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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Last Updated: 05/12/2022 at 9:56am
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lessax207
January 24th, 2018 7:40pm
Maybe he's angry at himself for not staying loyal. It has nothing to do with you. Maybe he just needs time to think.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 4:42pm
He might be in guilt for cheating on his girlfriend maybe that's the reason he is ignoring you, you should ask him straight
Hope39
February 7th, 2018 7:22pm
maybe guilt over what he did? so sorry to hear that but he might be moving on and only wanted sex or what ever it is he got with you as a one time only thing
Anonymous
February 14th, 2018 3:03pm
Cheating on someone is not usually something more people are comfortable with. While in the heat of the moment it might seem to be the best idea, afterwards when there has been time reflection the people involved might not want to repeat the choice again. Removing all temptation from their life is typically the easiest for them.
MuddatherAbozaid
March 8th, 2018 12:20am
Most men in relationships when they cheat they start to feel low self respect for allowing themselves to follow their needs which made them cheaters.. Feel the pressure of guilt instead of the joy and excitement of starting a new relationship. So they simply run, Run from the guilt he feels whenever he's with you or with his girlfriend whom he cheated on. Simply to get to the point of his psychological balance he enjoyed before this affair "even if he didn't knew that before falling into being a cheater" he needs to lose you and go back to become a boyfriend once again.
TKPool
March 22nd, 2018 3:11am
He may feel guilty and with this feeling comes many others. His way of dealing with it is avoidance, and because you were apart of the situation that caused this feeling within him, he will be avoiding you too.
joyfulcece87
March 31st, 2018 9:14am
he probably ignoring you because he worked things out with his girlfriend or it was just a one time thing
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 4:58am
Firstly, Maybe he felt guilty after cheating for some reasons such as religious beliefs, personal morals or values, cultural norms and so on. Secondly, he might be that kind of person who like fancy girls if it is right to say or like to do sex not more than that. Thirdly, he might not have a value which is called loyalty in relationships so for him relationships are equal to friendships or doing sex is something not connected with relationships, so basically, he think of the logic that we can do sex with someone that we do not love. Fourthly, he maybe he cheated because he was curious about how it does feel to have another relationship or just sex with someone else, so he did it just to know better the value of his girlfriend. Lastly, there could be other reasons which might be not common.
SebaGhanem
April 19th, 2018 6:46am
He may just feel guilty for doing that, it is a horrible thing to cheat so maybe he wants to ignore his mistake. Don't put too much pressure on him, try to understand his point of view.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 3:30am
Perhaps because he feels great deal of guilt and shame or he may regret it altogether? perhaps he decided to give it a 2nd shot with his gf?
SeekApotheosis50
May 13th, 2018 3:39pm
I'm sorry he isn't being more up front with you about what's going on. Unfortunately, he is the only one who really knows the answer to that. But if I were to guess, he probably has feelings for both his girlfriend AND you, which is pretty confusing. One of the feelings he might be experiencing is guilt about cheating.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 7:53pm
Maybe, because he wants to make things right for her and him. Also, he is a jerk!
cheerfulRainbow56
June 2nd, 2018 3:16am
I Am Just A Listener, Not At Liberty to Give Advice. It's Hard Dealing With Someone Who Is Already In A Relationships, Even If He Only Did It For A Sense Of Comfort
renderix
June 4th, 2018 10:51pm
I suppose the person is feeling a bit guilty.He might also be thinking that you would be trusting him less since you know he cheated with someone else just to be with you.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 2:27pm
I see. May be you should ask him this question and see what his reasons are? There are many reasons why people do what they do.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 11:37pm
He might be ignoring you because his girlfriend found out and threatened to leave him if he didn't stop talking to you.
OneBeathAtATime
July 1st, 2018 8:06am
There are many possibilities. Could be guilt that he cheated. Could be that she found out and is now monitoring him more closely. If you really care for this person, the hardest thing to do is realize that he did something wrong by 1. Cheating 2. Ignoring his mistake by keeping you in the dark 3. Realizing you were part of a mistake. It's all hard to take in.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 11:17am
Perhaps he is regretting is choice and maybe is considering being faithful to his girlfriend. Maybe he didn't take you as seriously as you thought? It could be a number of things honestly.
