you thought? It could be a number of things honestly.
MARVELous695
July 27th, 2018 6:12am
He might be ignorning you because he feels guilty for cheating, and communicating with you might bring up those guilty feelings once more. He might be debating on whether or not he should tell his girlfriend or just break up with her (so that he won’t have to confront her about the issue). He’s likely just trying to work through what he did and figure out what the best outcome for everyone in the scenario would be.
IveSurvivedAndSoCanYou
July 27th, 2018 8:37am
Maybe he feels bad for doing that, he could possibly be regretting that situation and is causing him too be depressed when he talks to you because he thinks about what he’s done.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2018 1:50am
Because that is a sin and something bad and unrighteous will always end up badly as people have consciousness and they will surely think of what's good and bad and what is beneficial and acknowledging beneficial and what is not will give the idea in the mind that you should leave and ignore me
hopefulMemory96
August 2nd, 2018 4:45am
Maybe he has allot on his mind after all he cheating on his partner so He probably is feeling lots of mixed feelings.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 3:53pm
because he feels guilty of his actions and doesn't want to continue the relationship any furthere
DeaconBlues
August 11th, 2018 2:31am
More than likely, he either feels guilty about cheating on his girlfriend with you. The other reason is that he is not having contact with you is an attempt to save the relationship with his girlfriend.
AngieWillListen
August 12th, 2018 2:56pm
Sounds like he’s not a good guy if he’s willing to risk two hearts. Remove this type of negativity from your life!
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 11:05am
Is this the first time he cheated? How long did he cheat on her with you for? The answer depends on the person that he is. Was it a one time thing that he deeply regrets and is to ashamed to talk to you about, or does he make a regular thing of cheating on her and you’ve just become yesterdays news? Is being with a man that cheats on his girlfriend what you want in life?? Was you hoping he would want to be with you and breakup with her? He’s clearly a man whose relationship is in trouble and as much as it hurts, if you were the girlfriend he cheated on would you not appreciate he trying to do what is right and avoid contact with you?
CarlosSherrill
September 26th, 2018 5:38am
He shouldn’t of cheated at all. If he loved someone and someone loved him back there should of been no cheating if he’s ignoring you eh either noticed he was wrong or is trying to think things through. You deserve someone who is just all about you and not someone who doesn’t know what they want. Love is a strong word and it’s one of the most difficult things in the world. You should never ever feel as a second option and you should always be treated the best way you can, and find the right one for yourself, if they ignore you, forget them and move on.
Vivian4
September 27th, 2018 7:53pm
Because he is not interested to leave her and you are the living reminder of what he has done. It is not your fault, you can just move on on your own also. Don't worry its going to pass with time, try to not fix on him as he would be in your future. Next time when he would come just be aware that there is another person involved and perhaps not do the same thing than now. It will hurt everyone involved. Have a good evening and I wish you a quick recovery with this situation. Hope this helps
Mistyriver42
December 23rd, 2018 2:58pm
He probably feels guilty, or decided he wants to be loyal. It’s not right to cheat on someone, because if he wanted to be with you, he’d be with ONLY you. Maybe the girl found out and he wasn’t ready to leave her, so he’s ignoring you. Maybe he really just regretted it. Or maybe he’s just busy. I really can’t tell from the scenario. Either way, he cheated on his girlfriend, and if you dated him, he might cheat on you. Is that the kind of risk you’re willing to take? It’s your choice, but personally, I’d respect him ignoring you, and stay away.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2019 7:30pm
He may feel guilty and ashamed of cheating on his girlfriend and has decided that seeing or interacting with you exacerbates those feelings. It's easier to avoid someone who evokes feelings or guilt than is is to take ownership of the feelings and actions that led to the cheating. It's also possible that he was honest with his girlfriend and told her about the cheating, and now he is making an effort to stay away from you in order to avoid feelings of temptation. It may be that his girlfriend has requested that he cut contact with you so that they can come together and address the issues in their relationship that led to the cheating.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 8:31pm
Maybe he knows now that it was a failure and he loves his girlfriend more then he thought he would do. To love someone is sometimes really hard because the feelings aren't linear. They are ups and downs. To cheat on someone is shitty. But to ignore someone can really hurts. Sometimes people make decision without over thinking that it can hurts other people too. It is really hard and impossible to think for more people than for one. Yeah i sometimes to live the life you deserve is hard but to give someone the worth they deserve is for some people really impossible. I am sorry for you but it would help you the most if you would forget him.
