How can he just go on with his life after 20 years together like I never mattered to him?

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Last Updated: 05/14/2018 at 9:19pm
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Top Rated Answers
interestingLove66
May 15th, 2015 11:29pm
people change, sad truth but they do sometimes for the worse....and most of the times it is inexplainable.However it is best for us to accept this and move on.
lovelyLynx18
June 21st, 2015 11:34pm
Guys have a different way of moving on than girls. They can pretend like it never happened. But they just put on a mask. They hide their feelings unlike girls who show their feelings.
musicalDew34
November 11th, 2015 6:13pm
Oh well you should do the same....wats gone is gone..never accept them back.. guess he never deserved you...
SMStar
July 11th, 2016 3:23am
He'll be somewhere happy with another person but time will catch up wit him too. I should know, both of my grandpas left my grandmothers for their mistresses and already had a 2nd family. Right now I don't see or talk to them much, my granny on mom side got abused and never married again.... Please do not let one man control the rest of your life.
odetopie20
November 21st, 2015 5:01pm
Ouch! I know that would hurt, but I'm sure you're strong and time will heal your heart in the future. I've seen a few people go through this and therapy really helped them. This big change was scary but at the same time they got to find themselves and focus on the future. I'm not sure why some guys do that, it's a surprise and just wrong. He'll be somewhere happy with another person but time will catch up wit him too. I should know, both of my grandpas left my grandmothers for their mistresses and already had a 2nd family. Right now I don't see or talk to them much, my granny on mom side got abused and never married again.... Please do not let one man control the rest of your life. Get support from people who love you. *gives hug*
kindheartedamy
February 9th, 2016 3:34am
Men never like to show how they truly feel, they feel weak if they show any kind of emotion. We girls shouldn't take it personally.
Greatlistener87
May 16th, 2016 2:04am
People deal with different things differently. Some people deal with things but just moving forward and leting go and some hold on.
allnaturalUnicorns70
September 27th, 2016 2:39pm
Everyone deals with the end of a relationship differently. One person can't know how another feels inside, even if it seems like he's perfectly ok. The important thing is to focus on your own ability to grow and move on. I hope you find peace!
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 7:03pm
I understand that you are feeling upset. I am so sorry that you have to go through that. Things will get better.
MrDoctorMan
May 14th, 2018 9:19pm
Maybe he was able to move on because he realized you would both be better off not in the relationship and he had enough time to come to terms with that before breaking things off, now it sounds like you are in need of time to cope and deal with it in your own unique way