MARVELous695
July 27th, 2018 6:12am
He might be ignorning you because he feels guilty for cheating, and communicating with you might bring up those guilty feelings once more. He might be debating on whether or not he should tell his girlfriend or just break up with her (so that he won’t have to confront her about the issue). He’s likely just trying to work through what he did and figure out what the best outcome for everyone in the scenario would be.
IveSurvivedAndSoCanYou
July 27th, 2018 8:37am
Maybe he feels bad for doing that, he could possibly be regretting that situation and is causing him too be depressed when he talks to you because he thinks about what he’s done.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2018 1:50am
Because that is a sin and something bad and unrighteous will always end up badly as people have consciousness and they will surely think of what's good and bad and what is beneficial and acknowledging beneficial and what is not will give the idea in the mind that you should leave and ignore me
hopefulMemory96
August 2nd, 2018 4:45am
Maybe he has allot on his mind after all he cheating on his partner so He probably is feeling lots of mixed feelings.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 3:53pm
because he feels guilty of his actions and doesn't want to continue the relationship any furthere
DeaconBlues
August 11th, 2018 2:31am
More than likely, he either feels guilty about cheating on his girlfriend with you. The other reason is that he is not having contact with you is an attempt to save the relationship with his girlfriend.
AngieWillListen
August 12th, 2018 2:56pm
Sounds like he’s not a good guy if he’s willing to risk two hearts. Remove this type of negativity from your life!
CarlosSherrill
September 26th, 2018 5:38am
He shouldn’t of cheated at all. If he loved someone and someone loved him back there should of been no cheating if he’s ignoring you eh either noticed he was wrong or is trying to think things through. You deserve someone who is just all about you and not someone who doesn’t know what they want. Love is a strong word and it’s one of the most difficult things in the world. You should never ever feel as a second option and you should always be treated the best way you can, and find the right one for yourself, if they ignore you, forget them and move on.
Vivian4
September 27th, 2018 7:53pm
Because he is not interested to leave her and you are the living reminder of what he has done. It is not your fault, you can just move on on your own also. Don't worry its going to pass with time, try to not fix on him as he would be in your future. Next time when he would come just be aware that there is another person involved and perhaps not do the same thing than now. It will hurt everyone involved. Have a good evening and I wish you a quick recovery with this situation. Hope this helps
Mistyriver42
December 23rd, 2018 2:58pm
He probably feels guilty, or decided he wants to be loyal. It’s not right to cheat on someone, because if he wanted to be with you, he’d be with ONLY you. Maybe the girl found out and he wasn’t ready to leave her, so he’s ignoring you. Maybe he really just regretted it. Or maybe he’s just busy. I really can’t tell from the scenario. Either way, he cheated on his girlfriend, and if you dated him, he might cheat on you. Is that the kind of risk you’re willing to take? It’s your choice, but personally, I’d respect him ignoring you, and stay away.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2019 7:30pm
He may feel guilty and ashamed of cheating on his girlfriend and has decided that seeing or interacting with you exacerbates those feelings. It's easier to avoid someone who evokes feelings or guilt than is is to take ownership of the feelings and actions that led to the cheating. It's also possible that he was honest with his girlfriend and told her about the cheating, and now he is making an effort to stay away from you in order to avoid feelings of temptation. It may be that his girlfriend has requested that he cut contact with you so that they can come together and address the issues in their relationship that led to the cheating.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2019 5:55am
Maybe he realized cheating on his gf was wrong. Or maybe he wasn't serious with you. But I would suggest you to ask him directly why he is doing so instead of assuming why he is ignoring you. Assuming why he is ignoring you won't give you any answers. There could be two reasons : either he made you believe that he will leave his gf and come with you or you didn't ask him anything and believed him that he would leave his gf and come to you. Whatever the reason maybe you have to right to ask him your questions. I hope this helps you. 😊 Good day.