Rebeccapersoncentred
February 8th, 2019 11:03pm
It could be any number of reasons. The most likely would be that he wants to be with his girlfriend. If he has told her then she probably doesn't want him talking to you. If he hasn't told her he may be feeling guilty or trying to keep her from finding out. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend you may never hear from him. If he wants to stay with her and cheat on her, is that someone you would want to be with? Can you trust him? You may be stressed about this and wishing he would be in touch. I understand that feels hard. I would say think of his girlfriend and how you may feel if it was you. We all deserve an honest relationship
Anonymous
May 5th, 2019 5:55am
Maybe he realized cheating on his gf was wrong. Or maybe he wasn't serious with you. But I would suggest you to ask him directly why he is doing so instead of assuming why he is ignoring you. Assuming why he is ignoring you won't give you any answers. There could be two reasons : either he made you believe that he will leave his gf and come with you or you didn't ask him anything and believed him that he would leave his gf and come to you. Whatever the reason maybe you have to right to ask him your questions. I hope this helps you. 😊 Good day.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2019 11:58pm
He probably feels sorry for what he did to his girlfriend. Maybe he feels guilty now and wants to forget about you so that he can live his life without thinking about what happened too much.
Squishy221
July 25th, 2019 2:38am
he cheated on his girlfriend with you and is now ignoring you? have you possibly considered that he might have regretted what he did and is back with his girlfriend or might be doing the same thing with another women who isn't his girlfriend or you.let me just say any man who cheats on his girlfriend probably wouldn't have a problem doing it again and isn't worth even fighting over. it would be better to end things before things get even more complicated. but remember this is your decision to make and you should be the one who knows what the next step is to finding a solution. I hope you find the answer to your question
Anonymous
August 1st, 2019 12:33pm
There could be many reasons why, but it's most likely since he realized what he's done to his girlfriend was wrong and regrets doing it and wants to change that, or he feels bad about it. I would move on, even if moving on is hard if you have genuine feelings for him, being someone's side piece is really unfair for you.
AprylFools
September 20th, 2019 3:23pm
He may be ignoring you because he's realised that what he was done is wrong and made the situation worse by bringing you into it. Avoidance of conflict is a natural human response - especially when there are things at stake. In cases like this, there is little you can do other than give him time to acknowledge the situation and his place in it as well as yours. When he has figured all this out in his own time, he may speak to you again, or he may just move on entirely. No one will really know what he intends to do other than himself, so unfortunately the only thing you can do is wait.
Joye74
November 5th, 2019 8:36pm
I personally feel that It's not okay to entertain someone who is in an exclusive relationship. That hurts everyone involved. Also, I think cheating happens between two empty people. They don't have any happiness to offer each other. All they can offer is complains and saddness from other partner. These are all my own personal observations. So if he is ignoring you, then he offered his saddness in the relationship you had. He probably may not have anything else to offer you. I feel very bad everytime someone entertains a cheater or escalates things to cheating it hurts family and many times childeren.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2020 3:07am
He could be ignoring you because he feels guilty of his actions, hurting you in the process. He did something that can be unforgivable to someone who loved him. He could either be a bad person or you are a reminder of his bad actions. Regret is a strong emotion, and so is guilt. It is not your fault that he made a bad choice, thus hurting 2 other people in the process. He could be ignoring you because he is upset at himself but you must not put yourself down because of him. Again, it is not your fault.
Anaiviv01
January 23rd, 2020 1:34pm
There are many reasons for that. He could be regretting his actions, he could be victim of a huge sense of guilt, he could be knowing that he made a mistake. Or, otherwise, he feels that something is broken with her and he's taking time to evaluate if he can build something with you. Speculation is not the best practise, because nobody can read his mind. The best thing you can do is to talk about him about your reasons. Is he ghosting you? Just move on: you deserve someone who's free and truly cares for both you and your feelings.
carefreeHeart
February 9th, 2020 7:29am
well, from my personal experience, if someone is cheating on someone with you, they may lose connection because of regret. maybe him and his girlfriend broke up, or she figured out she was being cheated on. people usually end up feeling regret when things are ended, you never miss something until you lose it. he may have realized his mistake for cheating on her. he may have found his love for her. i do not agree with cheating, so therefore i would bever let someone get into a relationship with me if they are already in one. you will most likely find someone, don't let him bring you down too much.
rachsxo
February 13th, 2020 4:54pm
This is a tough situation for anybody to be in. It's very likely that he probably just feels bad about cheating and wants to get his relationship back on track. He's probably trying to ease his guilt by severing contact with you in order to get back in his girlfriend's good graces. I know it must be confusing for you especially if this had been an ongoing thing and not just something that happened once, but he seems to be prioritizing his girlfriend at the moment which can't be easy for him given that he cheated in the first place.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2020 5:19am
Perhaps he regrets cheating on his partner, not because of a loss of feelings for you, but because of his conscience. The conflict within his heart and mind. Perhaps he realizes that yes, whilst he has feelings for you, that is not the way to go about it all.He feels wrong but doesn't know what to do. If he went out of his way to cheat on his girlfriend, it means he really likes you or love you. But, at the same time, he knows that it was wrong to cheat on that poor girl. Don't worry. Just go up and ask him yourself as to why he is ignoring you.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2020 2:42pm
It is not your fault. Maybe he is having some personal issues he needs to sort out himself. If he puts you into a negative mood or doesn’t make you feel good, don’t be afraid to say no to him because your happiness is much more important then him cheating on his On girlfriend , what you have to do is put yourself in his girlfriends shoes and wonder how she felt when she heard she was being cheated on by her boyfriend , she must’ve have been so devastated to hear that, so maybe he is feeling the guilt at the moment
Anonymous
March 25th, 2020 1:27am
He may have been deeply insecure about his initial relationship. It seems that he's processing his feelings. I want you to know its not your fault, whatever he's doing is his choice. Now this could go a multitude of ways. I think you should figure out your feelings for him, if their genuine or an adrenaline moment. That should put things into perspective for the both of you. The fact he cheated on his girlfriend gives an insight into who he is but people can change. Be open minded but figure out your stance on the situation and him as a person.
allyswift
April 15th, 2020 9:39pm
I am really sorry to hear about this, you didnt deserve to be cheated or treated like this. I assume that he may feel embarrased, ashamed, scared to face you or in the worst case scenario, i am afraid to say that that he may have moved on. Please take care of yourself. Dont let someone who hurts you or treats you worthless to have chances to upset you. Maybe, after a while he may message you or respond to you. If you are comfortable, you can always talk to me or any listener here. We would love to help you feel better.
JacoEM
April 17th, 2020 5:21pm
There could be a lot of reasons. It depends on the context of the situation. Was it only a physical thing, was it also emotional? Now, it depends also on the frequency. Was it a one time thing or was it something continuous? It is time to really pay attention to see if what he said were his intentions matches his actions. It is likely that he's ignoring you because he feels regret and does not know to deal with it. It could also be because he is confused and is unsure as to which will be the next step between you two and between his girlfriend and him. And unfortunately, sometimes the infidelities are only a one time thing and does not imply that he was looking for something else. Either way, remember to give the importance and attention to people according to what they have earned.